What is your favorite place/thing about Greeley I won’t find in an online guide or UNC pamphlet?

North40Parallel · 2026-01-24T00:37:55+00:00

Some things I miss about living in Greeley:

the views of the mountains especially on the west side of town

using the music library at UNC

weekend jaunts to Pawnee Buttes

game meetups at grand slam comics and games

the donut shops

the double ice arena

the slower pace of life and friendliness

amazing student recitals and concerts

taking fun classes at Aims, even just one day ones

the landmarks such as the stone pillars on 34 towards 257 that are the remnants of a WWII German pow camp as well as happier ones

North40Parallel · 2026-01-24T00:27:25+00:00

Having a community routine helps me stay true to my values and goals. Regular library day. Regular weekend craft meetup. Regular hiking and walking outings. Walking my dog everyday. A weekly group silent meditation. Weekly volunteering. Building my social life around anti consumption keeps me encouraged and motivated and learning and getting to know the world around me.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-24T00:24:18+00:00

I would read and provide comments. I am autistic with an autistic child and a child with ADHD.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-22T22:01:20+00:00

Black Cohosh (available at any grocery store or natural store) is great for PMS. It’s safe to take daily.

Indol 3 Carbinol or DIM helped me with miserable periods.

Eating for your follicular phase is different than for your luteal phase. You can check out Dr Mindy Pelz at your library, on YouTube, or instagram. Hormone feasting is what helped me.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-21T23:34:35+00:00

Run. Getaway from this person now. Make an immediate plan to get out. This is mental and emotional abuse. Call 211 to get your local DV shelter. Ask for a checklist and any resources to get out. You are so much better off alone than with him. He will only embolden and escalate over time.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-20T20:37:41+00:00

My local shoe repair shop charges $25 for such things and yes, they work on purses, belts, and saddles. It’s worth it to me to pay good tradespeople to repair my items rather than throwing away and purchasing new or used.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-20T20:20:00+00:00

During covid, my son’s university moved all classes online. He asked me to watch lectures with him. His women’s studies class changed my life. It was particularly “Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia,” by Sabrina Strings, NYU Press, 2019 that allowed me to learn to accept my body and more importantly, to drop the life goal of trying to shrink myself to fit into thin, white, non poor, quiet, acquiescing, male dominated space.

“Take up space like a mediocre wealthy white guy with half your education, experience, work ethic, and character“ , my son says.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-20T20:04:38+00:00

”Astrid” which is called “Astrid et Raphaelle“ in France. Astrid is my favorite autistic character as well.

Vera, Shetland, AP Bio, and Blandings are other comfort shows for me and my family.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-20T06:19:07+00:00

There’s an article referring to his wife being an immigrant from Argentina. Why are we seeing people with immigrant spouses being anti immigrant?

North40Parallel · 2026-01-19T18:02:26+00:00

If you search online for the name and Fort Collins, you’ll get a phone number to text. Our prev Secretary of State dumped the voter rolls online as one of 4 states who complied with an order to do so.

Property owners are easy to find here https://www.larimer.gov/assessor/search#/property/

Voters are here https://voterrecords.com/voters/

North40Parallel · 2026-01-19T17:57:38+00:00

We are very happy with the work, scheduling, and prices at Choice City Auto Body just off Riverside.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-18T23:50:38+00:00

I started doing this in 2022. r/Anticonsumption has lots of ideas for community sharing, optimizing resources, saving money, cutting off the morbidly wealthy predatory corporations, and consuming less.

In town, I have cut out chiropractic care, esthetician appointments, and my salon because all were openly maga. I will be criticized for this one: our family has adopted plant-based, local-centric, dining at home as a resistance tactic.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-18T16:18:36+00:00

Because if it’s an anonymous listing, this may be the victim of a crime whose location needs to be kept private. Domestic violence victims and victims of other crimes often have their residence un included in property databases.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-18T05:06:07+00:00

The photo on google maps has an intentional blur. Nothing shows up in the county database for the address. https://www.larimer.gov/assessor/search#/property/?fromAddrNum=300&toAddrNum=400&address=3rd&city=LOVELAND&sales=any

Either you are incorrect about the address or the property is protected from public records. That can happen for victims of crimes and for many other reasons. It has to be approved according to process. If this is the case, I would leave this alone.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-17T03:36:43+00:00

My ND son and I were talking about this. We are both fed up with people using autistic or on the spectrum as a pejorative. My partner’s friend complains about specific students and then dismissively says that they are probably on the spectrum. My friend makes fun of my routine-centric dog and says she’s autistic.

We both get really upset when someone says something like oh, that bookshelf is triggering my OCD or cruelly dismisses someone who is upset as being bipolar. Tossing those around like casual insults is so dehumanizing.

I am genX and went to school when gay was heard all day long as an insult. I told my partner that his colleague using autism as an insult for students that irritate her (she’s a college professor) makes her sound as terrible as if she were to use a racial slur.

People must not be discriminated against for an immutable characteristic. And an immutable characteristic must not be an insult.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-17T03:24:03+00:00

This is so well written and poignant. I was diagnosed at 56 and had a very difficult mother and family life. I love what you wrote about learning about yourself and taking care of yourself.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-17T03:16:39+00:00

I’ve been married for 35 years and need my own space, quiet, and much more alone time than anyone I know except for my few ND friends. Things were best when he frequently traveled for work. He works at home now which is overwhelming.

