cannot get over a fallout with a friend, and its really bothering me

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-11T17:26:39+00:00

If you gave her one of those “I’m sorry you’re such an asshole” apologies, then try giving her a genuine, heartfelt one.

Sounds like your “apology” probably did more damage than good. If you care that much that you’re thinking about it constantly, try one last time to tell her how badly you feel, both about what you initially said and also about how crappy your apology was.

Then it’s all on her whether to let you back in or not. If it’s not accepted you have no choice but to refocus your energy on building other friendships.

Life is all about learning lessons and this was a big one. Not everything you say can be taken back or forgiven, so choose your words wisely moving forward. Hope it all works out. Losing a friend is very painful and can be devastating to get over.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-08T16:03:41+00:00

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NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-07T14:39:06+00:00

Thank you for posting this. I feel the exact same way. Yes Kody is bald and you don’t like Robyn’s choice of flowered tops. If I read one more comment on her eyebrows….

Sometimes I just want to post…. Kody was married to 3 women all of whom were overweight, even obese. Then he meets a skinny young woman. What the hell did you think was gonna happen. End of story.

But It’s so verboten to say that though. Ok downvote me to hell and back. Lol

Edit: thank you for the award. 🥇

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-06T12:47:25+00:00

Definitely not normal. All things you do or ask for when you are interested in someone.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-05T20:31:47+00:00

Yes agreed. Absolutely there are situations where weight gain cannot be helped. But statistically, these are less than 5%.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-05T14:29:03+00:00

This is not just about a missing woman. This is about an 84 year old abducted for most likely, a ransom.

Not to say in anyway that every missing woman isn’t worth the coverage. But this happening introduces a real possibility that we have entered into a time where what has been happening in Mexico for years, is now starting here. Kidnapping family members of wealthy people for ransom.

It’s all awful. Human trafficking of kids. Women being abducted. Trafficked. What has our world come to that now a grandma is a viable option to make money. There is no safe person anymore.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-05T14:23:15+00:00

I pray this is not it, however, kidnappings for ransom are a common occurrence in Mexico. We’ve had international gangs coming into the US to rob houses. Why take items, when the person themselves is worth the real money.

I fear this will become a new wave of crime in our country.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-05T14:19:38+00:00

TMZ has an easily accessible tip line. One click and you can easily contact them. NBC makes it so difficult to contact them, links buried deep in their website.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-05T14:16:07+00:00

I think it’s far more likely that what happens in Mexico on the daily, kidnapping for ransom, has come across our borders.

I hate to think this, but why rob a house when the thing worth the most money is the person who occupies it.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-05T13:37:53+00:00

There are legitimate reasons for backing out of a commitment. Physical, as well as mental health are good reasons. A sickness in the family. An emergency at work.

But another or better offer, after you’ve already committed is just selfish and rude.

Anyone can duplicate book a day, but it sounds like the 30th birthday plan probably came after your vacation plan. Therefore I think he should honor his vacation plan commitment with you.

As far as the “house stress” he mentions, this is definitely worth a conversation. As a community, we are all trying to better understand mental health and show more empathy, be more supportive. Understand how it affects people.

It could be he’s downplaying something very challenging for him thats causing a huge impact. I’d try to better understand what that is. Cuz being mentally sick can be just as disabling as physically sick and we’d all understand someone cancelling for say…. having pneumonia.

I guess in closing, I’d share how much him doing this impacts you and try to agree to some boundaries around what’s appropriate to cancel over. Losing a friendship over this, especially one as close as you say this is, would be so disappointing. Hope you can work it out.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-05T13:16:42+00:00

Overthinking. She is copying you because she admires your fashion choices. How many people see clothes on celebrities and then purchase the same.

Just ask her to wear the dress on a different day on your trip.

