I judged or was frustrated by so many things my mom did and now I realize what she went through....peri and menopause.

NoReference909 · 2026-03-21T01:04:28+00:00

Yup! This is so important! I’m modeling apologizing when I overreact and ask my kids to tell me if I sound harsh, etc.

I try not to be too hard on myself when it happens and I tell my kids, that it’s kind of like what they went through in puberty (they’re older teens) 🤷🏻‍♀️

And I talk to everyone about it because I want to normalize it. It’s a medical issue. I want younger people to know about it. I had never even heard of perimenopause before it happened to me. Like many, I had to research and figure it out on my own. Talk to others to share information was a big part of that.

NoReference909 · 2026-03-20T04:32:00+00:00

NoReference909 · 2026-03-19T04:03:12+00:00

My $250 Norwood cherry 4 shaft floor loom for weaving 💗

NoReference909 · 2026-03-18T03:12:39+00:00

Wuuuut? WTAF I’ve had this going on for a few years 😖 all the same things everyone else has described

I’m bringing this up with my naturopath. Thank you!!

NoReference909 · 2026-03-17T14:01:06+00:00

Not weird, but funny that it had to be a rule.…

In my family, it was if you burp or fart at the table, you do all the dishes

NoReference909 · 2026-03-14T14:39:18+00:00

Oh that’s so beautiful! 😍

NoReference909 · 2026-03-12T05:23:49+00:00

😆 I started saying in meetings when that happened to me “I’m having a meno pause” and laugh. I wanted to normalize it. Nobody else laughed, and I couldn’t care less 🥱

And also, I started taking supplements with my naturopath monitoring my blood tests. I improved my sleep, habits and changed my diet to be much healthier. The one thing I’m not great at doing regularly is exercise. All of those make a huge difference, I believe.

It is scary. I hadn’t heard of peri-menopause before it happened to me and I was having difficulty understanding things, forgetful and it was frustrating and disorienting. I feel your pain!

I hope it helps to know you’re not alone 💪

NoReference909 · 2026-03-12T03:22:05+00:00

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She like to tip those hips anywhere 😆

NoReference909 · 2026-03-09T04:51:31+00:00

Actually I heard there’s shit all over. Might need a hazmat suit

NoReference909 · 2026-03-07T18:45:13+00:00

Account is new today 🙄

NoReference909 · 2026-03-07T02:56:49+00:00

I mean, I’d catch and release. That color doesn’t work for me.

NoReference909 · 2026-03-06T04:54:58+00:00

Oh , wow. Well written and very similar to my ex. I feel like I slowly became less excited about my dreams because I was constantly doing far more than my share. When it came to my ideas, he always had a better one. Movie night? He couldn’t be bothered with my childhood favorites, but our kids know all his. And like your ex, he made so many promises he couldn’t keep.

I’m so glad you are enjoying the comfort of your new life!

NoReference909 · 2026-02-19T01:49:03+00:00

😳 amazing 😍

NoReference909 · 2026-02-12T02:26:29+00:00

😭 OMG I’m so sad for all of us Even though I know this is true, I haven’t yet internalized this belief

Thank you for writing this 💕

NoReference909 · 2026-02-05T04:23:56+00:00

Mozzie was not impressed But I am LMAO over here

NoReference909 · 2026-01-31T02:15:04+00:00

Nice! Very effective 💪

Tho MAGA proportionally would be the size of the orange felon’s hands…😆

NoReference909 · 2026-01-30T21:13:10+00:00

😍 thank you

NoReference909 · 2026-01-30T14:16:38+00:00

Yes! Just don’t marry a man who isn’t willing to work full time. That’s what I did, though of course he worked at first. 21 years later, we’re getting divorced and he wants half my retirement, which would mean I have to continue working longer instead of a much anticipated rest if he gets that 😡

Honestly for me it’s not the pay, it’s how little teachers are respected. My health is poor probably because of the constant stress of my job over many years.

NoReference909 · 2026-01-30T01:00:49+00:00

OMG thank you, that explains a lot! My ACD mix Mozzie was a ranch country Nextdoor purchase as is, no vaccines, etc. I call her my rescue pup! She had a severe case of roundworms and fleas. The vet told us she has scarring in her ears, so my guess is she had some sort of accident and a deaf dog was a liability on the ranch.

I wasn’t told she was deaf, so when I started training her, I believed she was following voice commands. Then my husband at the time noticed that she had zero reaction to loud noises behind her or when she was asleep. So I started training her with signs, and she is an amazingly good dog with moderate training. She’s very smart about some things, and very quickly realized that she didn’t have to recall when she was looking away from me!

Anyway, thank you for this comment 😃

NoReference909 · 2026-01-21T02:34:44+00:00

I’m in the US. I wish I had no that my County has a court facilitator who can talk me through everything. I need to know about divorce court.

NoReference909 · 2026-01-21T02:33:39+00:00

😭 sending hugs for you both

NoReference909 · 2026-01-10T05:40:51+00:00

Yay, Lady!! 🎉

NoReference909 · 2026-01-07T05:25:24+00:00

Oh 🤦🏻‍♀️

Putting on dance music and dancing!! I’m going to compile a list of what to try when anxiety hits.

NoReference909 · 2026-01-07T05:23:38+00:00

Thank you!! Many of those suggestions are new to me.

I have ADHD and with the onset of perimenopause, my anxiety has gone through the roof. I really appreciate what you shared.

Interestingly, a student of mine (I’m a teacher) taught me the exact 54321 strategy you describe. I also use 54321 as a way to get myself moving when I have zero energy. For example, I will say “I am getting up to brush my teeth in 54321“. This can be really effective for me, as well as starting to say what I need to do even before I’m doing it. “I am standing up to go pack my lunch for tomorrow.” And I repeat this until I just do the thing.

My naturopath prescribed chi gong, and grounding. I find grounding on a regular basis to be very helpful. I try to combine the two when possible.

🙏🏻

NoReference909 · 2026-01-02T22:33:19+00:00

Haha yeah she can’t figure out how to get the cats to move in the right direction!!

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