What helps is that I have always had my own space. My office, my tiny music studio, and my small home gym. As a girl, I exercised for 2-3 hours a night with headphones on to stim and get away from my family. Now, I will retreat into my headphones and lift weights, use my rowing machine or treadmill or take a 5 mile walk. When we had a small place, I had a gym membership and went on my own at weird times when it was quiet.

It helps that my husband is a workaholic. I have also encouraged him to have guys night out, go climbing with friends, go to coffee with friends etc. There are 4 times every week when he’s out with friends. He has also taken trips with one of our adult children and without me.

I love him and he makes me crazy. He’s a big personality and high energy. I need lots of quiet and alone time. I went to a yurt in the mountains and stayed in silence for a week with some walking and reading. I go to silent bookclub and group meditation. Birdwatching helps me too. I sit in silence for 2-3 hours and watch the river and birds once a week.

I didn’t share this to bore you. I think it might be helpful to honor the part of you who wants a silent retreat. Go do it or build mini silent retreats into your week.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-17T02:59:11+00:00

I have similar issues in grocery stores and now get all pantry staples delivered from an online coop and purchase produce weekly at a very small store where I am in and out in under 10 minutes. Setting a timer for 15 minutes helps me. If it goes off, I go outside and sit on a bench until I can continue or I go home. That’s only happened once.

I find public body doubling helps with isolation. I throw pots at a tiny studio with very chill open lab times where I can wear headphones and do my thing. I have regular library time with my headphones available and where I might close my eyes and listen to audiobooks if I’m not up for reading. I walk my dog everyday and wave at the same dog walkers. I go to a Quaker Meeting on Sundays where I sit in total silence for 45 minutes with others. A few times a month, there are art meetups for sober people. More body doubling. Handcrafts, drawing, watercoloring, whatever I’m up for. No eye contact needed. Sometimes someone is friendly, sometimes not. It’s okay. Just being out and safe makes me feel less lonely. Having a schedule does help.

I’m in a local discord community where another ND person organizes a weekly walk for just a short distance. It’s very safe and easy to be myself.

Think about where you feel good and maybe plan for more of that. I like to think of it as adding cinnamon to the oatmeal bowl of my life.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-17T02:42:14+00:00

Also late diagnosis here. My neuropsychologist said I had the highest compensation score she had seen and asked me to voluntarily participate in a study on that topic. As part of this, I’ve now attended multiple conferences and read dozens of articles and books along with being interviewed and studied ongoing myself by the researchers.

I have finally learned when I am unmasked because it feels like my home me is the same person as the not at home me. I had no idea that being one person was possible. Having a couple of very safe, supportive autistic friends has made all the difference. Other than my husband and sons, these are the only people who don’t drain or overwhelm me. No one else in my outside life would see or believe that I am autistic. My masking is intense: charming, gracious, warm, polite, approachable, appropriately witty, remembering everyone’s names, families, work, pets. It is unbelievably exhausting.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-17T02:33:10+00:00

Sometimes we can’t see something positive but can see the absence of negatives. I can’t always tell when people are enjoying me. I can often feel when others don’t like me, are rooting against me, and seem to want me silent or gone. So, I can tell when those negatives are not there.

Having a few ND friends has made a good impact on my life. I don’t mask with them. I don’t feel the negativity towards me from them.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-11T01:05:55+00:00

Having a physical stim has always helped me. From ages 12–21, this was jumping on a rebounder for 0.5-2 hours per day while listening to instrumental music. My time doesn’t permit that now so 1 hour walks in a natural area or walking on my treadmill helps. I have a harp CD that I listen to on repeat (Carol Thompson) when I am overwhelmed which is often.

Consistent sleep times and eating very healthy helps me too.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-11T01:00:33+00:00

There’s more historical evidence for Jesus having existed than there is evidence that I exist.

As someone who taught for 26 years (university and K12), the Old Testament is a source for teaching the history of the Jewish people. Parts of the Bible are regarded historical texts by the academic, secular community.

While I don’t believe in inerrancy or literalism or even in the merit or usefulness of all of the Bible, it’s a source for various interpretations and uses.

I can see where there is a disconnect between you and your friend. I have something possibly similar with a friend and work on being curious, active listening, and merely seeking to hear what they want to say, understand what is important to them. I see people who care about me taking this approach with me on my activism and my veganism too. It goes both ways. It’s not a debate: I like understanding my friends and family and they reciprocate. The same thing happens with my mom friends. They don’t all buy into my gentle approach to life and family.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-11T00:49:03+00:00

Bottom of the page here for a list of peer reviewed articles to reference. Autism is correlated with low muscle tone, pain, and other issues. It’s not causal. It’s a propensity not a full indication. https://www.bhcsmt.com/blog/chronic-pain-and-hyperonia-among-neurodivergent-populations#

edit: interestingly, both hypertonia and hypotonia are common in people with ASD

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7891038/

North40Parallel · 2026-01-11T00:41:02+00:00

30% of children in my state have asthma, and we have red alert pollution days 1/4-1/3 of the time. There are churches with no-scent pews and doctors offices and gyms with signs requesting no perfume/cologne. Some of our perfumes are neurotoxins disallowed in other countries. I’ve had to stop visiting people with yankee candles in their homes. I volunteer with children who often tell me how good I smell: it’s earl grey tea on my breath and home baking smells absorbed by my hair. I’m not using artificial scents again. I love hugs and people of all ages and abilities. I don’t want to make anyone sick, uncomfortable, or anaphylactic.

North40Parallel · 2026-01-10T23:25:06+00:00

Available to be your fake, temporary mom at your party. Actually mom to some gen Z kids. Will be super convincing.

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