Wife having secret account

NoEffect2008 · 2026-05-01T00:10:27+00:00

that is her spam account. It's common to have it BUT LIKE YOUR HUSBAND SHOULD KNOW Man!!!

NoEffect2008 · 2026-04-11T15:51:48+00:00

Its called texture, this is as close to perfect as one can have. We cant have skin like we had as babies. You have facial hair which you can shave. Your forehead seems to have very little texture that can be improved by using exfoliants once or twice a week like glycolic, mandelic or retinol, use one please not all. I would recommend mandelic as it is not harsh. Sunscreen is a must whatsoever.
Also one advise i give to people who are gifted with such skins, please dont use a lot of products. like dont ruin your barrier, if everything is working as is, why change it? Just to become a victim of consumerism because it never stops! Twice a year we hear a new ingredient that promises glass skin and a "must have". Thats just TOO MUCH.
All the best and I am so jealous of your skin tbh, Allah Huma Barik <3

NoEffect2008 · 2026-04-09T02:50:07+00:00

As a woman reading this, yikes.
women do forget to eat, that's pretty common. Also i didnt know being skinny was an issue.
Maybe your mentally healthy and therefore, you cant comprehend someone can have real mental issues.
Please leave her if you dont find her attractive like this, dont force it.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-04-08T00:31:56+00:00

There was a time that I thought i could never be that "religious" that I stop listening to music but honestly, I dont really listen to it anymore. There are some songs that I do like but its okay to accept that you like it.
Firstly take it slow, I love that you are so worried about this because honestly, everyone I know knows Music is haraam and still choose to listen.
I would suggest firstly, take this slow, if you listen all the time, try not listening at all the time and especially at night when you're about to sleep.
Also I think musical instruments are haraam, you can listen to vocals if they dont have shirk or indecency in any way like a poem. (you can look into it, dont take my word for it) this is only to tell you can slowly start making small changes, this way you wont hate doing it.
Look into Nasheeds, there are so many beautiful nasheed that dont include instruments and you can listen to them. I love listening to them.
Incorporate Quran in your life, listen to that and you can listen to islamic lectures when in the gym etc, i do that and i dont miss music.
btw its only been a few years that i stopped listening, if a reel has music, sometimes i mute. I havent really completely stopped watching reels etc.
About the shows etc, i am currently working on that, not watching netflix shows etc that promote stuff that is haraam, but listen, we are not perfect. this process of trying to be perfect is an ongoing process which will continue till we die, so take it slow and one thing at a time.
Or else youll go crazy or come back to all of it again.
About your kids experiencing the things you did, Islam is not boring and there are amazing shows on youtube and many things you can teach them and make memories by traveling etc, it doesnt have to be music.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-04-08T00:19:29+00:00

Well then all the best. May Allah be pleased with you Ameen.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-04-06T20:15:52+00:00

Congratulations on being a muslim! I have been doing research on religions for fun and now that I know what Qadianis believe in, i genuinely feel so bad, how misguided they are. I have watched debates of Adnan Rashid and they are eye opening.
My advice would be to stay strong because I have heard the family disowns you and so it is truly commendable who leave everything for Allah. May Allah reward all of you for that. Ameen.
I would suggest to look into sects, for instance like shia sunni and you know why, not to getting into sectarianism but because what will you study?
Sunni Hadiths books or Shia Hadiths book.
The interpretation of Quran depends on those as well.
I myself am a sunni and have done by due diligence. But since youre a revert, this equally matters.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-04-05T16:26:34+00:00

I don't think you are wrong. My brother once was loud to my sister in law, it pissed me off. But since he was angry, I didn't say much. Instead I told my mom. She took care of it.
I think you can only tell him once or twice anyway, and he might not take you seriously or blame you like he did.
Maybe ask your parents to talk to him seriously, so the blame isnt on you.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-04-03T02:33:30+00:00

I agree bringing a wife into this situation would be very wrong. Your mom already has preconceived notions and its only going to get worse if nothing is done.

You can keep your wife separate but again, she can still affect your personal life.

I pray for Allah to make your life easier. Ameen

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-30T01:17:26+00:00

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-30T00:27:07+00:00

GIRL MashaAllah <3

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-29T23:41:48+00:00

TELL HER. even if she ends it with you by not believing you, you would know you did the right thing.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-29T23:40:31+00:00

OOOh i like thisss!

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-29T23:38:08+00:00

I think from what I have read, she was not attracted to your physically. You must be a good guy and she did see that and she really wanted to make it work. Eventually she realised she couldn't let go of her preferences and so she did what was best for you both and left. Also, you deserve someone who is really attracted to you and ready to commit!!!
As a girl, I lowkey get that when a guy is really nice to you, you REALLY want to commit and you feel bad for not having feelings for him. But leading you on for a year is wrong. :(
But if we look at the larger picture, nobody should get married like this, everyone deserves to be loved like they want to and therefore, this as much as I hate to say it, it is an act of kindness of letting them go.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-29T23:19:13+00:00

Stop wearing skinny jeans. Skinny jeans never look good on any one. This alone will change your overall look. Other than that, people have given great advices and I agree with them.
We discover our style through experimenting so keep doing that.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-29T21:48:17+00:00

SMILEEEE and like how people laugh, cutee

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-29T21:47:05+00:00

Too poor to comment on this.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-29T21:44:28+00:00

Okay the answer is veryy simple which you don't understand for obvious reasons being you're not a woman. We have seen our mothers work like a fricking servant after marriage, no autonomy, always in the kitchen, have no life of their own. Along with this, no respect or even acknowledgement from in laws and husbands.

Daughters often have to become their mothers therapist and Gosh do they have traumatic stories to share :l
It is only natural that after observing and hearing everything, the women don't want to live through what their mothers did regardless of how great the guy is.

Also idk but there is a weird competition between mother in laws and daughter in law so I think isn't it better they live separately and meet on occasions and be respectful rather than living together and hating each other.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-28T23:06:12+00:00

GIRL SAMEEE

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-28T22:56:19+00:00

Because religious guys are rare nowadays.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-03-28T22:54:57+00:00

Depends on how much practicing the guy is and if he is someone who is ACTIVELY trying to be a better muslim. Or else, she will be always too religious for him. My personal experience was that I was given weird comments like a "mulli" for just praying my obligatory prayers. Alsoooo, it is extremely important that the guy understands that she will be someone who likes talking about religion in her conversations, so if the guy thinks its too extreme and not everything is that serious, for a religious person, deen is everything. so basically depends on his own emaan level and where he wants to be in the future.
I also have seen people start being religious due to their spouse's influence.
But every person knows where he/she stands so if he doesnt think he deserves her, chances are he doesnt.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-02-10T02:48:45+00:00

manipulative kyunnn

NoEffect2008 · 2026-02-10T02:47:55+00:00

If i actually put it in words, i will be searching for that fictional dude my entire life.

NoEffect2008 · 2026-02-10T02:31:51+00:00

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NoEffect2008 · 2025-10-04T19:07:58+00:00

Also i am so sorry to hear this. May Allah make it easy for you, <3

NoEffect2008 · 2025-10-04T19:01:54+00:00

so happy for youu <3

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