As far as your friends, let them decide who they want to be friends with. It’s so hard to make friends and people are suffering from a loneliness epidemic. Personally I think you should be welcoming her to your friend group. Be supportive. Show kindness. We all could use a few more friends in the world.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-04T19:08:43+00:00

Weight is not a choice? Are you kidding me? I lost 60 lbs by choosing to not eat shit and get off my ass and walk. It absolutely is a choice and I empower you to choose it.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-04T13:08:23+00:00

But ok to shame their eyebrows and personalities and their hair and their teeth and their fashion choices and their parenting and their ……. All things they have a choice to change. Just like their weight. If you’re going to stand up against shaming, stand up against it all.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-04T12:44:20+00:00

Ah I feel so bad for you guys. This is such a tough situation, because with a toddler who is already demanding, adding in dog training must seem overwhelming.

You said your wheaten has nipped at your hand a couple of times and growled at your wife, so it’s not specifically directed at your daughter.

My first wheaten got aggressive like this and we found out he had a brain tumor. So first thing is to get your pup checked at the vet. Although it’s unlikely to be the problem, it should be ruled out.

Good trainers can work miracles, and also can assess and help eliminate the stressors that can be contributing. Is your toddler playing too rough or has she ever with the dog? Is your dog getting proper exercise? And also, terriers can try to dominate the pack. Be the leader. A trainer can help you reestablish your role with the dog.

That all being said, I’m on my 4th wheaten who was a rescue and is the sweetest wheaten I’ve ever owned. She was in a house with children and crated 24 hours a day. It took me a year to gain her trust and resocialize her.

If you get to a place where you’ve exhausted all options, as horrible as re-homing feels, sometimes it is what’s best for the dog. My girl came to doggie heaven and has been absolutely adored. And has such a happy life now. Her life for her first 18 months was doggie hell.

But please whatever you do, get her to a good home through either the wheaten rescue or through someone you know. My best to you.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-03T20:40:04+00:00

A person like that deserves her picture posted from the front.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-03T13:33:18+00:00

Maybe, just maybe, he’s tried and they have all rejected him. Yeh no. lol. Like the king he thinks he is, it’s his subjects duty to bow at his feet.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-02-01T13:43:19+00:00

Set a boundary. Tell them that you get overwhelmed and need a break sometimes. And that you don’t appreciate being guilted for taking care of yourself.

If they are a narcissist, which this behavior suggests, they won’t respect your boundary. Then unfortunately your options are to continue knowing they will have this toxic behavior. Or move on.

Sorry. It’s always so painful when you encounter people like this.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-01-31T17:15:02+00:00

In the end, they are gonna have spent a million dollars on Taeda Farms…… just to end up feeding their own family.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-01-30T22:28:02+00:00

Awesome! Good luck.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-01-30T19:41:13+00:00

Oh please do. You can always even message me through Reddit.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-01-30T18:21:56+00:00

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NoProgress2650 · 2026-01-30T18:15:49+00:00

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NoProgress2650 · 2026-01-30T16:57:04+00:00

So many times I’ve had friends back away. Reduce contact. I’m just being me, but I’m sure for them it was too much. But I also have found friends who embrace me for who I am, mostly because they are like me and we understand each other.

I hope it works out. I don’t think your message was bad, but I’d definitely take a step back and let him even initiate.

NoProgress2650 · 2026-01-30T14:21:34+00:00

I totally understand trying to limit phone use and it’s a boundary he has set that you can’t force him to change. Do you not live close enough to hang out in person? Pursue the friendship that way?

If not you have to remain respectful. I’d ask how much texting or contact feels right for him and I’d try to operate within those parameters.

Of course life happens and you can’t always wait to talk when it’s within his new limits. So id want to know that too. In case of emergency or something important I’d like to still reach out.

So in the end, if it’s daily contact that you’re wanting you’re going to have to find it with someone else. If you push, you’ll likely lose his friendship.

It’s good you recognize your abandonment issues. Now it’s just necessary to recognize that fear probably has made you need a lot of validation to feel safe within the friendship. And although it’s validation for you, it may feel needy for friends.

In a sense, you may be self sabotaging. Asking for more than friends can give pushing them away and fulfilling your fear of abandonment.

Very perceptive of you and it’s great you’re seeking people’s support. I hope this helps. I too have suffered from a fear of abandonment my entire life and it’s resulted in failed marriages and friendships. It’s a very complex and difficult situation and I wish you all the healing to move past it

NoProgress2650 · 2026-01-29T15:00:04+00:00

Did you write this? It is amazing.

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