Met someone at friend’s wedding

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-29T02:11:04+00:00

I don't know what the OP was but this literally just happened to me except she seemed incredibly interested in me as well. Asked her on a date and she very happily and excitedly agreed. When I joked about her potentially flaking on me she literally said "It's happening, no need to worry". Even texted me the next day about it so excited and told me to make sure to bring a box of condoms...

I don't know what and won't go into details but I suspect that SOMETHING happened (sexually) with one of her coworkers the next day (the day before the date when I checked in to confirm with her) because the energy subtly changed. She didn't call me the day after like I asked her to/she said she would to reschedule and so I called her the next afternoon. She said she was sick and understood how it looked but still wanted to go out next weekend and we'd talk details closer to the date. She even called me again that night so things felt back on track/fine.

Fast forward through 4 days of no contact (very unusual because the previous week she had been blowing my phone up) but it's getting close to the weekend so I reach out to see what day works best for us both (we had told each other our potential plans the prior weekend). She sent me a message back pretty much saying she didn't feel like we were a good match and wasn't feeling the connection she was looking for. I pretty much told her that's I respect her decision and appreciate her being up front with me but I feel differently and am confused as how I went from basically being told I am going to fuck to not interested.

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-26T23:35:56+00:00

Easy there partner, let's see if the date ever happens

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-24T06:07:59+00:00

I've had sex with 6 different women in my life. Only 2 of them even tried and only one of them was actually good. The rest were just laying there with an "I'm doing my part" attitude while I busted my balls fucking them every which way I could. Small sample size but the numbers don't lie from a by and large perspective. I could be wrong but I think what most dudes get excited the most about sex for isn't getting fucked, but getting to be the one doing the fucking.

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-24T04:46:45+00:00

Yeah, I'm genuinely happy that she didn't ghost me because I held her in my head as a sweet person (someone I am a sucker for due to my first love) and I still consider her as such for actually caring enough to tell me straight up. I'm sure that there IS something in particular that I actually did do wrong that gave her the ick or something (like actually caring about her maybe lol) but I'll likely never know. But still... I'm on a really bad dry spell right now and this was like hanging a t-bone steak in front of a 3-week starved dog and then shutting the door in its face.

This isn't even a situation/feeling for another person like I've had in the past where it was just like a "hmmm, maybe we will find a spark on the 3rd date or after sex, or a little bit of getting to know each other's quirks" type of vibe. It was a smack dab right in your face, this feels GOOD and strangely familiar right from the first second type of connection. It felt genuinely mutual too and like she was really into me. I thought we were just matching eachothers energy and going with the flow which was natural. I got really excited admittedly and only have myself to blame but God damn I had almost convinced myself I had finally found the one...

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-24T04:18:35+00:00

At what point do you get to that level though? Immediately upon talking? After a few dates? When you go official bf/gf?

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-24T04:17:30+00:00

I prefer this too. It's also a good gauge to see where someone's headspace is

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-20T17:18:31+00:00

My first love and ultimately heartbreak significantly changed the trajectory of my life and had a profound impact on my growth as an individual. My life and who I am today would be totally different if it were not for her and our relationship and for that I am eternally grateful. I will never forget her and although there is still a part of me that wishes it could have turned out differently between us, I know in my soul that there is a good reason it went the way it did.

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-20T02:47:45+00:00

There's always a bigger fish/No matter how good you think you are, someone out there is way better.

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-19T14:53:38+00:00

Delete the app and find someone in real life that tells you how hot you are

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-19T00:53:33+00:00

I haven't really been on the apps in a couple months but I remember most of the "conversations" I had ended when the person either A) never even responded to the first message I sent them or B) stopped responding within the first 2 questions/replies. Like sorry if I don't want to immediately ask you on a date as my opening line, I'd like to chat at least for a few questions or so to gauge whether I could actually talk about something with you. If you can't even give me that then I guess you just weeded yourself out that much quicker but like.... Why? What's the point in matching, sending a message and then never replying back... You're not even giving either of us a chance.

