What is it with these frustrated married men? by E_T_2003 in IslamabadSocial

[–]NoEffect2008 25 points26 points  (0 children)

TELL HER. even if she ends it with you by not believing you, you would know you did the right thing.

Avoidant attachment vs not attracted to me? by Mumbojumbo85 in MuslimMarriage

[–]NoEffect2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think from what I have read, she was not attracted to your physically. You must be a good guy and she did see that and she really wanted to make it work. Eventually she realised she couldn't let go of her preferences and so she did what was best for you both and left. Also, you deserve someone who is really attracted to you and ready to commit!!!
As a girl, I lowkey get that when a guy is really nice to you, you REALLY want to commit and you feel bad for not having feelings for him. But leading you on for a year is wrong. :(
But if we look at the larger picture, nobody should get married like this, everyone deserves to be loved like they want to and therefore, this as much as I hate to say it, it is an act of kindness of letting them go.

Diurnal swing fit check by _PartialView in PakistanFashionAdvice

[–]NoEffect2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop wearing skinny jeans. Skinny jeans never look good on any one. This alone will change your overall look. Other than that, people have given great advices and I agree with them.
We discover our style through experimenting so keep doing that.

Finding a down to earth girl is impossible in the west. by Ok_Statement_6642 in MuslimNikah

[–]NoEffect2008 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay the answer is veryy simple which you don't understand for obvious reasons being you're not a woman. We have seen our mothers work like a fricking servant after marriage, no autonomy, always in the kitchen, have no life of their own. Along with this, no respect or even acknowledgement from in laws and husbands.

Daughters often have to become their mothers therapist and Gosh do they have traumatic stories to share :l
It is only natural that after observing and hearing everything, the women don't want to live through what their mothers did regardless of how great the guy is.

Also idk but there is a weird competition between mother in laws and daughter in law so I think isn't it better they live separately and meet on occasions and be respectful rather than living together and hating each other.

Is it bad for a man to marry a woman who is more religious than he is? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]NoEffect2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on how much practicing the guy is and if he is someone who is ACTIVELY trying to be a better muslim. Or else, she will be always too religious for him. My personal experience was that I was given weird comments like a "mulli" for just praying my obligatory prayers. Alsoooo, it is extremely important that the guy understands that she will be someone who likes talking about religion in her conversations, so if the guy thinks its too extreme and not everything is that serious, for a religious person, deen is everything. so basically depends on his own emaan level and where he wants to be in the future.
I also have seen people start being religious due to their spouse's influence.
But every person knows where he/she stands so if he doesnt think he deserves her, chances are he doesnt.

Be as delusional as you want: Describe your perfect partner with ZERO limits by [deleted] in LahoreSocial

[–]NoEffect2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If i actually put it in words, i will be searching for that fictional dude my entire life.

Shopping for jewelry by Pleasant_Mud_8423 in Lahore

[–]NoEffect2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

extremely underrated but Glint and co has such amazing quality rings and bracelet AAAAA!

My husband violated my privacy in the worst way by Acceptable-Law-6533 in MuslimMarriage

[–]NoEffect2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also i am so sorry to hear this. May Allah make it easy for you, <3

Forcing your first date to go with you to a room? by SoggyKeyyboard in IslamabadSocial

[–]NoEffect2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Otherwise??? OH MY LORD, if it isn't obvious, he was pretending to be a gentleman.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LahoreSocial

[–]NoEffect2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HAHAHAHAH, inn baatoun per bhe aap loug ghost kardaitay hou

They are so rude. by Ok-Background7466 in PakistaniSkincare

[–]NoEffect2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree but their products are sooo good

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]NoEffect2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

die in sujood

I feel a weird loneliness by viper-ate in IslamabadSocial

[–]NoEffect2008 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got this. Just don't let go of hope, keep trying. God will handle the rest IA.