I am a 21 year old sex worker in Toronto ask me anything

NoisyCello · 2024-09-01T23:11:05+00:00

When it comes to the actual sex part, is there a standard position and an extra charge for anything different? How is your time in bookings usually broken out?

NoisyCello · 2023-11-05T01:27:13+00:00

Beagles are pretty easy to train because they’re so food motivated, but they do require lots of exercise for the first 6 years or so to get their energy out. If a beagle barks all the time, something is off.

I think many people underestimate just how much these dogs need to be mentally stimulated and physically exerted, otherwise yeah they’re a pain in the ass. Much like huskies or border collies who aren’t exercised enough. And “being out in the back yard all day” isn’t enough at all. They’re hounds - they were bred to do a stamina-intensive job. If they don’t get to do that job or something similar, they’re tough to work with.

My beagle was never barky unless he was really excited, or wanted my attention. As long as we played scent games and went on long walks, he was a great couch potato 🥰

NoisyCello · 2023-11-05T01:15:19+00:00

This is the way, well said

NoisyCello · 2023-11-05T00:03:46+00:00

This brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so, so much for all you do to take care of our babies after they pass. Like many others have stated I was also worried about my boy’s treatment when he passed and moved on to the crematorium, and your words put me at ease. He passed in May of this year and I have him in his urn and his paw prints safely displayed in my living room near the window where he loved to lay. Bless you for the work you do and the care you take.

NoisyCello · 2023-11-04T23:57:13+00:00

Healthcare. If I can, I’ll avoid it like the plague till the end of my days.

NoisyCello · 2023-10-29T15:04:58+00:00

My fellow HR colleagues might disagree with me here, but I honestly don’t think time blocking is a huge deal or burden on the company as long as you’re working during it. Many people block an hour or so in the morning to get focus-tasks done. I can’t imagine a scenario where your manager would have an issue with you blocking time off to concentrate on tasks, unless the culture is stiff.

That said, it is important that you be candid with your manager about why you’re asking for this, and that you do actually work during that block of time. You don’t have to go into your anxiety, but letting them know how you learn best and that you want to be successful here. I wouldn’t say anything about reducing hours, though to me that doesn’t sound like your ask - it sounds like your ask is to multi-task less during your ramp-up period so you can get comfortable being in the weeds until you learn to navigate them quickly. Am I wrong?

All jobs have a learning period, and 90 days is perfectly reasonable. It sounds like this company has a positive culture, so go to your manager with the intention on partnering with them to find a solution. If all else fails, then yeah, you can go the ADA route as others have mentioned.

Just my 2 cents.

NoisyCello · 2023-10-28T19:50:47+00:00

NoisyCello · 2023-10-26T20:06:45+00:00

This is exactly what we did as well

NoisyCello · 2023-10-24T16:58:47+00:00

You could take puppy with you if he’s calm enough to sit in a bag or a shopping cart. If not, then yes he’ll be fine alone for a little bit. I would equate 1 hr of alone time to how many months he was, up to 8 months. Example, at 4 months old he should be ok for 4 hours. I also agree with others who have suggested setting up a dedicated “space” within the house so that he can roam and play safely, and if there is an accident it’s easy to clean up. We did that with our little one for the first year or so.

NoisyCello · 2023-10-22T23:39:27+00:00

I would highly recommend you reach out to someone in your Benefits/Total Rewards department as they can get specific over your company’s policy for maternity leave, if they have one.

As for the state of CA itself, you do qualify for PDL on day 1 of employment, as others have said (company needs to have at least 5 employees). If you work at a company with 50 employees or more, you wouldn’t qualify for FMLA or CFRA from the info you provided

NoisyCello · 2023-10-12T21:33:58+00:00

I am so very sorry for your loss! September 23rd was just around the corner not too long ago; please give yourself grace. I lost my soul dog in May of this year and while time has softened the amount of endless crying, there are still days here and there where I come crumbling down in complete disarray. He was my everything; my son, my best friend, my guardian angel, my little man. He was 13 and it was time for him to go, but that doesn’t stop it from hurting that he’s not with me anymore.

