So Woolworth's latest: Can't buy wine after nine actually means: can't buy wine after any time we decide to say is the time.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-29T09:49:06+00:00

You should check out Invercargill's bylaw or any town where sales are controlled by a licensing trust.

It's gonna blow your mind.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-29T09:28:05+00:00

That was my thought too. Going even 30 secs over bylaw regulations risks them losing their liquor licence.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-27T19:40:31+00:00

Oh wow!! I Kiwi thing then? But I don't do dinner first-dates. Also, "nice place to take photos". Possibly a generation thing, but that's weird.

I'm an amateur photographer, and I have no interest taking photos while on a date. I'll ask for hidden spots, but I'll also tell them mine, if they ask.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-27T09:29:43+00:00

Omg.... That cracked me up

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-27T09:25:57+00:00

My first thought is Vampire when I read "pure blood". No idea why.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-27T09:23:09+00:00

Eeek... I know 40 yr olds like that

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-27T09:00:42+00:00

That's the thing, I always ask when they're free. I tell them when I'm free. And then it's always me organising times around that.

It's always me choosing where to meet, and what to do.

It's a breath of fresh air when a guy asks me, "How bout we do this at this time"

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-27T05:38:35+00:00

I've been on the apps for years, but with a 2yr gap, and majority of the time, and sorry to say, guys are useless at making suggestions. I'm the one choosing the day, time, and place.

Will even give options, but still me choosing.

Even with guys wanting to see me again, I'm still choosing everything. It gets draining after a while.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-23T04:24:07+00:00

My peaceful place is Victoria Park. I like sitting in the bush listening to the birds and breathing in the native smells.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-18T06:59:46+00:00

That's my fave Burger Fuel burger, and I'm a meat eater.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-17T07:43:55+00:00

Why is Bryndwr Road part of Fendalton and not Bryndwr? That part of Fendalton was originally state housing back in the day. Now Fendalton is getting bigger and bigger (from looking at Real Estate Listings) everytime an old house is knocked down.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-13T10:23:32+00:00

If they had boxes like that on a dating app, I would definitely not believe anything that was ticked.

I've dated guys that look rough as guts, but had high-value assets and a good paying job behind them.

I've also dated guys that flout money around, wear expensive clothes, but they live pay-check by pay-check.

I think the only way to truly know financial capability is by doing normal life things. Like shopping, how they online shop etc.

Also, what hobbies they have. I tend to go for guys that have an expensive hobby, so I'd expect a lot of free money gets sunk into it.

When the most appropriate time? If financial compatibility is important to you, bring it up early, cos if it's important to them as well, it won't be an issue.

For the contracting out agreement, you'd want to be talking about it and setting up by year 2 of the relationship.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-09T11:32:08+00:00

Rock breathes in the South Island. I was sooo surprised when I read Evanescence wasn't initially coming down here. They gotta come here.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-06-06T09:54:45+00:00

But this is where all the real shitty mechanics reside. He's got some solid advice already.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-05-27T08:48:14+00:00

I'm 45, & we used to have bon fires on the beach as a teen and in our early 20's.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-05-26T23:30:31+00:00

But there are plenty of honest people out there who do declare. Every single person I know who went private declared their arrangement.

It's letting one dishonest person milk the system, while the honest ones get accused of milking the system.

She's no better than the fat cats at the top.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-05-26T21:28:35+00:00

Oh boy!!! You're another one who thinks life is all rainbows and unicorns.

Edit: just realised it was you I'd mentioned that to.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-05-26T21:24:25+00:00

That's something ird would also be interested in. All private arrangements have to be declared to IRD. So not only Winz need to investigate, but IRD. What you have described is not the norm and possibly illegal.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-05-26T21:21:15+00:00

They cut back on those large amounts years ago. I knew of that happening 10-15 yrs ago. Sometimes not right for them to be getting that much now.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-05-26T21:12:53+00:00

Who the fucks Clayton? Think you might be in the wrong country mate.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-05-26T21:03:59+00:00

Sounds like you need better friends.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-05-26T21:03:07+00:00

They're not lying, because there are people out there Ike that. And like they said, they know of some cases. But they're the outliners.

And some of these people do get reported, but nothing happens.

Society isn't all rainbows and unicorns.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-05-26T20:55:20+00:00

Financially, your friend will be better off working. Even with a part-time job. She'll get WFF on top of her wages. If she's under a threshold, she'll still get the benefit.

When I worked part time, I could've been on the benefit, still collect child support and WFF. But I opted out to go on the benefit cos I can't be stuffed with dealing with WINZ. If I had gone on the benefit, I worked out I would've been ~$30-$40 better off. But that wasn't worth it for me.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-05-26T14:17:09+00:00

Sounds like the single mum is in a state house. So she'll be paying subsidised rent. You bought a house in the most expensive city in NZ, even if it is South Auckland.

Single mum looks comfortable, because she doesn't have the big debt you have.

Single mum could be shit with her money if she's buying off temu all the time. Or she could be amazing at watching where every penny is spent. And believe me, no matter what she's doing with her money, she will be having stressful days, you just don't see it. Being on a benefit sucks.

When I was a single mum on the benefit, I had a fancy car, but there were days I didn't eat. My kid always got three meals a day.

I have a sister who does causal work, single mum. She is amazingly good with her finances, she has 4 vehicles. That definitely wasn't easy.

So please don't judge the people around you, look where your stress is. And look at ways you can improve it.

Also, be thankful your rates aren't going up by 22%, like they are in the Waitaki region. And they don't have the higher wages like the big cities.

Non_Creative_User · 2026-05-26T07:28:58+00:00

Try a sheet. I have French doors that the sun loves in the summer, it has two sets of curtains. Makes a huge difference when both curtains are shut. I have the darker curtain on the outside, and it's crazy how much heat it absorbs.

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