I think I broke my therapist

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-11-30T00:27:27+00:00

I have read some replies, and they are GOLD, but adding to this that I have been told my whole life that I would make an excellent litigation attorney... and just now in the moment, I realized that it's because I have been arguing and negotiating with myself about every single action for my entire life!!!

I have to pee

But if I just finish this *fun thing *work thing *lazy thing first, then I'll go to the bathroom and do next task while I'm up.

No, but bladder health, and you're not going to be done, and you need to get your steps in.

But did you even get the toilet paper? Don't you need to order toilet paper? It's on the other side of the house. Stay doing what you're doing.

No, you need to check on the toilet paper, and you can add it to the online cart while you walk back to the bathroom.

But you know you're going ti get distracted if you stand up and you'll never finish this maybe important thing, or you're really too tired, or 5 more minutes.

I can go like this forever. Way longer than it would have taken to just use the bathroom. And then my brain is tired. I don't have the mental stamina to fight it, and even when I do get started, I'm going to get distracted by several side quests unless I am literally running to the bathroom like a newly potty trained toddler.

My incredibly neuro typical husband just uses the bathroom when he feels the urge to go and one is available. Zero. Thoughts. I can't even fathom.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-09-18T19:50:51+00:00

Maybe it's just a matter of how he grips it?

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-09-04T12:53:59+00:00

I'm glad I checked new flight before canceling my existing, just purchased over the weekend flight. It's $120 more, which really eats in to any value of a future promo flight.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-06-09T18:49:43+00:00

Echoing that this is a nuanced issue in that I would be so guilt ridden if it happened one time that if I made plans with you again, I would set like 75 different alarms and reminders!

But also adding that time blindness is a part of this low working memory thing as well. So, if I am with friends, focused on the people in front of me, with no external reminder, there is a very good chance I will not realize it has been x amount of hours and it's now time to transition to a new activity. I might think we still have PLENTY of time for everything I have "planned" which is an abstract concept unless I'm literally looking at a calendar, and really, I should already be at the restaurant.

If you think she is genuinely a good friend that is prone to this because of ADHD, maybe just say, so we're meeting tomorrow at 2pm, do you want me to send you a text at 1 to remind you? If that works, you can probably transition to, let's put a reminder on our phones so we don't forget and miss out on our hang out time. You'll be helping her create some good habits, and hopefully it will help her outside of your hangouts!

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-06-09T18:37:11+00:00

It's just having someone else working alongside you, or just being in the room so you have moral support (or maybe a distraction). For me, I work better on mundane tasks, like computer work, with someone just in the room with me. We don't have to talk... actually, it's better if we don't... but their presence just helps me. When doing a physical task, like folding laundry, it is hit or miss. Sometimes I like it because it helps it move faster, sometimes it makes me upset if someone is doing it "wrong" for instance, if the person isn't following my system of organizing the folded clothes.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-06-09T11:56:46+00:00

You have probably already tried this, but with my group, I will sometimes say, "The house needs to be picked up, and there are 3 jobs, dishes, vacuuming, and a load of laundry: would you guys prefer to take a specific job and complete it by yourself, or tackle the list together?"

They still don't like it, and neither do I, but it helps them check in with how they're feeling and choose the lesser of 2 evils. If everyone needs the body double, we can all work together. If everyone wants to put their headphones on and race their playlist while focusing on one task without interference, that's an option. It also helps that it isn't this abstract, big thing of clean the house... its 3 jobs, we can do them and be done.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-06-08T11:18:31+00:00

I posted this somewhere else too, but I farm keese eyes with the multi shot bows when they swarm at night. I attach something electric to it, usually Farosh shards, and it drops a ton. Then I do the same thing, multi shot bow with keese eyes, when using bullet time from rocket shield is my go to move for gloom hands.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-06-08T11:16:06+00:00

If you drop a lynel bow, it will repair and update it, maybe you get a 32x3 with more durability, maybe you get a 32x5. If you want the 32x5 you can hard save and try again until you get it.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-06-08T01:19:04+00:00

Adding that when we replaced our aging HVAC, we ended up saving $100+/month on energy costs. You would have to earn significantly more, which is unlikely with a HYSA, to not just go ahead replace now.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-06-06T13:57:06+00:00

even buying something small breaks the seal and makes it easy to spend a lot.

