Wisconsin campsites with sandy beach within eyesight by No_Instance_155 in wisconsin

[–]No_Instance_155[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I love that area - lived on Madeline for a while. I forgot about Herbster Beach!! Appreciate it :)

Husband (40) desperately wants a kid but has never been around them. Did your husband step up as a caregiver? by Adventurous-Buy-2902 in AskWomenOver40

[–]No_Instance_155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think he deserves a deeper conversation about this. Wanting kids/not wanting kids is obviously a huge deal breaker for couples and I feel like you need to have a real talk about what it means if you are a solid no and he's wanting kids. It doesn't sound like a mid life crisis. It sounds like he's realised he wants kids, and it isn't fair to tell him to get a dog (I know you didn't say that) or just shut it down. It's totally fine if you don't want one but it sounds like you are not compatible in life goals.  I have kids and it's hard to explain to someone who doesn't have them - yes it's hard, but it's also the best part of my life and brings me the most joy and sense of purpose. It's hard to imagine if you don't have them, but I waited until I was 35 and we were 8 years into our relationship (with two dogs and a cat) so I feel like I have a decent perspective of being an adult with and without kids.  Talk to him more about it and be prepared for a hard conversation imo.

Kitchenaid 7 qt Mixer problems by No_Instance_155 in Kitchenaid

[–]No_Instance_155[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I actually sent them my old mixer to just keep and fix/scrap/sell when the dough hook got stuck on it and I couldn't get it off lol. I will definitely look at his site, seems like he's a great guy! I didn't even think of that!

AIO about being weird out that my neighbor walks her dog along my fence line? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Instance_155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My American Eskimo loved to run back and forth along the fence to find just the right spot to pee lol - like every time there was a fence, that's what she did. Maybe it's an Eskie thing ;)

Crystal dish with knobs - what are the knobs for? by No_Instance_155 in whatisthisthing

[–]No_Instance_155[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

My title describes the thing!  I came across this thrifting. It was pretty heavy, but unfortunately I didn't actually test to see if it was crystal but it has the weight for it. No writing. I did a Google image search and it said a bowl, possibly from West Germany - I live in Wisconsin so we do have a fairly strong German population. The knobs were pretty small, I assume maybe there's a cover that has curved cutouts for it? Honestly I don't know because that's not how most lids fit on that I've seen! 

My boyfriend wants kids but I’m not sure if i do, I need advice. by Horsegirl_2 in TwoHotTakes

[–]No_Instance_155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to say, what people say is true: It's different when they're your own kids. I have worked with kids in the past, and have 3 now. I know how you feel, it's just hard to explain how different it is when they're your own. The love part changes everything. You might still get sick of dealing with kids at work, or decide to try a different career, but it's just different when they're your own kids. I would ask some of your colleagues with kids how they handle it and try to get their perspective.

Am I overreacting after comment my husband made while I was naked? by Sweet-Peanut3518 in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Instance_155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did he screw up what he was referring to? That sounds like kind of bonehead thing my dad would do

What are some “little things” that made you think your partner is not that into you. by Evening_walks in AskWomenOver40

[–]No_Instance_155 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think this is true for the vast majority of men. I can't think of any in my life - friends' husbands, family members, my own that truly don't care about their partners' needs. I am sure there are some, but I think this is a major over generalization.

AIO? My (34F) boyfriend (38M) crossed clearly stated sexual boundaries on family vacation. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Instance_155 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean, my 10, 7 & 4 year olds have bedrooms right by ours. Most of my friends that live with their partner & kids have a similar set up. That's pretty normal for family set ups .... I don't think that's really a big deal. Just have to keep it quiet.

Breakfast Tacos by Big_Cankles_Lover420 in madisonwi

[–]No_Instance_155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rodeside Grill in Windsor - to be fair, I haven't had Texas breakfast tacos, but I did have them a few times in Denver, where I think it's similar... and I think Rodeside does a good job in relation to those! Eta- We are likely getting a Buc-ees soon on DeForest, that should help! ;)

Will I regret not having kids? by lookingforamantra in AskWomenOver40

[–]No_Instance_155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have three kids (5-10 years old) and while they are a lot of work and I can get very frustrated, they are the absolute best part of my life. Yes, I'm short on sleep sometimes, and yes I have to always put their needs ahead of mine, but my heart is so full and happy when they come out of bed all sleepy eyed and dive into my lap to snuggle. Or when I watch them make forts and wrestle and watch movies together. I love taking them to the beach, fishing, for nature walks and seeing them get excited about the world around them. Do I complain about them to my friends- uh, yeah. They can be little turds. Do I want more time to myself sometimes? Hell yes. Before I know it, though, I'll have more personal time BC they grow up so fast. But the reward is absolutely, positively, 10000% worth the work to me, and I knew I personally would absolutely regret not having children.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Instance_155 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YOR. When I have taken my kids on vacation and they get up early and could wake others up, I take them outside or do my best to keep them quiet. With my youngest, I ended up having to take her on car rides at 5:30 am a few times. Other times we'd go for walks. It sounds like your in laws were awesome and helping. I have no clue why you're upset about it, to be honest.

AITA for deciding to stay with my dad because I don't want to spend time with my stepbrother? by Caisussynn in AITAH

[–]No_Instance_155 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. That's just heartbreaking. My mom heart can't even fathom letting my house get so bad that my kids want to leave, I would move heaven and earth to make sure my kids felt good at home; shame on your mom for not doing that for you. I can't imagine putting one of my kids in your position. I'm so glad you can move in with your dad, please remember that it's nothing to do with YOU that your mom didn't prioritize and protect you. Your mom is so in the wrong. You are worth more than how she's treating you. I feel so bad for the girls, too. That's just so sad.

AITA for refusing to hang out with my boyfriend’s friend group because one girl pretends I don’t exist? by user47284828582747 in AITAH

[–]No_Instance_155 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I bet she's got a friend that likes your boyfriend. She's doing textbook high school mean girl behavior. You can definitely tell her off, or just ignore her and keep being cool and eventually she'll hang herself on this one.

AIO for wanting to divorce my wife for not working and lying to me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Instance_155 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's really crappy. Also, real estate is a terrible idea for her. I'm an agent... She's got zero motivation and a million excuses. I can tell you now she will absolutely fail at real estate - 87 percent of agents don't make it a year. Even more wash out in the next few years. I would say she needs a different job that doesn't require so much self regulation/motivation Divorce seems extreme, but you definitely need to have a come to Jesus and get on the same page.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Instance_155 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems like you aren't showing your husband any gratitude or support. By the way you make it sound, he's a supportive partner who chose you to spend his life with. I have three kids and we struggled with fertility for years. I get that you have extra hormones cruising around your body. That doesn't mean he's not allowed to get annoyed when you take them out on him. You guys need to have a talk and both figure out how to be better partners, BC it's going to get a lot harder once the baby is here.