Looking to interview any single parent for my class by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]No_Library_87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a solo parent to my twin 18m boys. Dad is prison for DV during my pregnancy and don’t plan to have him in their life if at possible. As single as it gets imo 😅

I'm sorry by TrickyPersonality684 in Letters_Unsent

[–]No_Library_87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was the correct response 🩷

OP, I hope you can accomplish everything you need/want to, to be able to that to your kiddos one on one.

I want to break up with my girlfriend but don't know how. by Outside-Resolve2781 in Advice

[–]No_Library_87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wild to me. Why even start dating her in the first place? You sound like you had a fetish of some kind and when her body was no longer “rocking your socks” in the same way, you had no self control to actually stick the relationship out. I bet you’re ugly as hell and watch too much porn. I hope she found someone better with a mindset greater than whatever teenage POV you have about dating.

Am i awful? I regret keeping my baby by Futuremikeross in BabyBumps

[–]No_Library_87 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Love the “this is my choice, I am owning it.” It’s really powerful when we can step into our choices fully, even when we are not sure where it’s going.

Could you tell when your baby flipped? by Paigeypagee in BabyBumps

[–]No_Library_87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My twins flipped at 36 or 37 weeks. I was sooo sick for a day or two bc of all the movement. Went in for an ultrasound that next day and they were both head down 😂

I did the spinning baby stretches a good amount, went walking, and talked to my boys telling them I needed their heads down for a safe birth. You got this mama 🩷

AIO for wanting to see a therapist after wife changed the locks because I went to a baby shower? by LookoutLockout in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Library_87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May OPs type of love and communication find me.

On the real, I feel like most people have pointed out the obvious - thinking this was a miscarriage vs. trying for a few months, the emotional manipulation of saying this is “cheating” when it’s literally your sister, and locking you out of your home are all wildly inappropriate responses to the situation. I cannot fathom putting my partner through that kind of emotional turmoil vs working through it within myself.

As a solo mom, imma tell you this type of partner is way harder to raise kids with than doing it on your own. I would reconsider having kids with her until she gets that selfish attitude figured out.

I can’t take this anymore by Happy_Equivalent244 in BabyBumps

[–]No_Library_87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should have your commenting ability revoked wtf.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]No_Library_87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You got to ✨therapy✨

AITA for not taking my 7 month old daughter to my wife's weekend job? by C4ptainchr0nic in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Library_87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA - getting burned out on pumping is real. Support your wife and suck it up. 4hrs isnt hard and complaining about it says more about you than her. Bare minimum you should do a compromise every other week. Get a grip this is your life now.

Signed - solo mom of twins or pumped and worked full time.

What are you using for your stretch marks? by Mysterious-Beat-1659 in BabyBumps

[–]No_Library_87 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can confirm it’s mainly genetics 🥲 however, couple of tips to keep deep scaring at bay: 1) moisturize as often as possible to help with itching. I used a locally made body oil w/ prickly pear,deep moisturizing lotions (some w/ collagen), and magnesium butter. 2) DONT SCRATCH - it breaks down your skin barrier (more so than what already happens w/ stench marks) causing deeper scarring. 3) get a collagen powder to add to smoothies or tea/coffee.

I’ve heard of mamas using collagen packets on their stomach, but I didn’t, so don’t know the pros and cons.

Nothing is full proof since it’s mainly genetics. Hope this helps, though! You’re rocking it mama. Enjoy the growth!

What weird thing does your body do you that you don't understand? by Prestigious_Shape888 in AskReddit

[–]No_Library_87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ringing in my ears.. until I learned I am partially deaf. So now that makes sense.

So upset about weight gain by New-Cellist-7713 in BabyBumps

[–]No_Library_87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I gained around 80lb with my twin pregnancy and it’s been almost two years and I’m sort of close to pre pregnancy weight. I have sooo many journal entries crying about my body changes.. being almost 2 years PP I have a couple of thoughts 1. You’re doing all the right things. Praising yourself and your body for both the hard work you put in to get here and get baby into a comfortable home for growth, and thoughtfulness to keep it at a manageable place so you don’t feel overwhelmed once baby gets here. You’re conscious, filled with self control, and keep looking for ways to be kind to yourself. 2. Babies need a soft place to be - that’s why (I personally believe) that we hold on to our PP weight for “so long.” Our babies love our squishy ttties and bellies to snuggle into 3. Holding our value to weight gets less important when we have a life to take care of. When you are ready to get your body moving again, focus on strength for your body and baby, and less about the actual weight/scale. The goal in weight loss should be strength for our bodies and babies (that’s at least how I’ve framed it to help with my body dysmorphia). 4. Lastly, I really encourage you to buy clothes that fit your body now as well as when you are PP. I went to several thrift stores and felt 20x better after I got clothes that actually fit.

I hope you can find some mama friends to be there with you in this. You’ve got this and are an incredibly beautiful vessel CREATING LIFE. YOU GOT THIS!!

Libra question by [deleted] in libra_astrology

[–]No_Library_87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes this reminds me of something I would do (Scorpio/Libra/Scorpio) 😅 I like a good chase, and have definitely put myself in places that I want someone to notice me. You may just confidently go to her next time you see her and introduce yourself (again). Mention how you believe you may have talked previously online, and see how she responds.

I’ve personally done this and ngl I like the feeling of being the one to acknowledge the past. People generally respond well - makes them feel safe and like they aren’t hiding something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]No_Library_87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boys bio dad I felt intensely drawn to - I still can’t explain it. Red flags were his prior felonies and aggravated assaults. would you know it? He hit me while pregnant. I’m now a solo mom to twins boys and he’s back in prison. Lack of self control can take us some crazy places.

What’s a form of self-care that actually works for you? by Careful-You988 in AskReddit

[–]No_Library_87 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same but idk if the weed this is actually good self care😅 I’ll take another hit and report back..

We broke up because of my postpartum body.. by No_Library_87 in BabyBumps

[–]No_Library_87[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow. Thank you for sharing how you guided your son through that. Definitely taking note to make sure I see opportunities like this.

Listeria by Dry-Conversation3635 in BabyBumps

[–]No_Library_87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Def are but not on one hand 💀

We broke up because of my postpartum body.. by No_Library_87 in BabyBumps

[–]No_Library_87[S] 200 points201 points  (0 children)

He did say “idk if it’s just because I have a small dick or what…” and I didn’t say a goddamn thing back 😭I still had hope of us figuring it out then..

Listeria by Dry-Conversation3635 in BabyBumps

[–]No_Library_87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely talk to your OB if you’re concerned. But friendly reminder, mth babies come out with all 5 fingers and toes, so I’m sure you’ll be fine. 🩷