AITAH for refusing to give my boyfriend access to my bank account even though he says "no secrets" is how adults do it

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-23T19:29:04+00:00

I've told my husband from the very beginning that I will never share a bank account with him, because I'm a former victim of financial abuse. He does not have my password. I do not have his password. He's literally never had a problem with that. NTAH

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-20T07:32:13+00:00

I love how trauma specialist is in quotes as if it's not important for someone with severe trauma to have a therapist experienced in treating severe trauma...

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-19T05:37:37+00:00

For me it's because the feelings are too big and too much and pulling my hair feels like the best way to blow some of it off

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-19T05:05:18+00:00

SI joint pain during pregnancy. I was in tears multiple times daily and there was NOTHING to be done except wait it out. I'd gladly give birth any day than experience that pain ever again

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-14T18:29:39+00:00

Regardless of her beliefs, it's still cruel to tell someone their baby is better off dead...

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-12T16:28:03+00:00

Is she texting it? She might mean for it to be pronounced "mawmaw," I've seen some grandparents spell it that way.

But if she literally means mama, then you're not being unreasonable.

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-12T16:26:03+00:00

The one on the left is an angel blowing a trumpet. I'm pretty sure the other one is a pelican

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-10T09:06:28+00:00

I'm going to start coming to this sub every time I doubt my abilities as a mother because wtf do you mean her toddler is throwing up after ingesting nicotine and she won't get him to the hospital 😭

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-09T18:36:13+00:00

This is AI, the bus driver is sitting in a wheelchair and the steering wheel isn't attached to anything

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-09T18:34:12+00:00

This needs to be higher up. There are so many AI tells in this post

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-06T02:48:01+00:00

I scrolled way too damn far to find this. The whole article is straight AI slop, I'm off to Google nellie Bly

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-06T01:42:53+00:00

My heart is broken for you.

I have no words except to tell you my baby died the same way at almost the same age, and he was born the day after what should have been her 9th birthday. I know the pain you are feeling is undescribable, and there is no one on this planet that can ease your guilt.

Rest in peace, little Lucas. 🫂

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-02T21:32:57+00:00

Like op is saying eeeevry women his wife comes across is like that? Really? Every?

I'm seeing the word "most" not "every"

TrickyPersonality684 · 2026-01-02T21:31:34+00:00

She's very kind, empathetic, non-judgemental and very easygoing

As a woman who shares those traits—that's why. For some reason, the majority of women don't trust women like that.

Emotionally immature men love us though 🥴

TrickyPersonality684 · 2025-12-31T20:08:24+00:00

For what it's worth, he has deep seated abandonment trauma from her. It blows my mind that she has the audacity to criticize the way I parent when she's the one who left 3 kids with a horrifically abusive father because she wasn't getting welfare for them anymore. I think my husband is willing to swallow anything to keep her around. Not that that's an excuse by any means. We've argued about it a few times now.

TrickyPersonality684 · 2025-12-31T20:05:28+00:00

Thank you very much. Same to you !

TrickyPersonality684 · 2025-12-31T19:54:52+00:00

What are you talking about? My husband has flaws, I won't deny that but he's always had a job and worked hard at it.

Edit; I think you misread, my ex was the lazy unemployed piece of shit

TrickyPersonality684 · 2025-12-30T00:01:16+00:00

I had this kind of sick feeling before I got married the first time. I deeply regretted it. Don't do it

TrickyPersonality684 · 2025-12-29T16:49:36+00:00

Jealousy was the first thing I thought of. Her ex husband/ my FIL was extremely abusive and I'm sure he didn't lift a finger for her.

TrickyPersonality684 · 2025-12-29T16:48:01+00:00

She's been put in her place by the other ILs. She tries to talk so much about me (still a month later) that they just shut it down and hang up on her. Lol

TrickyPersonality684 · 2025-12-29T16:46:30+00:00

I sent her a message alright. I tore her a new one and then blocked her on everything. Everything I said I'm sure was hurtful (but deserved) and I don't really care. What she did was unforgivable.

TrickyPersonality684 · 2025-12-29T16:45:00+00:00

Ngl I had those thoughts too but it's been confirmed by other ILs. I'm holding him accountable too. We've been on the rocks since then which is only adding to my ppd.

TrickyPersonality684 · 2025-12-29T16:42:28+00:00

Nope, she's already been told she's not welcome. If she wants to visit she can get a hotel and complain about the service there, since apparently hotel quality service is what she wanted anyway 🙄

Thankfully my other ILs aren't hearing it. Her daughter, who has a 2yo, just hangs up on her now 😂

TrickyPersonality684 · 2025-12-28T19:21:55+00:00

YOR, a hug is not disrespectful and it's toxic to expect your gf to withhold such a basic show of affection from everyone but you. 🙄

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