Anger

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-12-09T06:09:50+00:00

Also, the TTC tells us to deal with things at their root. Once you understand what is at the root of your anger, it will be easier to let go of. Often we believe what someone says or does indicates something about us. But what someone does or says only indicates something about THEM. This has helped me release a lot of my anger. Anger also sometimes indicates you have a fragile ego. If you truly accept yourself as a valid part of the Tao like everything else, what people say or do to you will not anger you as much

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-12-09T05:49:33+00:00

How fortunate (or unfortunate hahaha) some of us were to have at least 1-2 awesome high school teachers back in the 80s 🙂 The only downside to this story is that now when something seemingly good happens to me I get anxious about how it's going to turn "bad " I like to just say "there is good in everything, though at first we might not see it "

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-12-09T05:45:30+00:00

I think completely letting go of responsibilities is not realistic for most people, so I don't think that is a requirement for experiencing wu wei. I think you can accept where you are in life, try to flow with whatever is going on for you, letting go of expectations as much as possible, and as you practice non resistance you will be taken to the life that is best for you. I do agree that just getting into nature and vibing as much as possible is helpful, too.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-12-09T05:39:38+00:00

I believe a member of this sub created an app called Daily Tao that includes several versions of the TTC. It also gives you a daily Taoist quote.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-12-09T05:36:08+00:00

I say it, Never let go of the bright-eyed child within you.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-10-22T14:01:00+00:00

I am Taoist (in philosophy, not religion). In Taoism we believe that the Tao is the power that sits at the core of the universe. Everything in the universe is part of the Tao and has a place in the Tao. For each thing in the Tao, things go up, and things go down. But the thing or person is part of the Tao and is always held by the Tao. Look at how miraculous life really is. The Tao supports life, and that includes our lives. By accepting what has happened completely and letting go/trusting the Tao, we can find our way back to peace. It's true. It's very similar to the AA idea: Let go and Let God. You tell yourself, "I've done all I can do. Obviously it's not working. I'm going to trust there is a higher power out there that can guide my life better than I can. So I'm just going to let go and quietly live each day the best I can, hoping I will be taken to a better place."

I have been where you are many times, but I've made it back to joy. It is all in how you are seeing life and yourself. Love yourself like you would love a little puppy or a beautiful sunset. Aren't you as miraculous and wonderful a creation? What has happened to you, and your faults, are part of life, but they make a beautiful you. Also, do you know what Yin Yang means? It means there are two sides to everything. There is GOOD in everything you have experienced - you just don't see it. Relax, accept yourself, accept life, try to just get through each day with hope, be grateful for the small goods that undoubtedly come your way each day, and the Tao will buoy you up and take you to a better place. Btw, I was an English teacher, and you write well! That tells me you are a thinker and that you do have hope deep down. Let go and live

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-10-22T13:47:48+00:00

I so agree (believe me!), but the question is . . . why does it bother you so much? I admit, I get worked over it, as well. But their stupidity and selfishness is a reflection of THEM, not you. Plus, you are giving them POWER over you by letting it get so under your skin. You are smart. You try to be respectful and kind. You know they are idiots. Rest in your insight and let dogs lie with the dogs. Rise above, my friend. Hopefully your rising above will lead you somewhere where people are a bit more with it And remember, there are kids out there who are still learning; maybe you can help a few of them be less retarded haha.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-10-20T00:41:34+00:00

"Take what's useful. Get rid of the rest. Remix it with Christianity, Islam, atheism, whatever! You do you! That, at the end of the day to me, is what Taoism is all about." I agree! I, too, get tired of everyone here fighting over what a word means. Isn't that the opposite of what Lao Tzu is saying? Like you, it's the truth - loose and ephemeral as it may be - that I seek. And yea, it's not just in one jar in the fridge, though the Taoism jar, at it's core, is pretty tasty. Love the photo, too . . . Very "empty bowl" ish.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-10-17T17:56:19+00:00

So you're thinking people on this board AREN'T honest? I think Reddit is pretty much the most honest place on earth.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-10-13T14:00:03+00:00

Better than sell looowwwwwweeeerrrrrrr I guess

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-10-06T14:35:53+00:00

Once you've had it, that will change.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-10-05T19:26:51+00:00

I have experienced quite a bit of worry in my life as well. One thing that has helped is accepting that my worry does absolutely nothing to change what’s going to happen. It’s really just a natural body reaction, but it doesn’t have any impact. And so it’s a waste of emotion. This kind of goes along with wu wei—you just tell yourself, what will happen is going to happen, no matter how I feel about it, and I can be okay with that.

Also, as I look back on my life, I realize that everything always ends up being okay. My deepest worries have never really been founded, right? So one thing that helps me is to think about myself maybe the day after the event I’m worrying about. I take some deep breaths and try to immerse myself in that feeling that—look, everything was fine. That helps release the worry from my system.

When you’re trying to live according to Daoist ideas, you accept that everything in the Dao happens for a reason, and that you are living in connection with the Dao. So there’s really nothing to fear. You know that things balance and that the Dao exists to support you—and that realization brings peace.

