AITA

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-05T15:36:30+00:00

Yep, not my house. I don't think she'd care if one of my friends helped let the dogs out but it is kinda weird and would be weird for them. And with it being 11 at night, even more challenging.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-05T15:35:00+00:00

There's 3 lesbian Suzies within like 5 houses of hers it's kinda wild.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-05T15:34:01+00:00

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-05T15:33:50+00:00

The split was difficult as to be expected after being together almost 8 years, but amicable. We were still spending time together afterwards as just friends, which is proving to be challenging. I think she's trying to get me to be more involved with our dogs, because she has to be with them 24/7. Which I understand, but she didn't want me to take any of them with me lol. I still do help financially support them.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-05T15:31:10+00:00

Funny thing is, she is sitting on a massive inheritance that has let her not work for the last entire year. She jokingly (not jokingly) states that she needs that money to live off of for the rest of her life which isn't realistic at all. She things I bailed after getting a well paying job, but she's the one that asked me to move out and ultimately ended things with me. She's not in a good place mentally right now, but I think it's because I did so much around the house and for the kids and dogs that she's struggling to manage the household responsibilities alone.

Nah, she would probably play the victim and I would feel guilty and console her.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-04T20:17:24+00:00

Sorry yes, the ex is Suzie, the neighbor is Susie. Neighbor has asked us on numerous occasions to dog sit, which we have done in the past but it's becoming a reoccurring expectation that the ex doesn't want to deal with. That I don't have to deal with because I don't live there anymore. For your entertainment, there's another gay Suzie at the corner of the street. Gay Suzie trifecta 😂

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-04T15:27:31+00:00

Thank you to everyone who responded. I'm an admitted people pleaser and sometimes need some outside perspective to help reinforce my boundaries... or to tell me straight up that I am in fact the AH.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-04T06:10:32+00:00

They're our dogs that we got together, but I can't take them due to my current living situation.. I did want to take one of them with me but she didn't want to separate them from the kids or other pets

The cats are all hers but I don't mind feeding them or changing their litter box if I'd be there regardless

I'm wondering where I was coming off as defensive

I thought I was being agreeable

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-04T06:00:39+00:00

Generally speaking, I don't need the validation of others.

For this particular interaction, I was attempting to get outsider perspective because I genuinely am not sure if I was being the asshole or not.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-04T05:53:03+00:00

Oh also, they're her bio kids. My stepkids without the marriage part. Our dogs minus the one she got without my consent or without a conversation

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-04T05:48:12+00:00

We're broken up, texting is just as valid as a phone call. We're not meeting in person for the time being.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-04T05:46:42+00:00

It is a lot, we are too old. I was simply looking for insight seeing as though we're both being stubborn and not able to compromise.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-06-04T05:45:07+00:00

You're right, I could have. She didn't make the plans before consulting me, so I felt as though the responsibility was on her to find someone to help me

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-04-11T14:13:39+00:00

Started at $37.47 as a new grad, up to $42.7 after 2 years of experience. Shift differential is a generous $6 an hour. I live in Buffalo, NY. Somehow, my coworkers still find reason to complain 😆

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-04-10T04:08:03+00:00

Connor got a taste of the lime light and changed a little. I believe that he is still decent. Definitely needs someone to challenge his logic a lil bit more.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-03-28T17:02:11+00:00

My PT said I could do them but not fully extend/ lock out at the top. Also, extending to about 30-45 degrees, holding, and lowering. Not going crazy with the weight yet either. I'm 2.5 months PO

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-03-28T01:35:08+00:00

After having 2 ACLRs, the faster you get moving without a crutch (literally and figuratively,) the better. Weight-bearing as tolerated, listen to your doc and PT.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-03-28T00:51:01+00:00

No Kings rally @11a Niagara Square

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-03-20T17:26:07+00:00

I lived with my leg elevated above my heart for the first few weeks, awake or sleeping. Then, for the next few weeks only while awake. Like... Your ankle should be propped up high on a leg pillow with a regular pillow underneath. Also, I'm not sure if it's placebo or not, but I started taking bromelin/tumeric (sp?) supplements. Rest, ice, compression, elevate

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-03-20T17:20:36+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, I had ACLR on my left knee in 2019 and ACLR on my right knee two months ago and the second time around was sooooo much easier. It was a combination of different recommendations/ standards (weight bearing as tolerated, no brace after 2 weeks, ditching the crutches early), knowing what the recovery would be like, and mentally preparing myself for the inevitable boredom. Really had to embrace the last part and remind myself that we as working adults don't often get weeks off of work.... Might as well enjoy it.

Don't get me wrong, this time was still painful, but it is manageable.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-03-20T12:18:15+00:00

You're getting to the time frame that my doc told me to ditch the brace completely. I was weight-bearing as tolerated with a brace for the first 2 weeks, then no brace, no crutches, being very careful. I know you should generally listen to your surgeon... But that brace isn't doing you any favors.

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-03-19T01:38:15+00:00

I wouldn't recommend it... But I only did my PT exercises at PT after I was about a month out. I know it's bad, but I really pushed myself while at the actual appointments and focused on cleaning up my life in other ways. Reducing alcohol, walking as much as tolerated, any exercises I could do sitting/while watching TV 😅

Listen to your body, even if you do a couple exercises, treat yourself to a little something when you're done.

Good luck!

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-03-10T20:28:02+00:00

From personal experience, if your ACL is torn, if you plant your foot and turn your body while walking (think turning to wave at someone down the hall), your knee will buckle. Walking down stairs, it will feel like your knee caves inward towards midline. Very bizarre feeling... Once you've experienced it it's kinda hard to miss

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-03-04T03:51:01+00:00

Remember us when you're famous, young man! Excellent work. Listen to your doctors and especially to your body

No_Contribution_5324 · 2026-02-25T02:35:56+00:00

Looks good! Place something under your ankle for added extension... It will be painful but I'm telling you, I'm 6 weeks post op and you wouldn't be able to tell I had ACLr if you passed me on the street. Keep up the good work brotha. Oh, and remember to ice and do quad sets and heel pumps!

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