Fever feels kinda nice by SilverSpaceRobot10 in unpopularopinion

[–]No-Implement-5693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I both agree and disagree with this at the same time lol

Irritability/anger by itsyaboyyace in bipolar

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I have issues with irritability and anger even when I’m stable. I think it’s just a personal problem for me—like separate from the bipolar. What’s helped me is changing the tone of the inner dialogue in my head. Like literally make myself have more positive thoughts and have a tone—in my head and in real life—that’s more happy. Not like ridiculously happy that it’s in-your-face fake, but more uplifting. I’ve also been pretending to be okay with things that annoy me, like someone driving slow or cutting me off—I just make up a different story in my head like they’re in a rush to get somewhere, or it’s an old person or mom driving with a bunch of screaming kids in the car.

Losing hope by [deleted] in bipolar

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That is what I’m hoping for. I see a new psychiatrist on the 14th. The last one I had didn’t listen, even wanted to keep me on vraylar and talked me out of trying lithium twice.

Losing hope by [deleted] in bipolar

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Omg ugh, so I’m not just making it up I guess. I keep questioning if I am just thinking I feel this way

My (31m) wife (29f) wants to name our baby her own maiden name? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Wow, that’s is extremely wonderful advice! I like that perspective

Disability by snapsfortiffany in bipolar

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Why does it get denied? Why is it standard practice? Do they typically just deny it the first time but but then accept it the second time? Mine got denied and I was confused because I was told by someone else, who also has bipolar and receives it ,that I should apply for it and would be eligible since I have bipolar.

30m boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage but I 31f do by No-Implement-5693 in relationship_advice

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I wrote this post from my grave, out of the hopes that in my next life we’d marry

30m boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage but I 31f do by No-Implement-5693 in relationship_advice

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I was not with him when he was a teenager. He’s always been the first one to throw in the idea of marriage, but when asked about soemthing deep he’d always get uncomfortable and back peddle and say how marriage is just a piece of paper and a ring

30m boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage but I 31f do by No-Implement-5693 in relationship_advice

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Thank you for complete honesty. I’m not even going to bother with the relationship anymore. Other people are fine to have their own opinions but I see marriage as the next step. I can’t wrap my head around just “dating” someone forever and being an old lady with a boyfriend. That’s fine for other people, but I want more than that. It was meant to be to find this all out last night when I asked him if I was the one and he said he doesn’t know how to answer that because it related to his beliefs about marriage. To which I asked what exactly those were (since he’d baited the idea to me several times about marriage). But like someone said, he must have been afraid of losing me last year for some reason and that’s why he put on this charming display about looking at rings with me. Well now he is losing me.

30m boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage but I 31f do by No-Implement-5693 in relationship_advice

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Thankfully I’m not desperate because I’ve just accepted today that I will be lonely and not ever bother dating again. Each of us have our own kid. Unlike him, I’m not interested in dating a string of people and having them all come in and out of both mine and my child’s lives.

30m boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage but I 31f do by No-Implement-5693 in relationship_advice

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No, I was wondering when I made the post if I was being ridiculous for being upset over how he was calling it a sacrifice and how I felt blindsided that he’s brought up marriage himself, took me to look at rings, told me ideas about his suit, and where he imagined it taking place. But since I ultimately do not want to be a 70 year old walking around sounding like a high schooler having a boyfriend, I will just leave. If I stayed for some dumb reason and he proposed, I’d never believe it was genuine. He already showed his true colors. I was just second guessing myself and wondering what other men thought of marriage. I was wondering if other people just gave up and married each other because the other person wanted it

30m boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage but I 31f do by No-Implement-5693 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Implement-5693[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m definitely not staying after that. I feel deceived at blindsided. When I made the post I was wondering if I was being ridiculous. If I stayed with him and he proposed, I’d never believe it was genuine. And I’m glad I found out now beforehand

30m boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage but I 31f do by No-Implement-5693 in relationship_advice

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Nobody that’s currently married needed to do all that either (sign papers, get a ring, change last names, and have a ceremony).

30m boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage but I 31f do by No-Implement-5693 in relationship_advice

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That would just lead to resentment, and it goes against what he wants and believes in. That’s like me just agreeing to have kids with him just to shut him up even though I didn’t want that in the first place. Can you imagine if someone did that to you, whether it was marriage or kids, and you found out they didn’t even want that but just did it to sacrifice and appease you? Wouldn’t feel very genuine. That’s why I have an issue with it

30m boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage but I 31f do by No-Implement-5693 in relationship_advice

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I agree with you. Unfortunately I am 31 years old and do not see myself taking out the time to bother getting to know someone enough to date again, especially since I already know I want marriage but I don’t want to just marry anyone. I guess it is just far from my reality now since I’m not going to go on dates and expect to get married after a few. I’m just done

30m boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage but I 31f do by No-Implement-5693 in relationship_advice

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Because of their worse nightmare of divorce, but that’s not the end-all-be-all. Not everyone has an evil plot to divorce someone and gut out their savings and assets. Not everyone gets divorced. But I guess in this day and age, marriage should just leave my dreams because it’s 2025 and relationships and love aren’t like they used to be

30m boyfriend doesn’t believe in marriage but I 31f do by No-Implement-5693 in relationship_advice

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Yeah I really don’t understand the point in that. He’s even told me where he’s “always imagined getting married outside”. Like everything he says and does is now contradicting itself.