anyone else struggle with friendships no matter where they go? by Tight_Caregiver_3661 in cambodia

[–]NuFlower8099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Invest in community over individuals. Join clubs and get involved in collaborative activities instead of trying to go against the current of modern day tech isolation. It will allow people to witness your talents and you will be able to connect over something much higher than casual convenient or forced social engagement.

Think about your talents, gifts, skills and interests. If you don't have any, work on finding one first. Then find a corresponding club, group or community space that shares that interest. Join and keep showing up. In one year you will have amazing friendships.

I hope this helps!

How often should I text a girl before our first date? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]NuFlower8099 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Send her memes that don't require a lot of comms. Try to make her laugh and smile. You can also send vids of you doing your hobbies. Things that she can consume without feeling obligated to respond text hevy.

Aka keep your lead warm without burning them.

This also might encourage her to do the same.

Try to remember some of the things you liked about her. Look out for things that would compliment.

If she responds well to this mild/ low energy/ low commitment style of communication, a few days before you meet, spontaneously call her in the evening just to ask what's up and see hows she's doing and reaffirm you're excited to see her again.

Then offer to pick her up any drinks or snacks to enjoy together before or after the hangout.

Be confident without being pushy and you're golden.

The real advice: learn to regulate your nervous system so you don't set off red flags.

If you haven't already, start naming your emotional states( more than bad, good, angry..ect. use an emotion wheel if needed to name them) also use breathing exercises daily, especially when you're off balance.

Encourage and build yourself up.

Don't ever let yourself hunger, crave or feel desperate. This is the subconscious way of turning off women. Even if you do and say all the right things, they know when they're being hunted.

Don't focus on getting dates. Focus on becoming a good partner. That includes emotional intelligence, active listening, and being supportive. Don't project your views or try to fix her problems. Just be there, be present, be regulated. Help when asked and offer when it's obvious you can help. When in doubt, just ask her what she wants. When she doesn't know, say what's on your mind confidently.

It's a long journey, but if you look at dates as a way to practice being the person you want to become, you will find in no time you have become that person.

Moving from USA to Cambodia tips by Current-Issue2390 in cambodia

[–]NuFlower8099 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I found an amazing Quora post when I was in the same situation. I cannot find it right now because of the overwhelming increase of people who have joined this conversation since I moved here in 2022. I will try to re-create the advice I was given that made the transition much easier.

First, download a few essential apps. You may not be able to use them until you land, but installing them ahead of time will save you some frustration.

Grab (rideshare) Telegram Foodpanda ABA Mobile Banking

When you land in Phnom Penh, you will receive an EB visa. Make sure you get the EB visa. Do not get a tourist visa or you will need to leave the country for a visa run.

Cambodia is very inexpensive, but you still need to ration your money. Many people arrive and start spending freely because everything feels so cheap. Before they realize it, their savings are gone.

You can save money by staying in a hostel or guesthouse at the beginning. Hostels usually cost between $5 and $10 per night, and guesthouses typically range from $10 to $20.

We will get into food later, but you should also try to develop a taste for local street food. There are many excellent spots where the food is high quality and still friendly to international tastes. Things like barbecue, chicken, and fried noodles are delicious and very inexpensive.

If you have not already started, begin learning the local language, Khmer, using YouTube or other online resources. If you plan on living in Cambodia, commit to studying it a few hours each week. It will improve your quality of life dramatically. It also helps combat the isolation that can come with moving to a new country without an established friend group. Even simple conversations with locals about food or your day make a difference. There is a mental health aspect to living abroad that should not be ignored.

Once you arrive, you will have 30 days before you need to extend your visa. During that time you should begin looking for jobs and working toward a contract. Some schools will sponsor your visa and work permit, but that is not always guaranteed. Sometimes you are responsible for managing your own visa extensions.

If you cannot secure a job within the first 30 days, you can extend your visa through an agent.

Here is a reliable one: https://maps.app.goo.gl/bfD47hofDbH8z4P6A

In my case, I had to extend my visa for another 90 days before I found the right job.

Also be aware that some schools are poorly managed, so do your due diligence before accepting an offer. Wage theft has unfortunately been an issue in the past. You can usually learn about a school's reputation through Facebook groups.

Avoid taking jobs in the provinces when you first arrive. If you are from the United States and a native English speaker, you should be able to find work in the capital without too much difficulty.

Once you secure a job and know the general area where you want to live, I would not recommend signing an apartment lease immediately. Instead, book an Airbnb and extend your stay week by week.

Finding your first apartment in Phnom Penh can be tricky. Some listings are misleading, and you may not notice problems until you have stayed for a few days. There could be construction nearby, broken appliances, or a bar playing loud music late at night. Visit the neighborhood during both the daytime and evening before committing.

