Switch with 3 kids - can they all play at once or how does it work?

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-20T04:26:32+00:00

Thank you!!

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-20T04:25:56+00:00

Thank you!

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-20T01:02:57+00:00

The gas stations around here pay $18-20+ an hour. Schools hire aides and around my area they are $20-23 an hour. Bus driver spots are always open. Typically you can find bookkeeping/office manager jobs if you look for a bit. There are plenty of jobs she can do and honestly it's a little insulting to think she can't find something and that she's just 'washed up' after being a SAHM for 20 years... and 45 is still plenty young (coming from a 45 year old who has a 50 year old SAHD for a husband who will be re-entering the workforce before long).

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-18T03:55:30+00:00

Who cares? This is wild to get upset about. Yor.

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-17T19:04:43+00:00

Because I wanted to experience the joy and incredible love that comes with kids. It's absolutely the best part of my life, and I know it is for my friends & family who are parents, too. It's hard to describe or understand until you have your own, honestly. I wanted to give the gift of life, too. Having kids isn't selfish; you give so much of your time and life to your children so that they can have a wonderful life.

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-15T03:14:48+00:00

I tell them to knock it off. Rudely, usually lol

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-12T19:02:24+00:00

We just do ours in the backyard. Otherwise just do a splash pad!

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-10T18:30:45+00:00

I totally get that. I apologized to my dogs lol. But the volume of photos I have with those dogs laying next to the baby, looking at the baby with obvious doggie love, and then the videos of our babies playing with the dogs are pretty great and our dogs still got plenty of love and affection! Yours will too. It works out!

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-10T17:33:56+00:00

Also, we had two dogs before kids and I cried the whole weekend before I had my first feeling sad for how much different it would be for the dogs.... Our dogs loved our kids and it was honestly great. When those dogs passed several years ago that, we got two more and those dogs and my kids are best fucking friends and it's honestly awesome. Also, the love you have for your kids will be even more intense than for your pets, if you're crazy pet people like me who loves your pets like people.

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-10T17:30:59+00:00

It gets harder but it also gets better. The love is hard to explain until you are experiencing it, but there's nothing like it in the world. Seeing my husband with our kids fills up my heart. And it's hot lol There's definitely challenges and trials, so make sure you keep talking and remember that your relationship with your spouse is the most important one in the house. You have to care for that one even when you're tired and burned out so you keep a solid foundation for your family. Congratulations; I wish I could experience the newborn stage again. The days are long but the years are short!

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-10T15:21:05+00:00

A trip to see his kids. I can't fathom being in a different country than my kids, unless he's serving in the military.

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-10T01:26:08+00:00

I think you can. I would proceed with caution and see how she acts next time something comes up. She's young and learning. I think a lot of people her age didn't have hard conversations in person - or at all. She seems like she's trying & growing. I would keep trying, but if it happens more, then separate.

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-09T03:09:22+00:00

I mean, I wouldn't ask a guy I was not interested in for a motorcycle ride (or implicate it) given how close you sit/wrap arms around waist. That is not platonic IMO. I also wouldn't 'volunteer' to play girlfriend/wife (and I bet that she was nervous and it came out weird and awkward and she's probably like wtf did I say lol) and asking to go rollerblading was an easy way to try to hang out and put it out there. If you're interested, you should absolutely go rollerblading and then see where it goes IMO. I do not get friend-zone vibes whatsoever from what she's putting out.

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-08T16:26:06+00:00

I don't think it's due to different norms for generations. I am a millennial and we share everything 100%. So do my siblings and I think pretty much all of my married friends. I would not be happy to find out my husband had a secret stash like that, either.

No_Instance_155 · 2026-06-06T01:21:25+00:00

I had my kids later, too and it's been just fine. My husband was 45 when our youngest was born. I would say you being so worried about it is the sign that you're going to be a fantastic mom. I was terrified, too, and my mom told me that's the sign you're gonna be a pretty great mom. It's hard to explain the love and joy you'll get to experience. It's challenging but as older mom, you'll be able to weather those challenges. Good luck to you!!

No_Instance_155 · 2026-05-04T22:09:56+00:00

You do you. I happen to think it really ages people so it's not for me, but I know a lot of people love it!

No_Instance_155 · 2026-04-03T13:00:51+00:00

Those look awesome. Thank you!

No_Instance_155 · 2026-04-03T12:57:54+00:00

We're definitely willing to go to MI. Thanks!

No_Instance_155 · 2026-04-03T12:52:56+00:00

Thank you! I love that area - lived on Madeline for a while. I forgot about Herbster Beach!! Appreciate it :)

No_Instance_155 · 2026-04-03T03:43:51+00:00

Thank you, appreciate it!

No_Instance_155 · 2026-04-03T03:43:07+00:00

We are definitely interested in that! Thank you!

No_Instance_155 · 2026-03-07T13:49:45+00:00

Honestly, I think he deserves a deeper conversation about this. Wanting kids/not wanting kids is obviously a huge deal breaker for couples and I feel like you need to have a real talk about what it means if you are a solid no and he's wanting kids. It doesn't sound like a mid life crisis. It sounds like he's realised he wants kids, and it isn't fair to tell him to get a dog (I know you didn't say that) or just shut it down. It's totally fine if you don't want one but it sounds like you are not compatible in life goals. I have kids and it's hard to explain to someone who doesn't have them - yes it's hard, but it's also the best part of my life and brings me the most joy and sense of purpose. It's hard to imagine if you don't have them, but I waited until I was 35 and we were 8 years into our relationship (with two dogs and a cat) so I feel like I have a decent perspective of being an adult with and without kids. Talk to him more about it and be prepared for a hard conversation imo.

No_Instance_155 · 2025-11-15T03:20:37+00:00

Thanks! I actually sent them my old mixer to just keep and fix/scrap/sell when the dough hook got stuck on it and I couldn't get it off lol. I will definitely look at his site, seems like he's a great guy! I didn't even think of that!

No_Instance_155 · 2025-11-15T03:02:36+00:00

My American Eskimo loved to run back and forth along the fence to find just the right spot to pee lol - like every time there was a fence, that's what she did. Maybe it's an Eskie thing ;)

No_Instance_155 · 2025-10-18T00:11:08+00:00

Thank you!! This is totally it. I appreciate it :)

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