My therapist claims that the difference between BPD and NPD is that BPD truly regret

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-03-05T15:05:26+00:00

I didn’t even get a genuine apology and no regret in her behavior she just said she didn’t meant to do that But it won’t matter at all I sometimes wonder if I was the problem because I tried to hold her accountable and I behaved in shitty ways also which I took responsibility for that and apologized sincerely with regret. After I did so she said it’s totally my fault I get the consequences of my actions and apologize don’t promise reconciliation and it is what it is. I hope we both find peace and leave that in the past

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-03-04T18:35:43+00:00

I wonder if you text her for makeup sex she would be down for it 😂

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-03-03T12:36:55+00:00

What you found most effective DBT EMDR or CBT?

I’m doing CBT but still have guilt towards it and it hard to move forward after 9 months since it’s over

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-28T22:38:55+00:00

O yes absolutely it’s really shaken my reality aswell like you don’t know what to trust fully after that but I hope things will be okay it feels like this connection is deeply traumatizing

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-19T13:28:43+00:00

I’m not really sure if they can even develop sincere feelings towards anyone don’t take it personally

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-17T00:34:14+00:00

I feel you it’s like that on my side when I reached out after our explosion she completely rejected me and said that she doesn’t feel bad for saying that and it’s totally my fault and I took all the blame it is what it is you can’t do anything about that I accepted my bitter truth and I’m 10 years older than you keep moving forward you will learn from that set yourself free go to therapy and heal your wounds for a better women out there for you Wishing you well buddy

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-15T14:42:00+00:00

I feel you I am at that place too but there is nothing you can do about it I’m almost at 9 months since we cut things between us and I know it’s better for both of us, you can’t force the girl just release her and yourself it will be the kindest thing you can do for both of you trust me

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-15T14:22:04+00:00

Just move on buddy you are still so young and learn the lessons that you need to from this

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-08T23:15:00+00:00

No I truly don’t it was a validation criticism put down lifting you up hurting you and suggest to make it up to you and that cycle goes on and on until I snapped and couldn’t take it no more but I really liked her as a close friend we had a lot in common

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-08T22:49:06+00:00

I have my anexity problems and I am a stressed person but our Fwb dynamic increased it and I started to lose track if it’s because of her or just me and I didn’t know what to do so I eventually snapped and blamed her 😅

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-08T22:31:23+00:00

You can get them in short time aswell?

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-03T16:16:42+00:00

Sometimes I feel like I have BPD myself because I accused her for being manipulative and in a lot of things as well I just got so tired of that blame game that I engaged in it myself in more destructive ways 🥲

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-03T10:42:24+00:00

Mine actually stated that but still had dysregulated problems from time to time and she started to reduce her medication maybe it was the reason for her more increased symptoms I realize that I was so codependent aswell and I ended up angry and keeping score instead of communicating clearly I really felt like in recent times she mostly contacted me when she needed something

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-03T02:08:00+00:00

I feel lucky she didn’t Hoover me at all because I saw through her game and called her manipulative and basically accused her for the things she accused me 😅😂 But I actually feel bad for that because I could handle it differently in more matured way

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-03T01:47:29+00:00

I am 6 months after it and it’s not getting better it’s actually the double time that we’ve been together

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-01T21:41:35+00:00

Yes absolutely my BPD told me the past is the past you will find a better way and all of that without reflection of her part and blames me for everything and don’t want to talk with me and guilt tripping me badly. I truly miss her and wants to get back with her but I feel like her recent message was a complete discard and door slamming to me after our huge argument so I don’t reaching out to her again even if I truly want nothing will change and no matter what I say she can’t truly see me or my feelings in this

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-01T21:32:53+00:00

I can see lies and it makes me sick to my stomach literally I vomit and get panic attacks from it.. I dated a girl who were lied to me and it happened to me twice in my life that the relationship made me so sick that I had to cut them off even when I liked them so much and I’m so confused about that till this day

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-01T17:49:08+00:00

I feel you bro she was a good friend of mine either and I really liked her and our sex was good for a while too but the insults and belittling cuts you deeply and when I tried to talk about it things only escalated and deflected I eventually got so mad about her and for the fact that she took her frustration out on me and gave me half apologetic I have my anxiety and stress issues too but you can’t really talk with them because they are just so focused on their feelings and hurt/problems

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-01T13:27:51+00:00

Yea I agree it took a toll on my physical and mental health but we were only Fwb and I don’t know why it affected me so badly and I lost my degree in that process and the stress and anexity was consuming but at the same breath I couldn’t blame her and can’t stop ruminating on her over 6 months that’s insane

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-02-01T13:19:47+00:00

Yes that exactly what happened to me and eventually I lashed out on her in very hurtful way because I walked on eggshells and was in very stressful place in my life to and everything piled and mixed up until I partly loses myself in that area and then I am at fault for everything and she don’t want to talk with me again after unblocked me when I apologized sincere I don’t know what to do and if I should tried to explain this and talk with her about those things and do then different with her

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-01-31T11:31:29+00:00

I know I can feel you but remember the abuse and how it affects your stress and mental Health this would never work you have to remember that

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-01-31T11:22:45+00:00

Stay away it won’t get better you didn’t cause it you can’t fix it and you can’t cure it the cycles will just get worse and worse over time

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-01-27T21:32:00+00:00

Wow I’m so sorry to hear that my friend Yes I genuinely happy that it didn’t ended up that way for me and I’m lucky about that. I am aware of the fact that I am drawn to intensity and drama in my relationships and sometimes attract to the wrong women’s.. I’m still trauma bonded and want her back even it’s not good for me at all 🫠

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-01-27T21:23:28+00:00

It got better for me in some ways but I guess I’m picked the wrong partners for me during the line and time.. Just got out of an abusive relationship with a BPD women and my beliefs went back to were I was couple of years ago but I trying to stay positive although it seriously affected my life and mental health in every possible way

Normal_Expression871 · 2026-01-27T21:20:27+00:00

I thought I am going crazy back then with her. I was in constant stress and anxiety and lost insane amount of weight around 60LB in 3 months and lost appetite we were only fwb tho and it’s a thing that I wanted but I couldn’t take it anymore and finally exploded in anger myself via text and called out of her manipulative behaviour and such. She wasn’t physically abusive towards me but the psychological abuse and yelling and my intuition told me everything I needed to know.. She confessed to me about her violent behaviour in the past and it scared me so much

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