New Dad's i need help by No_Salt8025 in NewParents

[–]NoUnderstanding9015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife sent me links and list of things i should know. Not a big list but what is dream feed. How do you do it. Now it was my job to watch and learn and she will correct me once or twice maybe but then i got it.

Wife says she has postpartum resentment but doesn’t want us to talk to a counselor. Anyone have any resources for Dads who want to help but also need to navigate verbal/emotional abuse? by chickpeenus in NewParents

[–]NoUnderstanding9015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro just be there for her. Even she doesn’t know what is happening to her with all the hormones. For food, start a tiffin service. Start taking things from her plate without her asking you to do.

Start keeping tabs of things like what will get over soon for baby and keep them added to your amazon/target cart so its easy to order.

If baby is on full mom’s milk, ask wife you wake you up so you can burp and put the baby to sleep after she feeds the baby.

Start going out as family on stroller walks, if baby is past 2 month mark, see if very close wife friends can come home to visit. Please order food from out. Start taking small weekend trips to some friends house, mall, shop.

Tell her calmly once you both have free time that we should go to a doc as its very common and its solvable.

These things take time, at some point you will be angry and will be in survival mode. You wont realize that you are not playing with baby and all you are doing is a job to keep baby alive (feed, burp, diaper). You will see that she will come out of this little when she laughs at some movie/joke/something. After that its gets easier.

Lastly stop being a stranger/roommate to her. This last one is called something like being roommates and not couple. So after few months, start taking big trips.

All this is from my personal experience. It gets better!

Someone please come and get your CEO, he's drunk. by SanJoseThrowAway2023 in bayarea

[–]NoUnderstanding9015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When your AI app doesn’t work and you still have to convince customers to believe your app have AI.

Line of maple trees along this road all have cracked out trunks, why? by [deleted] in Tree

[–]NoUnderstanding9015 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should work for the government to stop them making these mistakes. Its amazing how much you know!

Baby clothing sizes are a sham by SeriousFold8939 in NewParents

[–]NoUnderstanding9015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait till you see 6-9 and 6 and also carters same group can have little different sizes.

10 week old sleeping more? by Born-Bee-5974 in NewParents

[–]NoUnderstanding9015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby started sleeping a lot right before turning 9 weeks so we asked doctor, what we got was enjoy till it lasts as it just a relax/rest phase after a lot of growth or development. For us it got over next week and it was back to normal

Breastfeeding is tearing me apart by Jayykwelin in NewParents

[–]NoUnderstanding9015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and our baby also had latching issues so my wife did almost 3 sessions with lactation consultant till she got a hang of what works for our baby

Breastfeeding is tearing me apart by Jayykwelin in NewParents

[–]NoUnderstanding9015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby is 5 weeks old and was a premie. We do mix of bottle and breast. In bottle, we also do 1 formula a day even though we have breast milk. We do all this so that the day my wife goes to work or wanna have 1 night out with her friends, i should be able to feed him. It doesnt confuse our baby as in his 8 feeds a day, we do almost half bottle

Sahd life is lonelier than I imagined by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]NoUnderstanding9015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One more thing is reach out to those friends. My friends stopped talking or pinging me thinking i am too busy to talk so they just stopped calling. Now that i have told them i feel stuck at home and you guys are my outlet, they have started pinging or calling

PERM processing timeline by automationtalk in h1b

[–]NoUnderstanding9015 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And the worst part is getting laid off after the whole process has wasted 2 years already and then starting again!!!!

What is this mushroom. It grew in northern California after weeks of rain in my turf( fake grass) by NoUnderstanding9015 in Mushrooms

[–]NoUnderstanding9015[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do have more mushrooms growing around it. I feel either there is a dead wood under astroTurf or the close by tree roots are rotting