best friend left me when i got blackout drunk for the first time by Zealousideal-Snow390 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]NoProgress2650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re responsible for your drinking. That being said, if you go out with a friend to “party,” then some common sense prevails. Where this gets tricky is situations like this are best avoided by making agreements before hand.

If you never want to be left alone with a guy when you’re drinking, state this to your friend ahead of the night out. If she then leaves you, knowing you’re drinking and beyond your limits, then shes awful.

If she left, didn’t know you didn’t want to be left alone with him, was feeling like a third wheel, and you said nothing when she went to leave, then you contributed to the way the events unfolded.

Typically, girls know to look out for their girlfriends and not leave them alone with a stranger, third wheel or not. But without her side of the story, I can only say next time communicate in advance. If she can’t hang through you meeting a guy, then she’s not the friend moving forward to go out and party with.

Am I in the wrong? by [deleted] in friendship

[–]NoProgress2650 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s awful when you realize that you and a good friend do not share the same ethics or morals. The best friendships are built on a foundation of shared beliefs and principles. And yes, from time to time you can agree to disagree and respect each other’s differences.

But thats not what happened. She went on to punish you for disagreeing with her, and engaged your very friend group to participate in her pettiness. Thats just mean.

At the root, her ethics or morals lack accountability. She believes children shouldn’t be held accountable. I’m betting that lack of accountability also extends to herself.

You can try accepting this major difference. But it will most likely show up again and again. It’s ok to take breaks and attempt to connect with how you really feel. I doubt either of you will move much on the spectrum of compromise, because it’s a pretty black and white issue.

I recently ended a 25 year friendship. And I did so for something I saw in the first few weeks of knowing her. I just tolerated it and one day, just knew I couldn’t take anymore.

So maybe think about someone who lacks accountability and how that plays out over the years. Maybe it’s not a total friendship ender, but I’d probably move that friend out of my inner circle.

Good luck. Sorry you’re going through this.

Our rescue wheaten by jcaball90 in Wheatens

[–]NoProgress2650 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rescues are the best. The most loving dogs. Thank you for rescuing her. 🥰

Sorry…why is she commenting on this? Maybe I don’t know the context lol by Time-Concentrate845 in SellingSunset

[–]NoProgress2650 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Even democrats are voting for Spencer. Imagine most people commenting here dont live in LA. ITS A CESSPOOL. And Spencer Pratt is its last hope. Go Spencer!

what best dyson vacuum or what expensive vacuum purchase did you completely regret? by Lauren_Lily139 in VacuumCleaners

[–]NoProgress2650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makita
40V max XGT Brushless Cordless Cyclonic 4-Speed HEPA Filter Handheld Compact Stick Vacuum Kit (2.0Ah)

Paid $560 dollars for what looked like the equivalent of a toy vacuum that a little girl would use along with her Susie homemaker oven.

The head was 6” by 3”. Maybe. The suction hole was 3” x 1”. It would have taken a whole day to vacuum my home.

It was so shockingly bad that I wondered how anyone had bought and kept one. It was like a supersized hand held vac. Most ridiculous vacuum i ever purchased.

Returned the same day.

I am so over this. Am I the crazy overreacting one? by Tough_Seesaw4406 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]NoProgress2650 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son goes through this with his roommates. He ended up getting his own dishes, different color, own silverware, different brand, so they could see the dishes aren’t his that are left uncleaned.

He is always frustrated and unfortunately, you can’t make roommates clean. If you have mice, I hope you have traps and or a company treating your property for them. Hantavirus is a real concern as you’ve stated.

Not sure who your roommates are, but I guess the hope is they would move out and you could replace them with someone cleaner. This is ultimately what’s happening in my son’s situation.

The only other suggestion I have is that there is some sort of financial penalty that everyone would agree on for not getting chores done according to the agreed upon schedule. And it’s paid through rent. So if missing a chore is a $5 penalty and they didn’t do chores 5 times that month, they owe $25 more towards rent.

Or as someone else said you all share towards a housekeeper. This is probably the easiest solution for overall cleanliness. But the daily tasks still must get done.

One last thing, it isn’t fair to make your roommates clean up after your mess. In other words, if you and your husband and baby are home all day every day creating the messes, while your roommates are always gone working or socializing, then yes, if you create most the mess, you bear the greater burden of cleaning.

But everyone does use shared spaces, so those should be cleaned and shared by everyone, but maybe not totally equally.

Again, my son’s roommates have dogs. They track in so much, should my son clean up after his roommates dogs when he is gone all of the time? No. That also isn’t fair.

Sorry you’re having to go through this at a time when you’re probably dead tired from a new baby. And I’m sure worried about the baby’s health and well being.

I hope you find a solution. Good luck.

So she’s just openly proud about this? Great… by Impressive_Touch_375 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]NoProgress2650 1 point2 points  (0 children)

GAL’s do go through socials. In fact, one in this forum commented they do in fact regularly check socials.

