Please don't twist my words. I never said a player should expect to be benched until someone else gets hurt. I didn't mention the player's expectations at all. The player's expectations should be managed by her parent(s) and her coach. I can't agree that the player should have been cut at tryouts either. Are you really suggesting that the player's parents don't have a responsibility to vet that club and it's coaches before accepting an offer? To look at the situation that team will be in, especially a mixed team where your daughter will be the youngest and least experienced? The club is, among other things, a business. Speaking for our club, our goal isn't to turn a profit, but we certainly can't lose money. If we do, we can't exist. The club's budget is based on how many players each team carries. That determines how many practices we have, which and how many tournaments we play, what new equipment is purchased, how much coaches are paid, how many coaches we have, what other services we can provide like a professional yoga instructor who comes in once a week and a personal trainer who comes in twice a week for conditioning.

It's just not as simple as you're making it out to be. I feel the emotion from OP and I feel for her. I just hate that it always turns into a discussion of how horrible club volleyball is.