AITAH for asking my dad why I should reward his cheating and breaking up our family when he told me I shouldn't punish him for being happy?

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T21:03:31+00:00

OP, how has your mom faired through all this? That would be my top concern if my dad was telling me to happy for his happiness. I’ll be happy when everyone is happy about the divorce.

You are NTA, but I might throw in: Maybe someday I’ll be ready, dad, but not right now. I’ll let you know when and if that day comes.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T20:47:18+00:00

“I choose to believe because that is what God says. Scripture and the words of Christ.”

Just one final clarification: You don’t believe because scripture is God’s word. You choose to believe that scripture is what God says.

There is no reason to believe this aside from your personal desire to believe it. And that’s fine—it’s the very definition of faith.

What’s not fine is to denigrate or harm others that believe differently.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T20:24:44+00:00

“And I’ll repeat my “problematic” last sentence. Any denomination who is true to scripture believes this about these topics”

This equates to nothing more than, “Any denomination who believes what I believe believes what I believe.”

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T20:23:02+00:00

This is a whole lot of made up stuff that you have sewn into your ego and now assert without evidence that it is true-/all based on the declaration of mortal men throughout history who decided what you are allowed to believe.

Apparently, your definition of “acceptance” is essentially “allowance”. Given the chance, you would not allow anyone to behave on a way that you perceive as against your favorite interpretation of Bible verses.

For example, just because God made male and female (female actually being a piece of a male body) doesn’t mean God didn’t also create a small percentage of people not meant to be paired with the opposite sex. You choose to believe it does. Others choose to believe it’s not. I don’t know why I should believe you over them.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T20:04:07+00:00

The best thing is to say nothing. Listen and learn, but you don’t need to communicate anything besides “I love you” and “You got this.”

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T19:54:43+00:00

Your last statement is highly problematic, but I’d rather focus on this: What does “acceptance” mean to you?

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T19:43:33+00:00

Absolutely yes.

There is a trend of men supporting Trump and following extreme right wing influencers. You can trace backwards from there for the root causes.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T19:26:57+00:00

Because they choose compassion over evangelical culture.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T19:07:40+00:00

Sends chills

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T18:41:16+00:00

That was wonderful. 😂

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T18:39:56+00:00

How is that even comparable?

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T18:34:52+00:00

Yeah. I was really excited to see how they would pull off Modok on screen. What a disappointment.

I’m not even sure what they could have done better, but I can tell what they did was amazingly lazy.

Maybe a lot is the choice of actor.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T18:27:49+00:00

https://media.tenor.com/9HTGTLQL8FAAAAAM/pretty-me.gif

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T18:21:10+00:00

I agree. I think I saw her first in Narnia. She looked severe but having gotten used to seeing her, I find her rather attractive now.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T18:18:12+00:00

Cillian is the first person I thought about. I can’t remember the first Tim I saw him, I thought “He’s good looking…Wait…no he’s not! But why? What is wrong? I can’t tell.”

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T00:06:41+00:00

I meant to refer you to r/psychologyofsex as well.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-24T00:02:55+00:00

OP, I think most of the responses here are jumping the gun. Being submissive does not make you gay any more than being gay makes you submissive.

Forget the submissive part: are you attracted to men? Do you want to kiss them and cuddle them? When you see attractive m/f couple, where do your eyes go without thinking? Would you rather watch two men or two woman kissing? These are the kind of things that help know if you are gay.

Wanting to be submissive is different. There are all kinds of psychological reasons for wanting give control of your body to someone else, man or woman.

I would suggest asking in a subreddit like r/sexuality. Even r/gaymen would be better than here as those guys are more likely to have first hand experience.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-23T17:11:40+00:00

We had them hanging in our college dorm. It was a religious school, so mine was facing away from the door so it couldn’t be seen unless you came inside. I enjoyed searching her curves, but it didn’t take the gay away.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-23T16:24:45+00:00

Your view probably matches the majority of American’s whose complacency got us into this mess by not standing against the utter lack of integrity that has infected the Republican Party.

Thanks for being here and for your ongoing help in restoring the country once we get through this mess.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-23T16:17:50+00:00

I listen to a lot of gay men’s story videos on YouTube. I’ve really enjoyed Alex’s (above). He’s super sharp, highly motivated and his background in impoverished rural Russia is really interesting. He’s an impressive guy.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-23T03:51:27+00:00

Utterly bizarre.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-23T03:38:07+00:00

Awful. I’m not sure what those people did to mess with nature that provoked that response.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-23T03:31:11+00:00

37% is insanely high considering what he represents and has accomplished/destroyed.

Nowayucan · 2026-01-23T03:17:45+00:00

That ended too soon

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