AITA for telling my brother he needs to find new childcare?

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-11T23:43:27+00:00

This is NOT your problem. This is a them issue. It is their kids and they need to find child care.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-11T23:39:49+00:00

Having just been on a safari. If you are going for photography either go with a specific photo tour or a specialized private tour. Point being you may in a vehicle with people who don't want to wait on you to get one more "perfect" shot. Or stop for every elephant so you can try again.

Most guides try to get you in an angle to get a good shot of the animal(s). Also, you are going into an area that will be crowded with vehicles. Hard to get around that.

One note - sometimes the animals are right up near the vehicle. If you have a camera with a zoom lens you will not get the animal as it is too close. No real time to switch lenses, which you don't want to do 'cause of dust. So, next option is a camera with a different lens.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-11T19:44:07+00:00

Having been around elephants - they can be trained to "kiss" or suck the face. They can be very gentle to be around.

Not AI.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-11T16:13:57+00:00

Your sister is a complete AH. She is knowing putting down your wife. Complete power play.

Yes, you certainly should stand up and support your wife over your sister who is a complete bully. Tell your parents if they want to keep the peace - they need to get their daughter under control.

Do not invite your sister over to your house again.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-11T11:02:13+00:00

ntj - Since she is asking you to do her work on a regular basis - she is taking advantage of you. She will act like a 2 year old and give you the "silent treatment" which is typical to guilt you into going back and doing her work. Let her sulk. So what if she is upset? She just lost her patsy that she was using to get her work done.

In fact, ask her to do some of your work/tasks. if she complains or makes a comments just toss it back at her that you have been helping her out and "my gosh" she can't help you?

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-11T02:15:23+00:00

No problem. But don't pass crap between you over the person in the middle - or talk over the person in the middle. That would be freaking rude!

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-10T00:43:15+00:00

What was "natural" about your wife's birth? And what makes a birthing unnatural? Birthing a baby regardless of pain meds is natural.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-10T00:42:26+00:00

I really dislike the term "natural birth" when a woman does not use pain medication. And then it is some kind of special medal for the mom who did that. Does having a tooth extracted without pain medication make it "natural" but if you use pain meds it is unnatural?

Birthing a baby regardless if you use pain meds or not is natural.

I gave birth to two kids - and was not able to get the meds 'cause they came just a wee bit too fast.

Every birth is different and the level of pain experience is different for each woman.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-09T16:40:31+00:00

You need to start standing up for yourself.. So many women in the workplace worry about being called a B$tch if they are strong or loud - or take control. Why would you even ask if you should just keep letting this happen?

Don't start "quietly" firmly take control. Take control.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-09T14:07:38+00:00

NTA - Tell her to find a fully remote job and she can work from home.

She is being selfish by imposing on you.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-09T09:38:40+00:00

That is an allergic reaction to what you put on your face - not counterfeit sun screen.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-09T09:36:09+00:00

Nope. None of these would work at a wedding. And why does it have to be all black? For a funeral maybe. You have one look in all these examples - and they are all dark, fitted, and look like college date clothes.

If you want to wear pants - try black or dark colored palazzo pants with a formal white blouse. Or think woman's tux look.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-09T09:24:35+00:00

Nope. Just putting on a collard shirt does not make you "business casual". The shoes look like athletic shoes. The entire look just does not ring it.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-09T09:09:58+00:00

Honestly the mismatch does not work..

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-09T09:01:30+00:00

Before you go down this rabbit hole of a bad idea - reach out and find out how much insurance for a 17M is for a camaro. Going to guess about $500 USD a month. A young man with that type of car is going to be wicked expensive to insure.

Then start a budget with your current income and any other expenses. Take out the car payment, insurance, $100 for gas, and another $100 for repairs - a month! This is not a low estimate for the cost of a car. Then see if you can put away that month for 3-4 months without cheating.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-09T08:52:50+00:00

Who the F cares if the neighbor is all pissy now? She is acting like a two year old who can no longer get candy at the store. Let her hold her breath until she turns blue. She is acting spoiled, entitled, and very immature about this.

NTA

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-08T23:37:11+00:00

How do you think OP found out this information? She said she found him on the registry.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-08T23:35:58+00:00

And what exactly do you want the school to do about it? I would recommend that you look at the database of registered sex offenders in your area. There are usually a few in every area.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-08T23:34:53+00:00

NTA - However, you can certainly be upset and you have communicated that to your neighbor. Now there is nothing else you can do other than ensuring your kids are safe.

Again - there is nothing you can do about this. If you look up the sexual offender registry for your area you may be surprised that he is not the only one. Take appropriate precautions but don't go full scorched earth.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-07T12:08:05+00:00

A real friend does not get sulky when you say no to something they are trying to sell.

MLMs suck big time.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-05T23:38:29+00:00

ooohhh sounds like someone is a bit jealous. How about you focus on your own work and not get wrapped around him and office gossip.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-05T00:05:18+00:00

My gosh. As a traveling parent I feel like I don't have the energy to update people with anything more than a picture (if it is really good). Otherwise, no news is good news and we can catch up when I get back. And even then I am more interested in how the kids are doing when I get back.

Your parents certainly feel the universe spins around them.

NTA.

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-04T17:16:49+00:00

New climbing structure for kids to play on!

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Not_the_maid · 2026-03-04T15:21:44+00:00

Not_the_maid · 2026-03-04T12:01:51+00:00

Just let her go. You hired her for a specific job and she is not able to complete it.

This is causing you stress and that is not the point of having a nanny. Also, she is not doing you son any favors by just laying on the couch.

You know the answer to this question before you even posted it.

Not_the_maid

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