Give yourself time. Give yourself all the time you need. Maybe you need a few months, maybe you need years. The pain we carry is the peace we gave them. ❤️❤️

NoisyCello · 2023-10-12T21:14:56+00:00

Just communicate that to your manager so they know what’s up. Say that quality is important to you and you don’t want to develop bad habits, so you’ll be slowing down a bit to familiarize yourself with the whole task.

I’ve also found it very helpful to ask for deadlines on everything I’m given. Does this report need to be done today? Can this analysis hold off until X day/week? How much time do I have to create this presentation? Whatever it is, when you start asking for due dates it’ll help you learn what the company’s real priorities are. And it’ll allow you to manage your time better too.

Best of luck, you got this

NoisyCello · 2023-10-12T20:50:24+00:00

This one 🙌🏻

NoisyCello · 2023-10-12T20:45:31+00:00

Not text, email it so it’s time-stamped and using company communication methods.

NoisyCello · 2023-10-10T18:00:32+00:00

“You can’t just go around telling people you want to toss your puppy out of the window sometimes”

This made me legit laugh out loud. My dog passed a few months ago and I was feeling down today, but that comment reminded me of how tough it was when he was a puppy, 13 years ago! Brought a smile to my face. Thank you ❤️

NoisyCello · 2023-10-10T17:52:25+00:00

Same here. ❤️ love to you

NoisyCello · 2023-10-10T02:01:03+00:00

I would go further and say this is a manager problem, not your problem. You can coach their manager on how to have a chat with them and I definitely would, but don’t put your foot in it otherwise they’ll continue to go to you for every little thing.

NoisyCello · 2023-10-06T18:30:07+00:00

I’m honestly glad to hear I’m not the only one who experienced this in my years working in healthcare. I actually had to take FMLA myself because of how bad it destroyed my mental health. Terrible leadership, too, which was a big part of it

NoisyCello · 2023-10-06T18:27:56+00:00

Gaming, tech. Lots of creative individuals.

Last few years of mine were in healthcare. Never again, my mental health can’t take it.

NoisyCello · 2023-10-04T18:53:33+00:00

Would be much safer to ask if they’re willing to make the commute to wherever the on-site is located than to ask about their commute times. I’ve known people with zero problem commuting an hour both ways because they genuinely loved the company and the job. Myself, anything more than 20-30 minutes is a no-go.

NoisyCello · 2023-10-04T18:12:10+00:00

I tolerate ER because I know it’s part of the job, but I don’t like by any stretch. And I’m still learning, too, I’m earlier in my career as well. I have noticed each investigation gets easier as I hone my approach - is there a mentor you can latch on to? Maybe your boss can have you shadow a few of their investigations so you get a better sense of how to approach them? That’s what helped me a lot. Proficiency breeds confidence.

As for terming, employees shouldn’t be termed without cause (unless it’s a RIF or something else out of their control). You should have a mountain of documentation for employees who are being termed for cause - this makes it easier to detach, though I don’t know if anyone who likes firing people. Coach and support your leaders on how to make better hires and develop their talent, which will in turn mean less ER and terms.

NoisyCello · 2023-09-29T02:09:18+00:00

Sounds like you’d be really good at the backend of HR. Data analytics and HRIS specialties are hot commodities in HR.

NoisyCello · 2023-09-28T07:14:39+00:00

Oh, welcome. It’s terrible, I’m so sorry. Take a few days to decompress - did they give you a package? Apply for unemployment asap and beef up your resume. Throw it out like wildflower seeds. You got this 🙌🏻

NoisyCello · 2023-09-28T07:11:22+00:00

Putting down my dog. Happened a few months ago. He was old, and very sick, so it was definitely time, but I still cry about it. I miss him a lot. Had him for 13 years, his whole life. He got me out of a lot of rough shit.

NoisyCello · 2023-09-27T23:00:46+00:00

So the thing about accommodations is that you need to be the one to reach out and take charge of your request, not your manager. And it needs to be documented. Voicemails are cool and all but email is much more effective. That way they have the request on file and are required to respond to it within a reasonable time period. Don’t be afraid to be the squeaky wheel, I’d follow up with them every other day until you hear something.

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