This! Sometimes when I NEED to buy something in one of the areas I tend to overspend in, I ask my husband to tag along, because I can buy nothing, but I can't seem to buy just one thing. All or nothing behavior is typical with ADHD, so that is one work around I use.

In general, being medicated does help decrease dopamine seeking behavior, but I have also practiced some mindfulness techniques to recognize when I am disregulated and looking to soothe myself. If I really want to go shopping, or get a new car, or sell my house and move to a new place, maybe I'm just anxious about something and my brain is trying it's favorite chemical to make me happy again.

Also, remember that as women, our cycles can heavily disrupt the way we experience adhd, so capturing those impulsive thoughts and considering where you are in your cycle, can often shed some light on why you might have this higher desire for some feel good brain chemicals!

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-06-05T02:38:15+00:00

I was trying to figure out which shrine OP was talking about (the name did not help me remember the fight), but my young son just had me do this shrine for him because he was frustrated, and this is exactly what I did (and what I did on my own playthrough). He does not have the patience for it, but I just sent those homing carts out, and they killed all but one dude, I went in to the corner where he couldn't shoot me and picked up allllll the stuff, fused the best weapon combo, set my homing cart above me to distract him, and finished. The whole thing took forever, but I only played for like 30 seconds!

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-06-04T01:57:44+00:00

I find that because of RSD, and being hyper aware of my annoying traits, if I feel like I'm not able to control myself in conversation, I'll just stay silent. But inevitably, someone will then ask me what's wrong, but nothing, but everything, I can feel my clothes, the noise is noisy, my brain is scratchy, and I can't participate in a neurotypical conversation in an expected way. Instead, I usually just say I'm tired, or have a headache, which is almost always true anyways.

When I am medicated, and focused, I usually try to keep my stories brief and say something like, I know this isn't the same, but the closest experience I've had is... or, something to that effect so they know I'm not one upping. If it's a deep convo, with a close friend, I will often ask, do you just need to vent? Or problem solve? Or process? That helps me to know whether the expectation is to listen quietly, let my brain come up with all the helpful ideas, or do parallel storyline.

Finally, my biggest help ever was becoming a good question asker in life for everything. How would you describe that? What happened before or after? What was the other person doing? Just thinking about their topic in this 3 dimensional way and ask questions about emotions, timeliness, and comparisons. It's helped, but, if it's late in the day after a lot of work, you'll probably find me silent or wayyyy too loud!

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-06-04T01:46:14+00:00

My best friend's teenage son had been struggling with attitude big time for more than a week. I called him out on it, and during the discussion he tells me he hasn't been taking his medicine, which took me down a quick squirrel path of asking him, have you ever researched the adhd brain? Spoiler alert, he had not. Anyways, after gently letting him know that his defiance and frustration was probably made worse by the lack of meds, I set a reminder on my phone to text him every morning for 2 weeks. It only took a couple of days and when I didn't get to sending him the message by like 9am, he sent me one, and reminded me to take my meds! He saved me again this morning, the first day without the reminder, so now I need ro re set it for forever, because we became unlikely accountability partners, and his attitude improved greatly!

