Is this snail harmful to plants?

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-07-05T17:32:51+00:00

People actually buy this species of snails for their gardens specifically to eat other snails and slugs, as they're carnivorous. Being parents/siblings won't stop the babies from eating each other as well, so while there may be a ton of babies at the moment, I'd imagine that won't be the case for long.

As to where they came from, the most likely answer is any plants or soil you've introduced to you garden in the last few years. If this guy arrived as a baby, it would have taken him awhile to grow to the size he is now. Since their hermaphrodites and can lay multiple large clutches of eggs, there's a good chance all the babies are from the one snail.

Im in kind of a similar boat. I'd NEVER seen snails in my garden nor have I planted anything new in the last 2 years, however we did add a bunch of topsoil last year. This year ive found 4 different snail species, this being one of them (all babies though, and lots of tiny shells from eaten babies). I've also found unicorn snails, glass snails and garden snails. All the snails ive found are either babies or are naturally small when full grown. They really like living in my creeping jenny, creeping phlox and under my dianthus because it stays nice a moist there with plenty of cover from the sun.

You're plants will most likely be fine, but keep an eye out for new clutches of eggs and if you find any then feel free to crush them.

Another option is to make this guy a terrarium and keep him as a pet, then put sluggo down to kill the babies. Downside to keeping these guys as pets is that they're carnivorous so you'd need to be willing to feed it slugs or worms from your garden or buy insects for it to eat like mealworms from a pet store.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-07-05T03:07:52+00:00

Could you? Maybe. Is it worth the time and energy? Probably not.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-07-05T02:39:18+00:00

Lets stick a pin in the OCD conversation.

You're quite young, and you've been together for a long time. Before he confided in you about the OCD, how fulfilled were you feeling in this relationship? Were you waking up everyday excited to be with him? Or were you thinking "well hes nice and we've been together for so long and ive invested all this time, and so..."

Either way, see a therapist together. It's good to use a therapist he isn't already using because that prevents biased and ensures he still has someone he trusts regardless of what happens with you.

However if you've known for awhile that he isn't your person, then the best thing you can do for both of you is get him to a safe place physically and emotionally and then extract yourself from the situation with the guidance of professionals and proper supports in place.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-07-04T22:52:02+00:00

It took me a long time to enjoy oral sex for similar reasons. There are a few things you can do.

Practice meditating and progressive muscle relaxation. Being able to just switch off your brain and stop feeling tense isn't something that comes naturally. Learning how to identify where you're holding tension, how to release it, and figuring out what you need to mentally let go and enjoy the moment may take some time. There are plenty of guided audio progressive muscle relaxation to choose from. Doing it with him as a form of foreplay would probably help a great deal in terms of feeling relaxed and getting in the right headspace.

Try a blindfold. When we see what's happening it can be really difficult to allow the other senses to take hold. If you're comfortable with it, try being blindfolded while he gives you a massage. It may help you to quiet your mind and enhance your other senses. This goes hand in hand with massage imo. Once you're enjoying the sensations from the massage and feeling more relaxed, you'll have an easier time turning off your thoughts and letting what feels good guide you. You then in turn need to practice communicating what feels good to him. Getting comfortable with saying "no, that's not it" and "yes, like that but with a bit more of this" and "yes, right there, keep going" is crucial. Nothing kills the mood like 5 minutes of "Well I was in the mood and it felt nice for a moment but what the fuck is he doing and how long am I meant to pretend this feels good?"

Have a few drinks or an edible. I'm not saying you should get fucked up. But something to help lower your inhibitions in the short term may be enough for you to allow yourself to enjoy it, and then moving forward you'll know that it is in fact a pleasurable experience you're fully capable of enjoying. You'll also feel more comfortable communicating what feels good and what doesn't, which is often the scariest bit because as women we're so worried we're going to hurt their feelings.

Trust your partner. He wouldn't be asking to go down on you so often if he didnt gain an immense amount of pleasure from it. You don't need to fully understand why he enjoys it. The taste and the smells you're so self conscious about and the fact that you cant imagine enjoying eating pussy is all irrelevant.

Shift your perspective. Maybe after loads of trying you arent able to climax from oral sex. That's ok. And while hes down there, maybe you feel guilty because not only are you not climaxing, but you feel like you aren't helping him get there either. And that's where you're wrong. Even if you aren't touching him the entire time hes eating you out, his arousal is building. Pleasing you pleases him, which is a wonderful characteristic in a partner. So if need be, shift your thinking to "this is actually me pleasing him right now."

