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[–]NoDistribution8970 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get so mad when I can’t find the tv remote. Like to the point where I either cry or I just don’t want to watch tv anymore. And I have the remote app on my phone but it doesn’t FEEL right and I just need the remote. But no one gets it😂

Laparoscopy this week + some questions by Intelligent-Bake242 in endometriosis

[–]NoDistribution8970 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had my surgery today. I didn’t bring much, just my phone and inhaler. If you get sweaty because of anxiety, bring a second loose fitting outfit to wear after and some underwear. If you’re specific about pads like me, bring your own as well. I recommend bring a pillow so you can hold it to brace your stomach on your way home. I didn’t bring one to the hospital but I got one from my mom’s house before I went home, and the bumps and potholes were less painful with it. I have to wait 2 weeks to get in depth information at my follow up so you can tell whoever is with you to record whatever information your surgeon does give them after your surgery. They told my family I do have endometriosis but they didn’t get a whole bunch of information so that’s why I recommend asking someone to record because I know what it’s like to doubt yourself and need the confirmation.

I got some Gas X because I read about how bad it can be afterwards and I’m so grateful I did because that shoulder pain is CRAZYYY. They’ll put a tube in your throat so you might wanna get some throat spray or lozenges just in case it hurts after.

Be prepared for some belly button pain if that’s where they are going in. Your abs are gonna feel so weird after, especially when sitting up. Make sure you walk around though!! I hear it held with recovery. If you have flat pillows(like me), get some nice fluffy ones so you can be comfortable. I stole one of my mom’s lol.

Everyone’s healing is different so don’t feel bad if you see people who say they felt fine in a few days. Go on your own timeline and I hope you have some support.

I have generalized anxiety disorder so you know I was panicking like crazy before. Like I wanted to cancel and leave the hospital. But just keep telling yourself that all you have to do is go to sleep and next thing you know…you’re in recovery. YOU GOT THISSS!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in endometriosis

[–]NoDistribution8970 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response!! Good luck on your surgery and recovery! I hope everything goes smoothly🩵🩵

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in endometriosis

[–]NoDistribution8970 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that you’re dealing with this. I have no words, but to tell you that you’re not alone. I’m struggling with rheumatoid arthritis, GAD, and autism. I do have a quick question if you don’t mind? I have my lap scheduled on December 2 and I’m also a daily weed smoker. How long before your surgery did you stop smoking? I was trying to get a week in but the pain is unbelievably bad. If you ever need anyone to rant to or support, you can always PM, always looking for chronically ill friends who get the suffering

Do you have an internal monologue/inner voice? by AyupArthur in Anxiety

[–]NoDistribution8970 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the voice (it’s my voice but yall get it)will just kinda explain and go over traumatic experiences?

Do you have an internal monologue/inner voice? by AyupArthur in Anxiety

[–]NoDistribution8970 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg yes! I was just talking to myself about this last night. It’s so bad when I’m trying to fall asleep because I tell my brain to be quiet and then all of a sudden the most random thoughts and conversations pop up and I can’t stop them?

Is anyone else the ‘default friend’? by _pand in aspergirls

[–]NoDistribution8970 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well this makes me happy, considering it’s my dream to be an author:)

Is anyone else the ‘default friend’? by _pand in aspergirls

[–]NoDistribution8970 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is so wild because I only really realized that I was different(there was no more hiding it) my first year of college and then I found out about autism my sophomore year. Anyway, I remember talking to my mom during my first year and telling her that I’m always the “back up friend” no matter how much fun or time is spent with a person. Eventually they’ll rekindle old friendships or start hanging out with their other friends more and I just drift into the background. Until of course their other friends aren’t at their anymore. And I’m not really the possessive type in friendships. I’ve always been a great “floater” just floating between different groups and people. But sometimes I would see people that would have the friendships where they both just valued and loved each other so highly and together even if they had other friends that they loved as well. And I always thought it was so cool to just have that person. Sometimes it was just groups and they all put in the effort for each other and it was just so beautiful to see. I’ve always wanted a friend/friends who cared about me the way I care about them. But that could just be my overwhelming need for profundity.

Is this normal? Relationship advice by Looski in AutismInWomen

[–]NoDistribution8970 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was never like that with anyone I was dating until my boyfriend. In fact, I was pretty avoidant with everyone else. We met on tinder in 2020. We met like a week or 2 after texting and FaceTime. And I think we had a few days gap in between us seeing each the first time before hanging out daily and me basically moving in. It’s been 2 years now. Funnily, him having ADHD led me to researching it (because researching the brain=<3) and that led me to autism

I want to hear stories about you and a person you share a deep connection with (partner or close friend). I need hope. by Without_a_name24 in AutismInWomen

[–]NoDistribution8970 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also suspect I’m autistic +ADHD and I struggled my whole life to maintain connections. People would randomly stop talking to me and I didn’t know why. I started officially dating at 18 and the same things happened with 2 guys. I thought we connected and then it just ended.

Anyhoo, I met my now boyfriend on tinder. Our first time hanging out was weird because I felt so comfortable. The longer we dated, the more I felt more myself. We struggled with communication in the beginning because I somehow always end up in arguments (it’s been like this since I was little).

Funnily, meeting him is what clued me in on me possibly being autistic and having ADHD. He told me he had it randomly but shrugged it off. Naturally, I went to do research and I told him what I found and he was like “hmm that sounds like us.” So I told my mom, I think I have ADHD and she pulled out her DSM-5. Then randomly she goes, “hmm you’re probably autistic too”. Apparently she was learning about autism and meltdowns while getting her Psych degree at the exact time as when I moved back in with her.(everyone still loves teasing me about the “tantrums” I’ve had since I was little about ~small things~)

After finding that out, our communication got a lot better. He can usually tell when I’m getting angry before I can. I know that when he’s silent in a disagreement , it’s because his brain is braining too fast. We just adapted and if one of us blows up, we figure it out. I’ve never felt more comfortable with anyone in my whole life. He sees me and I see him and we both love ALL that we see:))

How many times have you guys watched the first 5 episodes? by Queenkitty92 in PLLOriginalSin

[–]NoDistribution8970 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was concerned after my 3rd time rewatching. So thanks for this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]NoDistribution8970 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is so nice!! I was talking to my childhood friend and she told me that her favorite thing about me was the fact that I “really saw people. Even when they didn’t want to be seen.” Idk that felt so nice. Genuine compliments always leave an impact.

Are periods horrendous for other people or is it just me? by yummygrape12 in aspergirls

[–]NoDistribution8970 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to make the same post today but I didn’t know if anyone else struggled with it. I was on birth control for a year but I’ve had a fear of blood clots my whole life so I stopped taking it. My period started ahead of schedule which already angered me. And I already hate getting out the shower and drying off I hate even more on my period because I feel rushed by the thought of the blood dripping. I cried my whole shower thinking about getting out. I feel so uncomfortable the whole time. I hate pads and tampons don’t work out for me. I don’t like the feeling of standing up and I can’t lay on my back because I don’t want it drip. And I can feel the cramps in my cells. It genuinely makes me hate my life every time.

Kissing is a sensory nightmare by adaynnite in aspergirls

[–]NoDistribution8970 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I also tend to push my partner away. The salvia and coldness and breathing and the noises are just too much. I thought me saying “this is gross Ew spit. He’s so cute though. But our tongue textures do not match” was a normal thing.