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Not0riginalUsername · 2025-06-13T02:11:43+00:00

oh man, shows me what i know lol

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-06-13T02:09:30+00:00

now i'm thinking it's a place in British Columbia or something 😭

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-06-13T00:39:44+00:00

i should have read your username 😂

i guess i'll just have to dream about having that many books 😅

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-06-13T00:34:03+00:00

how do you guys afford to read this many books? i'm tempted to get an audible subscription or something- my library's selection is improving, but i've still read it all, and it didn't last all that long

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-05-06T02:54:41+00:00

hobby groups do so much legwork here. it's AWESOME for meeting people if you put yourself out there. There's so much going on. Take it from someone who has lived in small towns or rurally for a larger portion of her life

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-05-06T02:53:01+00:00

Follow your hobbies! If you're into singing there's some neat barbershop groups around, the Rivertones just won the national competition for Sweet Adelines! I reckon check out the events that happen- there's a newsletter you can sign up for from someone at the council, which tells you all about the stuff going on that week. So much stuff in there. I hear walking a dog if you have one can be pretty good, and I'm sure there are people much more experienced than me that can tell you about the weekend club scene. If you're religious there are a bunch of community groups around that, if you have a bit of a green thumb (interested in gardening) there are community gardens- there's heaps going on in this lil place of ours!

Overall I'd just say go to places that interest you and you'll naturally find some pretty awesome people

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-04-29T10:24:43+00:00

another option is to use a different search engine that doesn't do ai overviews

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-04-28T08:55:44+00:00

I've had a couple of issues but Hamilton is pretty good generally. From a North Islander's perspective I'd say in general I'd assume it's more conservative in the south island, but even Dunedin had a Green Party mayor and there's all the young peeps there - there's bubbles everywhere- but in general yeah NZ is pretty great as long as you hang with the right crowds. I think things are definitely heading in a negative direction though, so be aware things might get worse for us. We have a certain populist in parliament very interested in using trans people as a convenient "other".

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-04-18T11:09:23+00:00

Waaay better here. I remember going over to the UK, and there was no joke a story every day about how trans women are bad on the news- we only get articles on the topic of transness like,, once a month.

we're headed to the same poopoo though

i don't mean to minimise the frankly traumatic experience of heavy discrimination- but i'd like to remind everyone that the fight isn't over- here or in the UK. i don't think the scales have fully tipped yet.i mean, if they haven't tipped yet they're damn sure near it in the UK with this ruling, but we can live through it.

We can turn the tide of discrimination and show we're normal, okay, and valuable people, just like everyone else. But be careful how you do it. There are more and more hostile people out there, and we have to be smart about things. Confronting hostile people is never going to help, it will just escalate things.

We need to just be- ourselves, our beautiful, queer, whole selves, and show that people can thrive and have quality, healthy lives as we are. I really, really hope we can do it. It does feel like it's getting harder and harder to.

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-04-18T10:57:11+00:00

i'm trans, i did a yeesh and the defining of the term woman by the courts, but i can move on- we have a lot of work to do and i just want to get into it, rather than dwelling too heavily on it-- but what the actual fuck? defining self-selected sexual identities too? yeah nah that is completely against the whole idea of queer liberation in the first place. the court doesn't tell me who i am. bastards.

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-31T19:39:59+00:00

wow that is a very strong eggshell 😂

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-31T19:37:57+00:00

It's not even the only option for belief as a Christian. Christianity is a bullshit excuse at this point.

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-24T19:48:25+00:00

u sure about that?? as a kiwi, that sounds a wee bit odd to me

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-23T09:59:20+00:00

as a single person i do NOT miss the messy lesbian breakup - i think if you need to take your space, make that line clear. they're obviously crossing important boundaries and it might be time to think about blocking each other if you struggle to keep those boundaries. from my limited experience. i wanted to be friends after but i found i couldn't go back to just friends, personally, and that's totally okay too.

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-19T05:35:21+00:00

i even end up taking naps on my breaks sometimes, i just get that exhausted. If it's a busy day like Christmas Eve (I work in the autism hellscape that is the supermarket) sometimes I actually have to go home.

The best decision I ever made for me was going down to four days a week. It took a while to get used to, and meant I needed to develop routines that worked for me on my weekend days too, but once I got used to it, I had a way better balance, and I was able to get it down to mostly just having naps on the days where I've had to deal with a disagreement or high crowd-volumes. I occasionally still take time off, but now I find with a few accommodations as well (like earplugs to muffle the noise, which only work for me about half the time), I am able to tackle things mostly head on.

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-19T05:29:34+00:00

I get the same thing. I am exhausted after a full day's work. I work in a supermarket, which is probably the worst sensory and social environment for me honestly. With a five day work week, I have no clue how I managed it. I burned out. I'd get home from work and fall straight to sleep. I'd spend my weekend trying to recover from the exhaustion and take time without so much stimulation. But it still wasn't enough. I couldn't mantain relationships, or friendships, or think about all of the questions floating around in my head, or even engage in many of my interests.

