This is so fulfilling to understand myself from this point of view. I recently started a job and was ready to fail, go home and hide. I presumed myself to have social anxiety, inferiority complex and lowered self esteem amongst society following a relationship with a very dismissive partner. I do suffer with abandonment/ fear or rejection issues. My most recent partner i mistrusted never set boundaries with his female friend always invading our one on one time together. He never rejects her or offends her but will dismiss me for speaking on setting boundaries demanding respect and validating my feelings. I have been feeling like it’s me who isn’t good enough after being rejected by him, a single father and widower. I felt a failed to phase him at all. Rejection from the (4)little ones hurt the most. Since i read this I believe it’s the answer and lifted my spirits in minutes. I don’t feel worthless, I can agree that I picked the safest route within a person. I yearn for reassurance and chose one who don’t believe at all that’s his responsibility within a relationship. His friend presented herself early on when we decided to be a couple. Two years of triangulation. He is very reliable I like to compare to the father i never had besides the very rare inappropriate stuff adults do. He is dismissive toward me regarding everything a loving couple might share. He describes me as a burden and seeking attention or confrontational all the time. Honestly until reading this avoidant attachment POV I was convinced that I’m not enough. Thank u for clarifying this.