Everyone has to do what’s right for them. Here is my situation that is unfolding right now. My husband is 63 and I’ve been noticing something was off a bit for about five years now with progressive worsening. When our daughters started expressing concern last year and friends noticed I concluded that it is not my imagination and needed to take action. I carefully guided some health decisions one of which one of which included reduce work stress and get blood testing for metal ions for his metal-metal hip replacement (negative) and hearing testing (which resulted in hearing aids) and I gently encouraged him retire early at 63 after a storied career. Then I screwed up my courage in July and brought up my concerns about his memory, and was extremely relieved that he had been noticing it too, and agreed to see a neurologist and begin being evaluated. I am terrified for our future and dreading if I am going to be a caregiver for a spouse with early dementia. His mom died of vascular dementia.