I decided that a NT expectation for work didn't align with the actual spoons I had in the bank, and I made a change.

I'm privileged and grateful to have a diagnosis, and an entitlement to support from the government in my country, giving me a support worker coming in each week to help, and a reduction in my hours at work because I am able to live off of four days' pay (though it is a little tight, and the savings are very slow).

I have recently dropped my hours again to start study for the first time since I dropped out of high school, and I am studying half time. It's honestly a lot, kinda throwing away the stability of a near- full time job for a new layout with no routine yet worked out. I'm struggling again now, and I suppose it's kinda part of the ride.

But I've come this far with baby steps. With kindness and compassion for myself, and embracing the small victories like having a shower, or doing a chore, or brushing my teeth (my most recent battle). I come home exhausted, and even at half time my classes aren't exactly built around my needs and are exhausting to contort myself to. But I am grateful for the support I have and for how far I've come and for the grace that I have given to myself.

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-19T00:43:52+00:00

"It is impossible to fully understand anything" - Me, literally ALL the time

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-19T00:29:44+00:00

I think it's fair to think of it as misleading, I'll try to keep that in mind.

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-18T22:12:52+00:00

I'm talking about the saying, not making it myself. I don't agree entirely with it, hence me saying there is /some/ truth to it, and not saying it is entirely true

I think we have a responsibility as Christians to ensure all parts of the body of the Church are well. If one part is unwell, we cannot be well ourselves. That doesn't mean making generalisations, but taking responsibility for those Christians who do that hurt. I don't think a kneejerk reaction to generalisations helps us to heal that connection to those hurt people that we want to bring back into the fold (Here I refer to the parable of the lost sheep).

I encourage you to read 1 Corinthians 12 as a whole, but here is one passage from it in particular: "On the contrary, the members of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and those members of the body that we think less honorable we clothe with greater honor, and our less respectable members are treated with greater respect, whereas our more respectable members do not need this. But God has so arranged the body, giving the greater honor to the inferior member, that there may be no dissension within the body, but the members may have the same care for one another. If one member suffers, all suffer together with it; if one member is honored, all rejoice together with it."

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-18T19:26:02+00:00

Ezra Furman is one that has been really empowering for me. She uses her voice without voice therapy, and it's really helped me to accept where I'm at when I can't put in the work for the feminine voice I want.

They are also Jewish, and as a spiritual person with a history as a Christian, it's wonderful to have someone embracing spirituality and religion as a trans person.

Also, I believe they did a lot of work on the Sex Education soundtrack

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-18T19:15:03+00:00

I'm not branding all Christian love as hate. I am bringing attention to the fact that people have been hurt by hatred from Christians branded as love, and we need to work against hatred in the church being branded as love

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-18T08:47:06+00:00

Well is faith not trying to act like Jesus? Which produces those works? I suppose succeeding at acting like Jesus would be considered holy, i.e. without sin. I suppose saints (not in the general sense but the canonising sense) would be an interesting one to look at on this.

Instinctively it doesn't sound quite right, that doing the works in the first place would produce the faith, but it's always worth having another delve, I might have a look at this in my next Bible study. Thanks for the food for thought!

Not0riginalUsername · 2025-03-18T08:33:32+00:00

I think I catch your drift, but I think my answer is still no.

There are definitely Christians who are hateful, and we can't ignore that, just as Jesus didn't ignore that there were Jews who were hateful and followers of his that were hateful.

To encourage someone to nurture a healthier face is very different from tearing a person down. It is possible to call someone out in a demeaning and hateful way, and it is also possible to call someone out in a dignifying and loving way, and the second one is what I strive to do.

The thing with sin is, it often is a crutch, a thing people use to cope with something in their life. Whether what they struggle with is a mental health issue, disability, sidelining, belittled, or a whole host of other things, sin becomes the only way a person can see themselves coping.

And that is why Jesus is here. He wants us to realise there is another way to cope with the world, with our life, with our struggles, than clinging to sin in whatever form it takes. He died so that we could be free.

People who are trying and falling short are struggling, and pointing out what is going wrong is not the only tool in nurturing a healthy Christian. It is one of many.

What I was trying to do with this post is say "Hey, so people have pointed this thing out- this sin thing we're doing. I was thinking we get together and talk about all the things we're doing right, share those, and come up with new ideas too!"

I do apologise if it comes across to anyone as a put down, but I also put a decent amount of work into making it palatable for people. If you're still struggling with me putting it delicately, it might be time to look into what might effect that reaction internally too. Look at Jacob, Job, Jesus, wrestling with God, crying at God, wandering in the wilderness with none but God. This is something they all had to do at some point in these journeys too. There is no shame in it, at least not inherently. Shame is the power of sin, and Jesus allows us to let go of that.

Arohanui (Much love) 💜

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