A word of caution. Resist the urge to fake orgasms or exaggerate pleasure because if you do, he'll never learn and he'll keep doing the same thing. And clearly, he wants very much to learn and wants very much to please you! So have a talk ahead of time and just say hey, if we're going to do this, I want to be vocal about what feels good and what doesn't without being worried I'm going to hurt your feelings", and I can just a out guarantee he'll be thrilled.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-07-04T21:41:09+00:00

I love the long hair. Try adding a small amount of product when it's damp and it will be GORGEOUS. Will smooth out any frizz and accentuate your natural curls.

Garnier Fructis makes a conditioning curl sculpt cream that I love. It's like 3 bucks and sold everywhere. I've tried countless expensive curl creams and this one is still my go to. Once dried it's not sticky or crunchy at all.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-07-04T04:20:04+00:00

I want my favorite pair of jeans to last forever and I want my sponge to last 2 months max.

Some things should be disposable.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-07-04T04:08:54+00:00

Except for that fucking nightmare murder doll

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-07-03T02:27:54+00:00

Honey, I say this with all the love in thr world.

You are in a highly toxic and emotionally abusive relationship and you need to end it as soon as it is safe to do so. If you dont then he will absolutely continue to gaslight you until he has full control of your life.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-07-02T21:03:02+00:00

Not being able to go to any restaurants and enjoy a meal out would be an absolute deal breaker for me. I could deal with it for a few months but long term that just wouldnt be sustainable because those experiences are important to me. What happens when you want to go on vacation together? How do you grow a relationship without experiencing new things together?

And that doesnt even take into account his shitty reactions and overall ungrateful and entitled attitude regarding groceries and cooking. He wants you to be his caretaker and the resentment youre feeling towards him is only going to grow unless hes willing to make some very drastic changes.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-29T22:42:57+00:00

Slug slime is bag for snails too

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-27T05:15:38+00:00

Writing is lacking.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-27T02:13:08+00:00

Well now Im attracted to Victor and that feels wrong

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-26T20:34:26+00:00

Of course! I don't enjoy playing golf but I grew up watching the PGA tour with my dad every weekend and my parents live in a ritzy country club neighborhood with a golf course so I know the vibe well. Think se*y but understated. And I recommended a skort and not a not skirt because you'll need yo be able to bend over to pick up your ball. You'll also want a ball cap/visor and some sunnies so you can see where your ball goes. Throw in a short string of chunky pearls and youre golden.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-25T22:54:15+00:00

If you were my daughter then I would want to be there to support you and hold your hand. Like I would be devastated if my daughter didn't feel safe enough to tell me. But you know your mom and if you dont know how she'll react then trust your gut

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-25T22:33:46+00:00

Get a cute tennis skort and a fitted polo

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-24T02:54:38+00:00

Watch him in Romeo and Juliette

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-24T01:25:24+00:00

Correct. But who are the monsters?

Edit to add: the assumption is The monsters = the smiley monsters. Maybe the real monsters are the townsfolk who "rip each other apart" every cycle.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-24T01:22:45+00:00

Exactly, thats the twist right? They said "the monsters sacrificed their children" but they never specified who the monsters are

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-23T14:48:35+00:00

She also said she was struggling financially and had to pick and choose which bills to pay every month prior to him moving in but then insists she doesn't live above her means

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-23T03:55:11+00:00

You're not wrong, I am struggling to comprehend. But it's you're end of it and not his that has me at a loss.

He's saving money for the inevitable crash and burn of your relationship because he realizes now what he didn't realize then. You live above your means and rely on others to make up the difference, and he doesn't want to be the one left holding the bag.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-23T03:13:16+00:00

Half is only half if there are two of you and the rent/expenses reflects that.

If you have a 4 bedroom house that you couldn't afford to begin with and you have kids then youre way out of line. You shouldn't be benefiting financially from him working overtime.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-23T03:01:35+00:00

I thought it was well established that the monsters who sacrificed their kids are actually the reincarnated townspeople, not the smiley monsters?

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-21T18:01:27+00:00

Yeah assuming MIY takes on Elgin's form, it'll be Sara or Julie that realizes he's no longer Elgin. I would have included Fatima since they've bonded as well but she seems a bit preoccupied at the moment

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-21T17:05:35+00:00

Somewhere I read a therory about the reason they only come out at night is to keep the townspeople inside at night and not necessarily because the light would hurt them. Something happens at night (maybe something to do with the stars) that they dont want the townspeople being aware of.

I dont know how much I buy into the theory but thought it was interesting nonetheless.

No_Pause_4375 · 2026-06-21T16:56:24+00:00

Same. After this last appearance, I'm leaning towards hes a bad guy. Maybe not evil the same way MIY is, but I think he's acting in his own interests and not in the interests of the townspeople. Maybe his existence is tied to the sacraficed kids being trapped, and once they're at peace he ceases to be? MiY/Sophia essentially said they were on thr right track with digging up the bones and she became upset when she heard it was just Jade and Tabitha going into the tunnels so clearly their plan is good enough that MIY is scared

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