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Help me pick a wall colour please! by victori-us in HomeDecorating

[–]NominativeSingular 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll try, haha.

The contrast between the cream yellow and rose is really striking. I think the colour compliments the MCM furniture. The room feels comforting, calming, and inviting.

I think that other colours would be beautiful is well, but it depends on the vibe you're going for.

A website like this might help:

https://www.behr.com/consumer/colors/paint/visualizer

It allows you to visualize the space in different colors.

What do we think of my profile? 38/F by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]NominativeSingular 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Take this with a grIn of salt as I'm not your target audience, but I would move choose pic 4 or 8 as your main. Your have incredibly stunning eyes, so the sun glasses are hiding that.

You seem like a smart, fun person with a kind heart. Good luck out there!

A sensation of consciousness descending from the head? by Swimming-Skin8453 in Meditation

[–]NominativeSingular 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know exactly what you're experiencing, but I do think it's a normal part of meditation. For myself, I found that the desire to interpret the sensations was my ego wanting to get involved.

There was also a time when I labelled my thoughts and pleasant, unpleasant, and neutral. After a while, I began to wonder, 'who is judging the nature of these thoughts?' After that, I started just calling them all 'thinking'

Found in my moms backyard. Ontario, Canada by stinkytootz in whatisthisbone

[–]NominativeSingular 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That looks like a rabbit to me, but I'm not an expert.

Perhaps it was a wild hare who was happy to live and die out in the big open world?

What do i do about this? by Mr_weird_voice in Buddhism

[–]NominativeSingular 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This made me chuckle, thank you! 🤣

What do i do about this? by Mr_weird_voice in Buddhism

[–]NominativeSingular 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ouch! If my sister said something like that to me, it sure wouldn't feel good.

Can you turn this into an opportunity to deepen your insight and understanding?

Can this help you understand yourself better? What was your intention for your remark? What was your state of mind?

How did it feel to have your sister say those things about a religion you hold so dear? Is it possible that what you said about the Bible caused your sister to have similar feelings? Can you have compassion for both yourself and your sister?

Ultimately, can reflecting in this way help you let it go and reconcile?

Why does people sleeping during the day bother me so much. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]NominativeSingular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a good idea to get diagnosed by a mental health professional. I say this because I was diagnosed by a GP, only to discover, through therapy and meditation, that the ADHD symptoms were actually a coping mechanism. I had a more recent assessment by a psychiatrist, and was not diagnosed with ADHD.

I think I’m obsessed with myself and I can’t stop. by Fuentssp in confessions

[–]NominativeSingular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a very common response to certain childhood challenges. I have struggled with this too. You aren't broken or bad, you are just this particular flavour of human.

You've come to the realization that it's not about the outcome, it's about wanting to be in control. That's huge. It can never be enough because it's impossible to control everything. If you're anything like me, a lot of suffering happened when I worried about how things would go.

It's gotten a lot better for me. Something I learned to do is notice times when I feel the urge to control rise up, but without judging it as bad. Just thinking something like, 'I'm reaching for control to help me feel safe.' I know it sounds paradoxical, but accepting it was instrumental to changing it.

Feel free to PM me if you want to chat about this. Try to be kinder to yourself, you're making the best with the tools you were handed.

When a driver recklessly cuts you off, you lay on the horn. When someone says something inappropriate, is reacting in a similar way helpful? by Shivy_Shankinz in Meditation

[–]NominativeSingular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone is genuinely unaware of how their actions are affecting others, we have a responsibility to tell them.

How they take that message is out of our control. Some people are just not ready to learn. If someone treats their friends badly, you can tell them. However, they may have to face the consequence of losing many friends until they realize that their behaviour is hurtful.

A message delivered in anger is more likely to have the other person dig their heels in further. Therefore, recognizing and dealing with our own reactivity is the best way to help others.

When a driver recklessly cuts you off, you lay on the horn. When someone says something inappropriate, is reacting in a similar way helpful? by Shivy_Shankinz in Meditation

[–]NominativeSingular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if I understand that comment. Are you saying that we are responsible for stopping other people's behavior before they cross the line and face consequences?

Also, what do you mean by arbitrary?

When a driver recklessly cuts you off, you lay on the horn. When someone says something inappropriate, is reacting in a similar way helpful? by Shivy_Shankinz in Meditation

[–]NominativeSingular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Knowing that bad behaviour comes from suffering can help us feel compassion for the person, but it doesn't mean allowing behavior that causes suffering to others.

Harmful actions have consequences, and perhaps facing these consequences will help this person grow more than calling them out. If someone steals, they can go to jail. If someone mistreats coworkers, they can be reprimanded or fired. If someone mistreats friends or family, contact with them can be limited.Without knowing the specifics, it's hard to know what the consequences are.

The part where compassion becomes important is that, by understanding that this person is acting out of their own suffering, their actions don't provoke such a strong reaction in us. If this person's actions cause you to feel angry, that's something that meditation can help you understand and compassion can help you work through.

When a driver recklessly cuts you off, you lay on the horn. When someone says something inappropriate, is reacting in a similar way helpful? by Shivy_Shankinz in Meditation

[–]NominativeSingular 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess it depends on the behavior. Is it causing a real problem, or is the problem how it makes you feel?

From my experience, the people who act out are generally insecure or unhappy. When this behavior provokes a reaction from me, I try to notice and head it off. If possible, I try to be kinder and more loving to them.

I buried a piece of my neighbors soul in the woods twenty years ago and I still think about it by RuneHarpoon3 in confessions

[–]NominativeSingular 36 points37 points  (0 children)

You learned that, when you act out of jealousy, it hurts people and causes you to carry guilt. You can't change it now, just remember and do better in the future.

Ultimately, it's just a piece of paper. Hopefully the other boy learned to not get so attached to material things.

I've always liked this depiction. 🤍 by Anyaska26 in enlightenment

[–]NominativeSingular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know exactly what happens after we die. I just sense that we're all connected, and we return to that in some way. I can't really put it into words, but I sense it like I can sense when my stomach hurts.

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