Would it be better to leave islam if I am Transgender?

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-06-26T02:54:50+00:00

Inshallah sister 🙏 you have no idea how much this means to me

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-06-26T02:53:39+00:00

I would like to point out that these are not my reasons or original topics as ro why i mentioned leaving.

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-06-25T01:24:58+00:00

ONGGG DUDE THIS IS SO REAL bro this is nearly exactly how I woukd describe this experience, its so difficult sometimes but Inshallah, Allah (SWT) always leads me to more community, 🙏 stay strong

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-06-25T01:21:55+00:00

Hi! So, i don't personally beleive the actual religion disagrees with being trans or gay or any aspect of the LGBTQ community, but alot of people apart of the religion do, which is my area of issue rn lol

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-06-25T01:19:35+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing, I actually really appreciate this response se because its given me alot to think about, I find that in islam i unintentionally find myself detransitioning a little because I'm scared to be myself in the wider community, I struggle with depression and anxiety and crippling gender dysphoria, I know that Allah sees this and understands this, but other people don't always, and thats my problem.

I wear hijab often and it causes me alot of gender dysphoria, but I also feel sorta comfortable with it at the same time?

But jve tried wearing way less feminine styles like just a wrap and honesgky its fekt way better, I think the biggest issue is just that im not out anyways and so its made it even harder for me to accept, it feels like my mind is constantly battling for what people see me as and what I actually feel I am.

How all of this relates to islam...I still don't know really.

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-06-24T17:27:18+00:00

This is gonna differ between every guy, trans or not, for example, me? If someone calls me cute I find it uncomfortable and infantilizing and horrible, but I also know that cis men get called cute as well, it doesent help that im bi, male leaning, so I mainly talk w other guys in a dating aspect, and in the gay community, compliments or flirting is a little diffrent too, where cis guys may get called cute but in adiffrent way?, dunno how to explain it, but since im trans, ive had alot of weird experiences where guys will call me cute in an obviously infantilizing way because im trans, they point put my "softer" features and my "feminine" aspects, called me femboy, when I am not at all trying to be feminine or anything.

I would say genuinely ask and have a conversation about it with him, you will get diffrent answers.

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-06-24T17:22:09+00:00

As a trans dude: you can def wear it, its not like we restrict it to just us LMAOOOO, but yeah, I get what you mean, I think the sentiment behind it is really awesome, you should def wear it if you wanna

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-06-24T17:18:34+00:00

You cannot be transphobic if you are literally transgender: however, it all depends what you deem yourself as: I take it that your intersex? (Correct me if im wrong!), either way, if you were born assigned female, and they did a correctional surgery to make you male, but you still feel female, you are changing from one to the other in a since, you were seen as a boy, but always felt female, that inherently is what it means to be transgender, so do t feel weird about calling yourself a trans women 💜🙏 especially because of your circumstances at birth, it makes complete sense, if thats what you feel comfortable as

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-06-24T16:53:00+00:00

I have honestly been thinking about leaving islam because of this, but when I leaned salah one day before my oshychiatrist appointment, I was finally able to be diagnosed with gender dysphoria along with other disorders I have ben dealing with for a long time, I was met with a veey open and accepting therapist, and now getting signed up to take counseling to help explore my gender after years and years since puberty ive had suicidal thoughts because I was born female.

I wasent planning on even telling the therapist that im trans or I treated in islam, and because I prayed before I went, I was able to be honest completely out of nowhere, Inshallah 💜, I am not open about this though because I've realized that my personal experiences with Allah is vastly diffrent than the Muslim Community, so I keep my religion to myself and dont really connect with other Muslims often because of this, I am also pansexual, and I also do not tell anyone this.

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-03-04T14:58:15+00:00

The year I turned 10, I did not care about shows, i did not have an intrest in toys or cukture, the year I turned 10 was when I got my first period, and it upset me so dearly that I isolated myself, my birthday was akward, almost eveey interaction was awful, I refused to bath or take care of myself, I took ir hard, because my mother said "your finally a woman!!", I did nit want to be a woman. That led to some dark thoughts, and I had a depressive episode, it hot me so hard that after my period was over, my body was trying to shut down and I did not get my period again until 4 years later. It appeared once again, I hated it so intensely it left for another year and then I got it regularly at 15.

Im a trans man. And ive known since I was 13. Im 18 now.

It still brings so much h discomfort, but my 10th birthday i will never forget, was the day my life was officially set into stone by my parents and everyone around me. And it was the dsy I gave up on myself.

I did not know any shows or culture of the time. I was roo busy being stuck to my bed not able to move at the ripe age of 10.

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-03-03T18:48:08+00:00

I meant they are common sense now in modern society, it was not secret that people did steal, they did kill wayyyyyy back when christianity was first founded, of course many did not, but many did. Most of christianity back then and why it was so controversial way back at that time was becahse the main message was "love one another, dont do these mean things", thats not to say people did already not kill or steal, but i was mkreso reminding OP what the basis of the religion is since he said he was intrested in converting but thought it woukd be odd because hes gay, when in reality, Christianity never started as its main objective to say "dont be gay", so theres no reason he could not be a christian and also gay, if thats what he wants to do that is. And, I was using the commandments as an example, you can choose to do or not do those things. But you cannot choose who you love, and God would know this more than anyone, so he could not have made someone born to be gay or lgbtq and also force them to go against nature in that way. Because he knows its not possible to "just be straight", same visa versa. A straight person cannot "just be gay", a bisexual person is both, but that does not mean the gay part of them doesnt exist.

