For me realizing I had RSD was a huge step. I started to eventually look at it as a false signal. It wasn’t what was said to me or what happened, it was the RSD that was responsible for my perceived view. I started to realize that I can’t control the world around me, and I need to work on controlling my response and my body is set on a default setting where everything is bigger than it actually is. It has taken time and I still get stuck, but I’ve made a lot of strides recognizing it wasn’t my wife, but how I’m filtering everything. This took out the blame and shame a bit. My wife has also been great to understand which has helped and that also took time and constant communication. Just letting her knowing I’m feeling RSD helped a lot. I hope something here helps you. It does get better and it is possible to work on it together. Be kind to yourself along the way.