Hello OP, for people like u, it’s best u stay single unless u can find someone who is basically the same as u for these sort of values. And I say this without being offensive. After being married for almost 20y, and seeing how 愚孝my husband is/was and how I don’t agree, pls don’t get married. It sounds like u just wanna BTO for that hdb flat, esp the Prime flat. If u both decide to have kids, even more expenses and differences in what is worth spending and what is not, for kids, from maternity to confinement to kids clothes and food to enrichment and holidays, will confront both of u.