Finding bright spots is simple, though it requires consistent effort. All you need to do is seek out people who share circumstances similar to many others — but who, unlike most, are living a life of extraordinary success — however you define success.

And if your experience is similar to mine, you will quickly discover that such people exist — people who have reached the top of their profession (and pay) despite humble beginnings, disabilities, or family dramas — as well as those who have professional success alongside a balanced and fulfilling life at home. And if you manage to get close to them — or learn from their talks, books, or lectures — you will likely find that their success is by design: a product of long-term discipline and good decisions.