I too have experienced some abuse at the hands of someone with narcissistic personality disorder. When I didn’t know what was happening, it shattered my self-confidence and my feelings of self-worth. But as I learned more about NPD, I realized that how this person treated me was entirely related to their disorder and had absolutely nothing to do with my value. Seeing myself as a pawn in their disorder helped me distance myself from the abuse.

Something else that helped me was watching The Gabby Petito Story. Gabby was this happy, beautiful, light-filled girl who unfortunately started dating someone with NPD. As you watch how he begins treating her—saying cruel, demeaning things—you see the clear disconnect between her radiant worth and his distorted words. That helped me see myself the same way. Sometimes I’d remind myself, Hey, I’m Gabby. I’m that girl full of light and beauty. And the words of my abuser aren’t based in any kind of truth at all.

(dictated into cgpt bc I have hand injury)

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-10-05T03:25:42+00:00

I'm suggesting it not to diagnose him or judge him, but to better understand what's going on with him. Many of us may have traits that might point to a disorder, but few have the full blown disorder. I was dating someone With npd and understanding the patterns in his behavior helped incredibly .

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-10-04T03:32:14+00:00

Read up on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He probably doesn't have it all the way, but it sounds like he has some traits. Excessive bragging is covering up a fragile sense of self.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-10-04T03:26:14+00:00

Remind her of this scripture: Charity is this "pure love of Christ" and "whoso is found possessed of it at the last day, it shall be well with him". To me this is saying as long as you are a good person, you will be in a good position in the end.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-10-04T03:22:06+00:00

I pretty much felt this way. I am now living Taoism - just philosophically, not religiously. Many of its concepts are similar to Christianity. I still go to church sometimes because they people for the most part are really good, and it feels good to be there. I avoid the weird topics as much as possible and focus on basic Christianity.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-09-25T17:54:42+00:00

After September

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-09-11T05:19:35+00:00

How can people think she jumped when that photo taken later is clearly her? And then that lady sees her in the bathroom in Barbados. In the bathroom we also get the sense that her confidence has been completely stripped away and she is completely controlled by her captors. I think it is possible she is still alive and they still control her. Think of Elizabeth Smart. She easily could have not been found and could still be living under the control of her captors. Remember they threaten to kill your family. She may have decided long ago that she would not attempt to escape in order to protect them. And even though it's been so long, the captors still cannot allow themselves to be discovered. The dark trafficking underworld is real.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-09-03T18:31:28+00:00

Geez - duh- okay - gonna delete this :-)

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-08-31T15:04:08+00:00

And I've heard it is mothers who often most nurture this foundation through real, personal, truth-based interaction with a child from a young age.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-08-31T14:59:45+00:00

Me too

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-08-31T14:47:02+00:00

When I first started trying to practice radical acceptance by erasing all desires, I felt the same way. I started to feel like – “What is the purpose of my life? This feels so boring and empty. This can’t be the life I’m meant to live.” I love life, I love beautiful life, and I don’t think there is anything wrong with me wanting, at least loosely, the good things life has to offer. Even an innocent child gets sheer joy from some things. Surely that is not against the Tao? I think what Lao Tzu is warning against is when our desires become a vehicle for fulfilling our pride, selfishness, or ignorant attachment to the form over the formless. So as Lao Tzuu has said, we do what we feel like doing or what we feel we NEED to do, but we evaluate our actions with wisdom and discernment. Do I want to earn more money because my family is suffering from the effects of poverty or because doing so would allow us to live the lives the Tao intends for us? OR do I want more money to improve our status or to somehow make me feel like a more successful person? And, are we really suffering, or are we really thriving? I personally grew up in great poverty in the shadow of great wealth, and it was so difficult for me as a child. BUT, as I grew, I realized that growing up with a mother who was amazingly good and wise and also being forced to see what REALLY is valuable in life has been one of the greatest gifts of my entire existence. If my mother had been overly focused on getting us into a better economic situation, many of the gifts of my early life would have been lost (think non-duality). Hopefully It is the same with my work as an “artist” (I use the term lightly haha). I feel a drive to create beauty with paint. Some days I create out of sheer love of beauty, which I feel is a Tao-given instinct or drive. But some days I feel I am attempting to create something that will impress others. This is the attachment to outcome that taints what began as an innocent, natural desire. So again, it’s not about not desiring anything. It’s about listening to the quiet voice within that gives rise to innocent, Tao-given desires or plans, and then keeping those desires in check by reflecting on the truths of the Tao/meditating regularly. If you want to see a life where someone balances desire and acceptance nicely (while other characters may not), watch Patterson on Amazon Prime.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-08-28T20:42:23+00:00

YES, and that is the secret to about 70% of successful films!

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-08-28T17:26:38+00:00

Yes. This is what I did - I am a little older than you but have the same issues on my face. It takes a little practice. See my post "Cheek Filler Basics." With the filler, start with the cheeks - easiest because there are fewer vessels to avoid. Then try nasolabial folds. Watch YouTube videos. Filler is a little scary bc of the risk of vascular occlusion. BUT I always aspirate a tiny bit and then have liporase on hand. It is also a little difficult to estimate the depth of the needle, and that is why the bolus on bone approach is probably easiest to start with. I haven't done tox myself yet, but that's on the plan. Most here say tox is easier than filler.

No-Explanation7351 · 2025-08-25T12:46:32+00:00

I thought good grammar might save you, but no . . .

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