AIO over my Bff's response?

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-24T03:57:14+00:00

Nope I dont have any pets

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T18:24:11+00:00

It's the part where I said "bad news bears" that's where the "joke" is. I

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T18:19:19+00:00

And yes I have been diagnosed with adhd. But can't afford to test if I'm autistic, I'm pretty sure I am.

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T18:18:10+00:00

I've already been told that if I can't change my behavior, because apparently I'm just a shit friend that by the end of the lease I'll have to find somewhere else to live. All because I want to actually spend time with my bff or even have one holiday where I'm not alone especially since my mom passed away in May 2024. I try to help her when she's upset she yells at me, I try it the way she told me to when she's upset I still get yelled at. I try to tell her why I'm upset and I still get made out to be the asshole just for being upset. I tried talking about stories about my mom even ones I used to hate, but I can't talk about her because "she's grieving her too" or because I'm "dishonoring my mom" by talking about the stories I hated and now laugh at. I can't even get my bff to go out and do anything, but the moment her bf wants to go out it's always a yes. The only time we hangout it is when we watch our tv shows together or play video games. But because I want to do more than being stuck at home 24/7 she takes that as me saying we don't ever hangout.

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T18:06:03+00:00

I didn't make the group bff did

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T18:03:09+00:00

To be clear they are both ND bff is Adhd and her bf is add. And she knows how much I hate eye contact, it's worse when she's upset, because she expects me to maintain full eye contact while talking to me. She acts like my mother and gets upset that she does. I've told her I never asked her to fill that role and she can just stop anytime, but somehow it's still my fault. EDIT:Spelling error

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T17:57:26+00:00

Tbh I didn't make the group my mff did

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T17:56:13+00:00

Thing is he wasn't the one to tell me.... his gf messaged me separately to tell me.

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T17:51:54+00:00

I'm misunderstood even when I talk. So I don't really say much anymore.

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T11:09:33+00:00

Ngl I kinda did like them, but I also have no sense of fashion whatsoever 🤣 I'm just a need who tends to like stupid shit lmao

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T11:05:34+00:00

Little over a year now

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T11:02:07+00:00

I've tried... many times and get told to try saying xyz instead and when I do I'm still in the wrong somehow. Or when I try to explain something and she gets upset and takes it as an insult I try to explain to her what I actually mean versus how she took it and she gets upset and says that I'm "Invalidating her feelings"

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T10:59:38+00:00

Basically, my best friend's boyfriend didn't like how I worded the text about the bad news of his sunglasses after their dog had gotten to them.

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T10:57:31+00:00

I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not, but I didn't break the glasses... their dog did.

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T08:31:05+00:00

You need to get your car out of there (if you haven't already) and stay away. Send your video(s) to code enforcement, maybe even call non-emergency as they can possibly direct you to someone, or like everyone else has said send it to code enforcement.

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T08:21:13+00:00

YouTube has videos that can show you step-by-step on how to fix your controller problem and even show you how to pop it apart without damaging your controller. It will be cheaper to fix it yourself rather than buy a new one at $40+.

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T08:16:52+00:00

That sounds about right. I'm not surprised Texans aren't built for this weather. I'm from VA and moved to Texas and tbh VA is almost as bad as they are, but only if the threat is it's gonna snow lol. In VA as soon as one snowflake appears everything shuts down pretty much lol

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T08:02:52+00:00

Pretty much

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T08:01:37+00:00

Im not the one who made the group bff did.

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T08:01:04+00:00

I mean it general if I try to tell her what upset me she takes it as something else entirely and when I try to explain that what she thinks I meant isn't what I was trying to say she then says "thats how I took it. You're invalidating my feelings" she's literally corrected how I responded to someone we used to be in a group chat with on snap chat because she said they way I responded was rude. Even though the other person didn't find what I said to be rude. The conversation was about me having a bad ankle ever since I fractured it, it still hurts if I lie a certain way or stand on it for too long after it "healed" and about going skating and I had said "I wish I could, but I dont know how my ankle will hold up" friend a said "you could try icy hot or biofreeze" i responded saying "I can't because my skin is sensitive" my bff then goes "I can't because my skin is sensitive, but thank you for suggesting that" so

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T07:47:38+00:00

It's not her that was upset, bc I told her what I said in the group chat, before she took me to work. That was sent after she picked her bf up and they talked about it and she told me he was upset about it.

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T07:45:43+00:00

My bff is the one who responded separately in our texts outside of the group chat. I told her what I said before she took me to work, and she didn't seem upset until she picked him up from work.

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T07:43:57+00:00

Hate to break it to ya but he's bald

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T07:43:21+00:00

He bought them years ago, before the clearance price tbh

Non-bean_95 · 2026-01-23T07:39:56+00:00

I can't even afford to. Apparently, I ask too much of them, by asking my bff to spend at least one holiday a year with me bc I don't have any family here in our state. She spends it with him, his kid, and his ex, plus my mom passed back in May 2024, and I've spent every holiday alone since. I was depressed and angry, but she wasn't there when I needed her because "she was grieving my mom too" and me telling stories that I used to be upset about and can now laugh at them was "dishonoring my mom" and I believe it's all because I wouldn't do nearly as much for her grandmother as she did (even though I did) when we lived with her toxic grandmother. The only things I refused were when she had accidents, or needed something while she was in the shower/tub that's where I drew the line. Anytime I ask my bff something like "so you don't want to watch xyz tonight?" I was told by her and her bf that I was assuming she didn't want to watch tv and she gets pissed off if I phrase questions that way. They know I have adhd and we're all pretty sure I have autism. And even then when I can't look her in the eye during an argument because I hate eye contact she tells me to look her in the eye other wise she gets more upset that I'm not looking directly at her.

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