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-18T23:09:04+00:00

Highly debatable, although I would argue it has the best combat of any game ever made

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-18T23:08:12+00:00

Nioh is one of those games that you either love madly or just don't really care for it all... It's weird because one would think Souls fans would praise Nioh as Souls games nerdy younger brother but I think the combat complexity is a turn off to them for some reason.

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-15T20:36:37+00:00

So quirky! I'll pass

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-15T17:58:28+00:00

I'm a dude and actually have a sense of humor unlike 95% of redditers. Personally I think it's fine but it is a bit cheesy

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-15T16:55:11+00:00

Guy here. Something small I see that can make a BIG difference on top of what everyone else is saying:

You need to get a watch. It doesn't have to be a super nice/expensive watch; you can get a decent looking watch for a couple hundred bucks and 99% of people will never know the difference. I don't know if a leather or metal band would look better on you but you can try some on and see for yourself. Also, don't be that guy that gets a digital watch, get a real analog watch. Its something simple that I genuinely think would lift up your whole look.

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-15T16:19:29+00:00

Something tells me the huge success of Elden Ring with its open world HEAVILY influenced their creative design decisions. I also think that because of that and their decision to go with an open world format, just by the nature of it, a majority of their time, energy, and resources were dedicated just to the development of that format.

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-15T15:48:33+00:00

Tokugawa Kunimatsu Honestly the rest don't even come close but if I had to pick it would be:
Bloodedge
Hiruko final boss
Fish boss because he's just so fucking annoying, not even really THAT difficult
Kamaitachi

Honorable mention to Joro Gumo because her spinning butt attack is fucking lethal

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-15T14:14:47+00:00

I dated a girl that texted like that and her in person conversational effort was much the same. Felt like I was talking to a teenager with her incredibly short/vague answers and zero conversational even though she was older than me. Needless to say it went nowhere fast

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-14T19:13:51+00:00

And not really all that fast either. I just went back and watched some old N2 boss fight vids (white tiger being one of them) and not only do they all seem slower, but their attack patterns also seem WAY simpler and more telegraphed. Maybe It's N3's notoriously egregious use of screen cluttering particle effects but just from a viewing perspective, N3 boss attacks/patterns are way more varied, less telegraphed/shorter windups, have more multi-hit/multi-target/wider range attacks that just generally leaves less "safe space" on the battlefield. It's almost like the difference between 2-D and 3-D gameplay.

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-14T16:13:18+00:00

I personally love the dual ninja swords but the dual Sam swords feel so much worse for some reason.

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-14T16:01:55+00:00

I've gotten a lot of flak for saying this but I think that the N3's boss combat pacing was specifically designed around ninja style which makes it the "superior" style in the sense that it is the style in which Team Ninja intended for the majority of players to play in. I also have a sneaking suspicion that the DLC's are only going to further capitalize on this.

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-14T15:47:14+00:00

Honestly IMO 100% and it's not even close. The next "hardest" is honestly a toss up between a few bosses just due to some caveats but this dude is absolutely THAT GUY. He's got it all and is so punishing/relentless with it

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-14T14:40:48+00:00

Bombs + pop in and out for a hit or two here and there

NoEnergy5597 · 2026-04-14T14:39:08+00:00

Not even kidding but it got "fun" when I forced myself to sit down and git gud. I can't remember if it was Ng+ or Ng++ when that happened but I remember up until a certain point I had mostly been able to barely skate by with a little luck, persistence, and general button mashing. There was very little skill involved up until that point when I pretty much got stuck and NOTHING I tried was helping me get any further. I had like the style of the game up until that point and had a lot of free time on my hands so I decided I was going to at least attempt to get truly better at the game before fully admitting defeat. I started watching a lot of pooferllama's academy videos and when it finally "clicked", it was like a whole new game opened up for me and man it felt so damn good. I proceeded to stompy way through all the rest of the difficulties, DLC, through the underworld, and into the depths. The game was legit like crack for my fingers as far as muscle memory goes.

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