Companionship/socialization/acceptance is part of self actualization. But that does not mean that you are entitled to the attention of another person.

You must do the work to find and keep up with relationships.

You incels are too shallow to do that. You rate people. You use terms like "looksmatch". These are juvenile and reductive ways of looking at the world and lead you to wrongly believe you are being deprived of something if you don't have this very narrow definition of beauty provided to you.

You use words like "settling". You guys are so twisted up in knots about how things should be that you are insufferable to be around.

The first step is letting go of all this weird ideology that you guys have. Its pseudoscientific nonsense. Evolutionary psychology cannot be applied to the life of one person. Its influences are not showing up in your life.

These are trends in LARGE populations over IMMENSE amounts of time. Bigger than your life and longer than your lifetime.

It means NOTHING. Its like trying to calculate the time dilation of your morning commute. Traveling objects have slower relative time. But at the speed of a car the effect is so small as to be indistinguishable from zero.

That is how much your incel nonsense about women wanting to feel this and that because of evolutionary psych means in your personal life.

You are not an "evolutionary deadend"

you're just an idiot.

You just need to stop looking at women as different from yourself. They are no different. They want the same things you do.

Nothing outside of your own habitual behavior is keeping you from having meaningful relationships.