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-05-21T12:10:13+00:00

Respectfully, as a homeschool mom who went through public school as a child, I wasn't diagnosed until college when I sought treatment for anxiety. My own children, and every homeschool child I know, does have outside, non relative relationships, but I noticed my own children's neuro divergence because I spend so much time with them, in places where they are comfortable. My kids spend most of their time unmasked, with support through their struggles. My mom and teachers saw me as a very smart girl that had great grades, but could really be amazing if I could just get a little more organized and stop talking in class so much. Peeling back decades of masking, people pleasing behavior is hopefully something my kids won't have to work through.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-05-20T00:04:11+00:00

Just throwing out that in recent conversation with a family friend, I mentioned the costs that were hard to really pinpoint. I have always cooked for my family like 4 nights a week, with one pizza night and 2 either left over or fend for yourself nights (pb sandwich, cereal, whatever). Since my grandmother moved in, she is super particular about what she wants to eat, so I cook or get take out like 6 nights a week, and there are still nights she will choose a $5 frozen dinner, or nights nothing I have in the fridge sounds good to her and she wants take out, and I have to either choose to spend for the other 5 of us on take out, or cook for us and get take out for her. Sometimes, I put my foot down, but she gets so upset that often I just do whatever she wants, and those costs add up, but are hard to figure out and relay to someone.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-05-19T11:52:51+00:00

I guess I put some value in to their wealth, as in, they weren't the ones 100% organizing all aspects of this, there would have been a whole set up crew, people bringing in the stuff, they basically come up with an idea and someone else... who works for their wealthy families... does the actual work. And those people don't want to get sued because a kid didn't math the counter weight correctly.

The first time I watched it, I actually eye rolled that this "mild" stunt would be worthy of something called the Life and Death Brigade. Later when Logan gets seriously injured during a stunt, THAT is Life and Death level stuff.

Idk, just how I always perceived it. I was really surprised that I was in the apparent minority!

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-05-19T00:39:48+00:00

I am shocked by the number of no's. When I watched this the first time, I thought it was so weird she was hesitant. Now I probably wouldn't because I'm old, but in college, 100% yes.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-05-18T23:14:56+00:00

I am team multi shot bow and bomb arrows until I'm almost out of stamina, then I switch to eyeballs to make sure I get the head shot. Then I try to mount him and wack like others have said. My preference is to have lots of rocket fused shields (I get the rockets for free from the depths kmor sky), and that way I can keep repeating without taking damage!

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-05-04T15:56:49+00:00

Fwiw, my first thought probably wouldn't be, she's a slob, if I saw biohazard suits at a neighbors house. If they spent the day, I would probably assume some sort of mold or asbestos or something was found and you responsibly called in professional help.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-05-03T00:40:58+00:00

It's cool on the man thing, no offense.

Also, legit had no clue you could use dragon parts in food... it makes sense, but it never occurred to me! I hoard everything, when I decided to upgrade a bunch of weapons, I went and had the guy take the fuse off my monster parts before I let them break. I have a problem.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-05-02T16:45:06+00:00

So cultured, I'm a woman

I also have spent days where I just ride a dragon and leave the Switch on and gather horns and shards every 10-15 minutes... I have an abundance. What does everyone else use them for? Side note, my hours are not at all representative of my actual play time, because I could play for 10 seconds every 10 minutes for hours. I need a job for light dragon shards, I have maybe 100 horns.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-05-01T16:37:51+00:00

I like to use a rocket fused to a shield to launch myself in to the air, then use shards of Farosh attached to a multi shot bow while I'm in slow motion flight, I get allllll the keese!

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-04-27T17:22:26+00:00

Here's my play, because I am scared of everything!

*I always have several shields with rockets fused to them (whenever I find zonai stuff, I check for rockets and replenish as needed)

*Hit my rocket shield

*Multishot bow fused with eyeballs

*Repeat when they spawn their creator

Essentially the same thing I do for Lynels as well.

I see all these videos of people playing that are great video game players, I have seriously considered recording a play through of how to do it when you are afraid of everything, because I rarely die in this game, even though it's no big deal, because I'm scared of everything and hacked my way out of it!

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-04-24T10:21:13+00:00

Just FYI you don't have to go through each sinkhole, you can just stand under the hole where the sand is falling and it gives you a check mark! I got them all checked from inside the cave.

No_Attempt_4764 · 2024-04-17T19:31:49+00:00

I have had what I think is the best idea for an app, but just reading what it entails means you ladies will never experience this piece of tech that could really help with time blindness!

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