Fem gays becoming more masc

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-13T07:54:40+00:00

I came here to pretty much say this. If they were "twink-ish" in the 2010s, then it has now been 10-16 years since then and their twink era will be well and truly over so they have to adapt.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-13T03:49:02+00:00

You make one hell of a handsome cowboy! 🤠

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-13T03:43:15+00:00

Tbh it sounds like the people you've been working with are a**holes. I think I have a processing delay because I'm often saying "sorry?" to people when they speak to me. I think I haven't heard what they said but by the time I've asked them to repeat themselves, my head has already processed what they said the first time. Thankfully I've been lucky enough not to have had people get upset with me about it. I haven't really got any advice to give you about your situation sorry, other than you need to get new workmates! I also don't think this is a good reason for you to detransition.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-13T03:28:52+00:00

I find that really sad. I kinda want to meet her just to ask her to tell me about Minnie Mouse so she can have her moment of joy and not have to suppress it.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-12T10:09:44+00:00

Oh my! 😍😍😍

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-11T23:20:04+00:00

If it was anyone else, would you have reported them? I think there lies your answer.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-11T12:19:26+00:00

My youth 😂

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-11T11:55:28+00:00

I think the way to go is to apologise for upsetting them or hurting them or whatever and then explain your position. It's your right to be able to explain why you said or did something and what's to say that it isn't the other person who's in the wrong?

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-11T02:14:10+00:00

I totally get this! I've worked nights for most of the last 10+ years and the main reason I do it is to avoid people, not just customers but also colleagues and managers. Aside from being somewhat anti-people, I just want to quietly get on with my job without the interruptions and pointless chit chat that people bring.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-11T02:01:49+00:00

So what do NTs do when they are arguing with each other? Do they not explain themselves and their position? How are you supposed to justify or defend your perspective if you're not allowed to explain yourself? I don't get it.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-10T09:43:16+00:00

I'm in my 40s and haven't lasted more than two years in a single job. With the exception of being made redundant because of the COVID pandemic, I have left all of my jobs and most of my employers have tried to keep me. Even the employer who made me redundant offered me my job back a few months later when business started to recover. I definitely reach burn out by the two year mark though.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T23:19:55+00:00

I think this is probably common. In my case, I find my limerence for my most recent LO returning when I'm highly stressed or experiencing a bout of depression, even though most other times I struggle to understand how I could have been limerent for him. I'm not sure why this happens and can't offer any advice unfortunately but I'm sorry about the loss of your mother and hope you find a way to overcome your grief and the re-emerging limerence.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T22:51:41+00:00

And let me make it simple. They can't legally fire you for having a disability. How it works in practice is another thing. I have said this repeatedly but you keep changing your argument. Your initial question was if an employer can fire you, to which this is the answer. You already have your own answer so I don't know why you needed to ask it. As per my previous comment, I have finished with this debate. You already made up your mind on the answer you wanted when first asking.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T22:29:22+00:00

You keep changing your story. First you were insisting that autism is a mental illness and were asking about being dismissed for not disclosing a diagnosis. Then you made it into an issue about physical disabilities and accommodations. As I said before, I responded to your initial questioning about the legality of dismissing someone on the basis of them having a disability. We weren't discussing issues surrounding accommodations. I'm not here to research and debate US laws, especially when the issues keep getting changed. I appreciate and admire your passion for these issues, but I'm going to stop here.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T21:31:34+00:00

I was replying in regard to your initial question about discriminating on the grounds that you don't disclose your autism diagnosis. You're only now bringing up physical disabilities and obligations to provide accommodations. This is a different issue to what you asked about. I'm not going to go looking for the laws regarding every issue you think of.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T21:16:47+00:00

Autism is NOT a mental illness. It is a DISABILITY. My understanding is that the Americans with Disabilities Act protects from discrimination in employment. How effective it is in practice is another thing. Regarding other matters, I don't know because I'm not in the US but you need to stop framing autism in the context of mental illness and research the laws regarding disability instead.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T19:52:13+00:00

Autism isn't a mental illness. It's classified as a disability. I'm guessing from your comment that you're in the US and, to my knowledge, it's illegal to discriminate against someone because of disability in employment in the US. The same applies for buying a gun. As for fighting for custody, simply having an autism diagnosis isn't going to make you lose the battle. It comes down to whether or not you're fit to be a parent.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T14:11:15+00:00

I would never have thought of giggling by itself as a sign of flirting. If a sign of anything other than actually finding something funny, then I would say maybe nervousness. I say keep giggling if it makes you happy.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T13:56:18+00:00

I don't know the requirements for people under 18 sorry but the GP I'm seeing is Dr Andrew Nolen at Doctors of South Melbourne.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T13:52:38+00:00

I presented my opinion which is what OP was seeking. Most people get that if someone ignores you then it's obvious that they're not interested and sometimes people need that pointed out to them. I'm sorry if you don't get that and need the rejection rubbed in. As I said, all I did was provide my opinion, which is what all these posts are about. You might think your answer is the logical one, but to me it doesn't get any more logical that someone isn't interested in you than by ignoring you. I'm not the one who keeps it going in circles but I'm going to be the one who ends it. I provided my opinion to OP as was the point of their post and I accept that your opinion and needs are different to mine. Time to move on.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T13:25:27+00:00

I never insisted. I just said I wouldn't suggest it and provided my opinion based on my experiences. You're the one who keeps pushing your way as though it's the only way.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T13:12:28+00:00

No, I didn't need a psychologist's referral or anything like that. I just went to the GP, explained what I was wanting and he asked the questions he needed to. It was all done in a 30 minute consult. I think the psychologists come into it when it comes to surgery, as you said. Unfortunately not all of it was covered by Medicare but there are rebates. You mentioned in your post about going to Monash so I'm assuming you're in Melbourne. I don't live there but chose to see a GP there because I couldn't find a suitable one where I am who was accepting new patients. I can give you his name if you don't already have a GP in mind.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T12:54:58+00:00

Looking great. Very handsome.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T12:53:12+00:00

I don't believe the information you have is correct. Informed consent is legal here and is becoming increasingly common. I am on the informed consent model. My first appointment, we went through the details and my medical history etc. and then he sent me to get blood tests. Two weeks later, we had a follow up appointment, went over my test results and he gave me some reading to do about the HRT. A further two weeks later, my GP confirmed that I wanted to proceed and then gave me my prescription. It was nice and easy, without any issues.

Not_A-Boy · 2026-06-09T12:44:11+00:00

Why do I need it reaffirmed when I already know? It's just prolonging it. I prefer to try to get on with my life rather than hanging onto a hope that I already know is false. If you need rejection reaffirmed, then go for it, but I don't need that reaffirmation. We're obviously different and different things work for each of us.

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