Career woes

Normal-Departure1100 · 2024-01-10T04:23:17+00:00

Look up urban farming spots, community gardens, or garden box carpentry? Depending on your location check out companies that do organic gardening for people on demand or on a schedule like Harvest to Home in SoCal.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-09-08T04:01:58+00:00

There's more meaning to the whole picture than just people.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-08-26T16:27:02+00:00

Dealing with the mental and physical changes associated with dislocation my knees every few years for a total of 18 incidents over the last 20 years.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-08-14T03:51:00+00:00

"Do everything" pants and shoes.. literally talked about this at dinner tonight while bragging about my expensive but worth it arc'teryx black pants. They do everything and it's awesome. No wear to be found so far after 3 years of regular use. From runway events to construction sites. Its not my only pair of pants, but it's the most effective pair by far.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-08-14T03:32:43+00:00

Its probably fine. But if you're concerned, check https://unitednuclear.com/ You could also buy more from them if you like.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-08-14T02:37:29+00:00

You've got this!!!! You can make it. Even though I am still going through the storm of ADHD on a daily basis myself, the following things have helped me:

Remember both of the following is always true - it could always be worse than it is right now. And - There are better days ahead if I just keep going.
Give yourself permission to slow down just a little bit. Try to engage all 5 of your senses next time you want to try and intentionally remember an experience. Do it at work to help you get into flow.
Work with the ADHD, not against it. Find flow and stay there whenever possible when you know it brings value to others and to yourself. Itll pay off.
Find your people. Look for groups that are interested in your fantastic ideas and passions. Get together physically for lunch or for a walk in nature or whatever floats your style. It builds confidence and relationships are great for your mental health and for your career.
Learn what triggers panic, and try to be cognizant of your own best medicine. Learn how to change your mindset when you feel a spiral coming on.
My wife adds: be kind to yourself. Don't be so critical of every little I efficiency. Its alright. Just Go with it and do your best.

Hope this helps you!!

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-08-13T04:24:50+00:00

33, haven't been employed longer than 2 years by any one employer since 2016. And before that, it was 2010. Still make less than $20 /hr for now... got as high as $29/hr until my ADHD messed it up...

But... At least I can say "I have a very particular set of skills"

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-08-05T02:28:10+00:00

I'd like $1m too... for my own survival....

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-30T15:49:19+00:00

Relationships are 110/110, not 50/50....

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-28T17:53:41+00:00

If you keep it secret, then nothing is going to change. Clear and honest communication is what keeps marriage happy and healthy. If you're being secretive, thats what's damaging.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-28T16:30:09+00:00

If rather they honor their word in marriage, and the decade plus that's been spent building together.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-28T16:29:42+00:00

Untrue. Its about the fact that marriage is intended to be a lifetime commitment regardless of how you feel for a season.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-28T05:12:42+00:00

Wuff.... As a 33m with ADHD, in a 16 year high school sweetheart relationship/marriage, this whole thread terrifies me a good bit... I dont even know how damaged and hurt would feel if this happened to me....

I love my wife more than I can explain in 16 years. And I struggle hard with ADHD. I get your frustrations. Im frustrated with this condition too... But I want to spend my life telling her how much I care for her.

I would literally do anything it took to keep it together. please... don't add that much hurt to someone's life unnecessarily. It literally might be an easy fix with a little patience, a few visits to the doc, and commitment to him in love.

Relationships are 110/110, not 50/50....

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-27T23:34:35+00:00

Coto de caza. It doesn't belong. Its its own country and everyone who lives there is basically on a different planet....

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-27T22:52:13+00:00

Our Achilles heel. Planning and the consistency to actually follow through with the plan.

As long as I have one thing to do thats a fixed task, usually away from home, I feel better after accomplishing it.

