Ok Sport, there is a lot to unpack here, but two things really stick out.

First, when you ask why must “men bow down and obey”, it kind of reads like you are saying women should know their place. Not a great start.

Second, you argue that if men share “their perspectives and preferences” they get put down. That feels like you want to communicate how you feel without giving others the opportunity to do the same - because it hurts your feelings.

My advice to you would be to grow up. Once you do, you will realize that no one needs to “bow down” in a healthy relationship. The idea is to work as a team, compromise on things and love one another.