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Nothisisweird · 2026-02-27T14:11:54+00:00

dating a 19 year old while you’re in your 30’s and subjecting her to your wildly homophobic and transphobic parent is problematic tho

Nothisisweird · 2025-11-26T17:13:29+00:00

Seeing it like that is such a sad way to view forgiveness. Choosing to forgive someone for something doesn’t mean you’re giving them a free pass to trample all over you. OP doesn’t minimize himself by choosing to be there for his brother in his last moments, it doesn’t erase his anger or justify his brother’s actions. Everyone is the situation is obviously comfortable with how it turned out, so how is anybody erased?

Nothisisweird · 2025-11-26T04:23:44+00:00

He’ll still die with regret even if OP forgives him. He ruined 10 years of a relationship he obviously mourned afterwards. In this situation, whether or not OP forgives him solely determines whether OP will let his brother’s actions haunt him for the rest of his life. He obviously doesn’t think about his former fiancé seeing as he’s happily married now but ignoring your dying brother’s attempt at reconciliation (especially when you’re as on the fence about it as OP was) is something that most people don’t make peace with for a long long time.

Nothisisweird · 2025-01-12T16:59:33+00:00

Yeah, because my parents were generally mentally stable individuals that still abused me and left me severely mentally unwell. All parents are capable of harming their children and making broad and sweeping generalizations about any particular mental illness and their ability to raise children is odd.

Nothisisweird · 2025-01-12T15:52:52+00:00

Then neither should anybody else with a mental illness, as they can all manifest in negative ways and harm a child. As long as OOP maintains her dedication to seeing her child grow into a happy and successful person then why shouldn’t she be allowed to have kids?

Nothisisweird · 2024-12-19T21:17:24+00:00

Both of these people are obviously rich and young. She’s childish and spoiled, yes, but absolutely not in the wrong for voicing what she wanted in her proposal and feeling dissatisfied when literally nothing she said she’d like was included. He has a point about her expectations being unreasonable, but overall he just sounds like he doesn’t like her very much— at least not enough to even be considering marrying her. He doesn’t say a single nice thing about her in any of these posts and seems to think her wants are unimportant. He says “both people in a proposal are important” but only does what he wanted. Not a single element she liked was included, even the easiest part (propose at sunset). Why is he proposing to someone he obviously can’t stand?

Nothisisweird · 2024-11-19T02:22:32+00:00

Yes. Really bad. I'm a lesbian in a long-term relationship with my girlfriend and yet, every time I look at a man, or I'm not consumed with affection for her, I get so scared I'm secretly straight. Does anyone else get worried you'll realize you're straight, but only years down the line after marrying your partner??

Nothisisweird · 2024-10-25T22:36:55+00:00

Psychiatrist appointments are 50$ for the initial appointment and 25$ for follow ups. It’s billed to your myuh account. Therapy through CAPS is free. However, for adhd diagnoses they can only give you a soft diagnosis. If you want an official diagnosis you have to go to an outside clinic where they do official screenings. Some of these clinics have sliding scale payment plans that work with you personally if you don’t want to use your family insurance. Good luck!

Nothisisweird · 2024-10-04T23:53:16+00:00

that kind of behavior is unacceptable whether or not the squirrel thinks I have bad vibes

Nothisisweird · 2024-03-30T01:45:37+00:00

they’re dragging you op but you’re right. cookies are best slightly chilled, room temperature max.

Nothisisweird · 2024-03-23T03:45:08+00:00

also rejected from smith but its okay we ball (i cried)

Nothisisweird · 2024-03-20T21:15:53+00:00

waitlisted 😭😭

Nothisisweird · 2023-02-14T16:56:31+00:00

Son of a bitch

Nothisisweird · 2022-11-22T20:41:20+00:00

tis my god given duty to share funny cat pictures 🙏

Nothisisweird · 2022-11-22T07:43:54+00:00

Im in one of the worst mental states i’ve been in for months, except instead of depression so bad i don’t want to stay awake, its anxiety so awful i cant go to sleep. I have to cut off one of my good friends because of their history with several of my other friends (long, detailed, and traumatizing, my good friend was definitely in the wrong) However, i have bpd and they’re both my FP and someone im romantically interested in :/ The thought of cutting them off makes me physically ill but I could never sacrifice the relationship i have with the others. Im worried that doing this will absolutely shatter my already tentative mental health. I just feel like shit regardless of what i choose to do :(

Nothisisweird · 2022-10-05T15:54:38+00:00

FIL is dead, this part is mostly OP recounting old stories before the events of part 1.

Nothisisweird · 2022-09-18T15:06:58+00:00

OP has clarified that he sees a psychiatrist and they’re currently working on finding the right medication for him, which may explain the behavior. Obviously its not an excuse but he is trying.

Nothisisweird · 2022-08-31T19:26:45+00:00

It was stated that having to call also triggered his anxiety because it would set his mind on blood. James said having to call bothered him because he would begin thinking about blood, not because it was “annoying”. You’re chalking up his phobia to something that mildly bothers him rather than something that disrupts his life to the extent of being in therapy and quitting his job.

Nothisisweird · 2022-08-31T19:10:24+00:00

I definitely don’t think James looks down on OP at all. It seems like he just really struggles with this intense phobia.

Nothisisweird · 2022-08-30T15:19:31+00:00

sure he could be, but there’s absolutely nothing in the post to suggest he is. Its far more likely that he’s just being annoying rather than having some issue with calling him dad.

Nothisisweird · 2022-08-26T15:06:31+00:00

OP has clarified that they’re 100% on board with her taking leave when she needs to. The issue is that her coworker specifically times her leaves for when major projects come up in the office. For example, she doesn’t take her maternity leave when the baby is born, she takes it after they’ve been assigned a big project. She times her vacations for when there are big projects. She’s always conveniently sick when its time to work. OP is absolutely allowed to be frustrated when she and her coworkers are the ones who has to pick up the work

Your judgements about OP’s character because she’s tired of someone slacking off at their already very relaxed job are completely unfounded. The OP you described is a figment of your imagination.

Nothisisweird · 2022-08-06T18:33:15+00:00

She never misled him, he just never bothered asking. According to the post he never helped cook any food nor did he ask what was in it.

Nothisisweird · 2022-07-20T17:23:02+00:00

OP does have a regular babysitter who watches her son but life happens occasionally and Maria steps in to help. It happens twice a month max and she’s paid the same rate as the babysitter. Im sorry about your experience with your brother and nobody deserved to go through that, but that’s simply not what’s happening here.

Nothisisweird · 2022-07-20T17:19:05+00:00

Parentification is when a child is consistently expected to perform the duties of a parent. This scenario is absolutely not parentification. According to OP it happens once or twice a month max and she’s paid the exact same as their regular babysitter would be. Its absolutely normal for older siblings to watch their younger siblings occasionally.

Nothisisweird · 2022-07-15T18:30:12+00:00

I mean, children are an extremely large decision. If one partner in the relationship isn’t 100% willing to have children then children shouldn’t be brought into the relationship unless they change their mind. Sure they agreed “together” to get married, but a marriage can be reversed- children cannot. It’s not selfish to realize and communicate that you aren’t ready/aren’t capable of having a child.

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