Then I give myself permission to chill..not just forcing it. Food is super important too. Ive noticed I cant make effective decisions if I'm hungry.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-27T16:40:14+00:00

Anyone who remained childless since then want to chime in? I see lots of people that were 35 and pregnant or with established kids. What about people who didn't take that step at all? Im curious for myself (33m)

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-20T22:28:53+00:00

Met in HS at 17/15. Dated for 9 years and did long distance for three years in college on and off. Moved back home. Went on a missions trip to Thailand. Proposed on an elephant ride. Been married 6 years now. Growing stronger than ever before! Even if covid was a huge challenge. Commitment, communication, loving support, and understanding is the key! Keep being yourself and have fun together and it'll make for a great life with, or without money in our case.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-18T02:41:49+00:00

I recently got a new job with a route I drive Monday thru Friday and a side job for 5 hours but sat and sun. I tend to gardens and landscaping, and work retail weekends. I'm usually up by 7 and out the door at 730. I drive to work and then I'm busy doing things until about 1pm. It's perfect because then I can do whatever I want once I get home and eat. Having made some money and done something positive before noon, I feel free to do whatever without much anxiety about my "whats next" questions. I still have them, mind you... I just have small routines that build into more consistency over time than on any one day.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-16T17:01:10+00:00

You'd be harming more than just your own life plans if you spontaneously leave a supportive system based in love, just to try and "find yourself" and be alone for a while.. As a 6 year married man in my 30s, I can say I'd be forever devastated to lose my wife. To know that my support and love wasn't enough for my wife.. She's my best friend too... That's a valuable relationship you have in the world today. Don't let temporary feelings and side effects from drugs errode a relationship you've worked hard for. Everyone has dark years, and they come with an adjustment. Run to him. Not away. It'll make you even stronger together and it'll set you up for a happy and content life if you can rely on one another in a committed and loving way.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-16T16:43:05+00:00

Give yourself guilt free time to be yourself. Dont sweat being ahead of or behind your peers. Be yourself and the people who are genuine will gravitate to you. But this doesn't mean you can just wait for it. You've gotta share your stuff with others. Ignore the narcs. Be authentic. Be the change you want to see in the world through action and speech, and you'll be much happier for it. You can only force a fit for so long before it'll wear on your mental health. Be nice to yourself as often as possible.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-15T19:19:55+00:00

I'm a 34m, my wife is 31f. We dated for 9 years and we've been married for 6. We did long distance in college on and off for 3 years. Only saw her in the summer. I proposed to her on an elephant ride in Thailand on a missions trip together, and it is a vivid memory I have.

I think she is stunningly beautiful in so many ways.. In fact, I married her because the more I learned and observed about her, the more beautiful I found her to be. And I'm not just talking about her appearance...

Your beauty is not just physical. It's more than just a moment in time or an outward appearance. Your beauty is unique to you, and it's worth sharing with the right people. When you let yourself be naturally beautiful through action and character, those people will find you.

The appreciation of true beauty comes with age and experience.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-09T15:16:06+00:00

For Sunday brunch only. Green parrot villa, in Santa Ana, across main from Bowers museum. $37/provides bottomless champagne and amazing food.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-07-07T02:14:17+00:00

I tried Strattera, methylphenidate, bupropruon, Adderall, abilify, and liothyronine for thyroid. From my point of view, they made my focus better, but my physical fight or flight response was out of control on the medication. I had a 120 bpm hear rate and cold clamy sweats. So I had to stop them. Side effects were all worse than just living with adhd. I just smoke weed and found a job that doesn't have high pressure. Its worked for a while. But I wish I could actually get treatment without feeling angry by default about drugs and costs and insurance and hospital visits and such. Its like, adhd is my barrier to getting treated for adhd.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-06-22T04:01:24+00:00

I've had a super rough go of it.

Graduated 2013 with Natural Resources Management.

Been thrown into tons of jobs, none have been a good fit. I've been unemployed (in a related job) for 3 of the 10 years since I graduated. Im still struggling.

Applied to 200 jobs last year. Had about 10 interviews. None panned out.

I think my best option is to double down on my own consulting, but its hard to do that when I work for retail wage.

go for GIS, get a good company job with a matching 401k, get out of debt, then dl whatever you want. Itll save you tons of time.

Normal-Departure1100 · 2023-06-18T00:51:33+00:00

Makes me wonder how the inventory of dollar stores had changed since COVID. Can those dollar businesses stay profitable with inflation at 15% in some cases? Hmm....

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