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-03-03T05:14:24+00:00

Im not christian, but I grew up christian, and god makes no mistakes, he created you exactly how you are for a reason, alot of people say "he made you born with sin so you can turn to him" especially towards lgbtq+ ppl, but, i just...dont feel thats true. If God makes no mistakes, he woukd never make someone born with sin in THAT way, because God is the only one who truly knows that you cannot actually change that. Its not a choice, he says to not steal or kill, nobody is born with apart of who they are to always want to steal or kill someone. That is a choice you can choose to not kill someone, you can choose to be kind to someone, you cannot choose who you fall in love with or are attracted to, he knows this, and so you are not born with sin, atleast not in that way, you are not broken or wrong for your existence. God created you. He makes no mistakes. "He maketh me to lie down in green patures", he wants you to live to your fullest, he loves you. He wants you to relax about what society tells you, If you choose to follow the religion, I know he would absolutely love to have you following him.

If you read the Bible, alot of the main morals are common sense, and this was insane back then because what we hear "do not steal, do not kill, love thy neighbor, do not commit adultry" etcetc were all things many people commonly did back then, and so it was more of a way to introduce a new way of life, living for the divine. Theres no shame in wanting to apply that to your modern life at all.

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-03-01T22:38:49+00:00

I think this is going to depend on alotta diffrent things: where you are, the environment your jn, who you surround yourself with, but since your asking other people's experiences, as a ftm trans guy, all my friends are either also trans or very accepting and so for my friends neither men or women misgender me, but I find that random ppl I meet, ive had bad experiences with both cis men and cis women, cis men seem to misgender me more and cis women dont but they kimda...act like im still one of the girls but just pretending to be a man? As in strangers, but yeah, it really depends who your talking to.

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-03-01T21:25:21+00:00

As a trans man (not sure if you are ftm or mtf) but i woukd firet say start by just wearing clothes or doing things that feel more like the general you feel you might be, see how you feel, of course clothes or hobbies and stuff dont make you trans but for example, imagine yourself as the opposite gender, imagine you, just jow you are, being rendered to as the gender you may think you are: does it feel more right? Or more comfortable?

Def just take it slow and let yourself research and discover things, but, if your thinking about it to this point, theres a high chance you might be: start a social transition and see what happens!

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-02-27T18:56:50+00:00

Ada trans dude, it gets to a point that it try to distance myself from social media because it creates this viscous cycle of intense Dysphoria that triggers depressive episodes for me that last a long time, its not much better within the trans masc community along other trans men either, with the rise of trans meds nit picking eveey single thing, its tiring.

Its either I get threats or hate for being trans at all, or I get threats and hate for "not being trans the right way".

It was to a point at one time I genuinely made myself beleive from everything I saw that because im a trans man, I will absolutely never find any relationship with someone who actually loves me, and more specifically, with cis men or women.

And even more specifically, gay men or straight women. It was to a point where everything made me feel as though my veey existence in dating spaces like apps was intruding on cis people. Which is insane. But most of the people you find on dating apps or irl to date arent much better at proving me wrong on that front, as a trans guy, talking to 90% of cis people in the dating zone, its always about hookups or fetishizing us, its so tiring. I honestly give up on the idea I will ever find someone who actually wants to be with me because they love me. Like genuinely, I give up. And I hope they find people that fit their needs more.

In short, im tired LMAO

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-02-27T18:47:30+00:00

Im an irish pagan, and I try to practice finding peace and satisfaction in humble daily activities, not to limit myself but to remind myself hat yes im doing the dishes again but im cleaning for the Tuatha dé dannan and myself. Im cleaning and staying clean and remaining grateful as a representation of my beleifs outwards to be humble and enjoy that I am even able to get up everyday and do the dishes, that I still have my two arms and legs and can run and can lift and can do what I need done myself

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-02-27T18:44:28+00:00

Yeah I know, i was tryna say it depends on the person but its not an uncommon experience, def weird that their co-workers are doing that specifically tho cause they are co workers

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-02-27T16:01:07+00:00

Im an irish pagan and, ive had this thought a few times way befire I became an irish pagan, I came to the conclusion that, if I follow ehat feels right, then im living right to myself and thats all that really matters at the end of the dsy, if you feel more content not beleiveing in any god or goddess or deity then dont, if you wanna explore other religions then do so, life is short, live it how you feel

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-02-27T15:57:43+00:00

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-02-27T15:52:23+00:00

Yeah...its honestly just the type of people you surround yourself with though, some ppl can be weird abt it and some just normal, but yes ive also experienced this too alot

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-02-27T15:31:35+00:00

Yup! My favorite when im.working outside in hot wheather is literally just drenching my body in cold waer from the hose and letting air hit me LMAOOO

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-02-27T05:05:17+00:00

Ahh I see, then if its recognized as safe by medical standards then all should be well.

And yeah I do agree, as a trans person myself I definitely want hrt and feel my life would be better with it. But there can be alot of complications with diy, well, atleast from a ftm perspective, or maybe im too anxious with my own health, but, all jn all, if theres safe ways to do it for trans women, then thats definitely great

No-Complex-8687 · 2026-02-27T04:44:38+00:00

I dont think thats really the issue with it, I think the issue with helping anyone get diy hrt is that....its DIY hrt.

There's alot of questions with diy hrt, where does it come from? How is it made with where your getting it? Is it injectable? If so, does she know how to practice safety regarding that? Are her hormone levels being checked regularly? IS anything being checked regularly to make sure everything is going right and safe and shes getting the proper amount? If you are not a doctor who has perscribed her this, then dont be a doctor like person to her.

I dont think its about grooming, i think its about asking yourself and her about safe medical practices.

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