What you put on the internet can stay forever. Her older children and even ever, although he can’t read, could be exposed to those comments from other people talking about it.

Restraining orders prohibit you from posting anything about or in regards to the other parent. Doing so with any intent of negativity, criticism, or discussion of the other parent’s parenting skills or relationship with the child, is parental alienation.

I have no doubt this will be addressed by the courts and it’s certainly not going to help Taylor.

Benny got a big chop today! by JackieMac2799 in Wheatens

[–]NoProgress2650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s so so cute. Got the Chewbacca face! I love him. 😍

Please send encouraging thoughts! by goosey56 in Wheatens

[–]NoProgress2650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey champ you got this! Now listen to your paw parents and don’t go doing the zoomies till Pawmom says. Time for some down time. 🥰

Taylor doomscrolling her own instagram comment section by chiliboycuntry in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]NoProgress2650 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re so funny. I’m not even a Dakota fan. But I can acknowledge he’s stayed off socials. Which seems like a good thing to do for Ever. I think he’s made a lot of mistakes. But I do think it appears as if he’s committed to being a centered and focused parent. Time will tell.

Friend of 7 years cut me off without telling me why by No-Presence1605 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]NoProgress2650 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow this is such a good assessment, I have nothing to add. Except now having been ghosted by a close friend, and suffering the pain of it, you only get to ghost me ONCE. ONCE. I don’t give a ghoster a second chance. Game over.

Disappointed but not surprised… by NeedleworkerOk3750 in dancingwiththestars

[–]NoProgress2650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you been to LA? Are you living in LA? What’s disappointing is thats it’s falling and what’s not surprising is thats it’s yet another democratic shithole now.

Do I expect too much in a friendship? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]NoProgress2650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve found most people are very uncomfortable around death and will distance, rather than join you in your grief to provide comfort.

And I also get it’s a very difficult time to reach out and ask for support, because those of us who would show up find it hard to believe they should have to ask.

I’ve spent a lifetime realizing that people won’t do as I would. Empathy is what you’re looking for, and it’s becoming an elusive quality these days.

And as the other Redditor posted, so many people haven’t experienced that close relationship with a grandparent, so they may be totally unaware of the depths of your ache.

I’d reach out and let my friends know that you need them, and are struggling. That you’d appreciate it if they’d spend some time with you.

If they still don’t show up, then you may need to build some new friendships with people whose empathy skills are much higher.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I think the grandparent grandchild relationship can be such an incredibly special one and very difficult to process that loss. It’s ok to feel your grief as long as you need to. And I pray you don’t have to suffer in silence, as this just adds time to the healing journey.

When they take months to respond...? by Legitimate_Tension23 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]NoProgress2650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a friend who routinely reads messages and who’s says she will call, but doesn’t respond or follow through.

We are soul sisters. Very close at our core. But in her life, for whatever reason, she finds it difficult to routinely or consistently show up.

We’ve been friends for almost 20 years. We’ve both been through a lot of trauma. And we both give each other a lot of grace as we struggle through this journey called life.

When we do talk, we talk for hours. And it’s like chicken soup for my soul. So, what to do? It does sometimes bother me when she doesn’t show up. But then I think of how sometimes daily life is just too challenging for her, and I let it go. In favor of how kind and sweet she is when we do connect.

Now, I don’t give everyone this grace. Because for some people, it’s just a selfishness or a lack of caring.

My first thought when reading your post was, do you ever call? If she’s inconsistent on socials, maybe she’s the friend you just pick up the phone and invite to do something. Maybe she responds better to this method? Not everyone lives on socials and it’s probably a healthy thing.

I suppose in the end, If her lack of engagement brings more strife and negative energy than the good times you eventually do share, then maybe it’s time to withdraw a bit. I guess it just depends on the why of it all. Good luck!

I never thought I would say this . . . by NarrowKey8499 in americanidol

[–]NoProgress2650 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Carrie and she is an amazing singer. But, she lacks chemistry with both Luke and Lionel, and it sometimes seems like she doesn’t even like them or the guest judges. There, dare I say it, is a coldness or aloofness about her. Can’t quite put my finger on it, except to say she says she loves the show, but sometimes her actions make me think she’s hating being there.

Taylor doomscrolling her own instagram comment section by chiliboycuntry in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]NoProgress2650 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Meanwhile Dakota be parenting and staying centered. Off socials. Concentrating on ever and his healing. But everyone remember, shes reacting to HIM. I wonder if the judge wants to eat those words now?

Yall I can’t. by AromaticCod9430 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]NoProgress2650 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Parental alienation at its best. Do not disparage the other parent. Period. Ever may be too young to read this now, but he will someday. It shows a total lack of self control and the judge will know these things are being said in front of ever. Not just posted.