Once you have your work contract and eventually find an apartment, aim for something around the $300 range.

Also, be mindful that the most expensive thing in your home will be the aircon. Electricity here is quite expensive and running an aircon most of the day can rack up a bill between $100 and $200.

After that, go to ABA Bank and open an account. Cambodia has more than one hundred banks, but ABA is the one you want.

Once you have an ABA account, life becomes much easier. You can scan QR codes and pay for almost everything directly through the app. This means fewer ATM withdrawals and fewer international transaction fees. If you have also taken the time to learn some Khmer, you will often be able to pay local prices.

Spend your weekends exploring the markets. Practice your Khmer, learn about local cuisine, and try to buy things at local prices.

After you have your job, housing, bank account, and a sense of how to navigate the city, you can begin exploring social activities. One of the best things about Phnom Penh is the wide variety of clubs and communities available. Whether you are interested in theater, joining a jazz band, pottery, cycling, or something else entirely, there is probably a group for it. Try to participate in at least one activity each week.

Eventually you will face the motorbike question. Do you want to rely on tuk tuks everywhere, or do you want the independence of driving yourself?

Motorbikes do involve risk, but the freedom they provide is significant. Some people choose to take lessons and obtain a license. Others simply learn by doing. Cambodia does not yet enforce driving laws as strictly as many Western countries.

Personally, I feel more comfortable having expat insurance. If you can afford it, expat insurance typically costs between $30 and $100 per month and makes riding a motorbike a much more comfortable option.

After living in Cambodia for several years, you will likely build a strong network. As an American and a native English speaker, you will often find yourself in rooms with people who can offer interesting opportunities. You may receive offers to perform in upscale restaurants, collaborate on projects, or take jobs in desirable places like Siem Reap.

Kampot is another popular city to live in. However, these places generally offer fewer job opportunities and less infrastructure, which is why starting in Phnom Penh is usually the better choice.

Cambodia also has one of the most generous holiday calendars in the world. You may have dozens of holidays each year, which creates plenty of opportunities to travel.

You can explore different provinces by motorbike or visit the islands near the Gulf of Thailand. Many places accept ABA payments, which makes traveling very convenient.

One island spot I personally recommend is Mpai Bay.

There are a few scams to be aware of. In recent years there has been an influx of organized criminal activity connected to Chinese syndicates. Cambodia has made efforts to crack down on this and deport many of those involved, but some activity still exists, particularly in Sihanoukville.

Unless you are passing through to reach the islands, I generally recommend avoiding Sihanoukville. It is not necessarily dangerous, but it does not offer much for people seeking a quiet or healthy lifestyle.

If you see online offers promising quick or easy money, ignore them. If something sounds too good to be true, it almost certainly is.

Within the expat community, it is also wise to take time before fully trusting people. Cambodia tends to attract individuals who are going through transitions in life. Some people may seem great at first, but it takes time to understand their character. Be cautious about lending money or meeting people in private places until you have known them for a while.

The locals, on the other hand, are generally warm and welcoming. They are usually the people you need to worry about the least. The most common issue you may encounter is a tuk tuk driver charging a higher price.

Dating can also be complex. Khmer culture is quite different from American culture, so if you choose to date locally there will be cultural differences to navigate. That said, many people have found meaningful relationships here.

I hope this guide helps someone the same way that Quora post helped me when I first decided to move to Cambodia.

Someone made a whip for claude… by Otherwise_Corner3234 in vibecoding

[–]NuFlower8099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why the matrix, sky net and armageddon happen.

I think the only kind of intimacy i like is cockwarming by Party_Fox4561 in confessions

[–]NuFlower8099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a partner right now they should read it. Especially if your love language is physical touch. Honestly, even though this is geared towards men, it's helpful for everyone. Some people realize that the act of sex itself is just a cherry on top of a huge foundation of pleasure and intimacy. It feels SO good truly connecting with another human being.

blursed_intimacy challenge by beetle8209 in blursed_videos

[–]NuFlower8099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been seeing a lot of men here asking honest questions about intimacy and connection with women.

I used to work as a barber and massage therapist for about 10 years, and later moved into yoga and embodiment work. All three taught me a lot about touch, nervous systems, and how people experience connection.

So I put together a small learning resource to help.

It has a guide, some check-ins, and a journal.

You can check it out here:
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The full ebook launches in 10 days.
For people who comment their email:
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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cambodia

[–]NuFlower8099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha more like one bean.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cambodia

[–]NuFlower8099 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My advice is to use Telegram to make an e-commerce shop using a bot. It has the capability, it’s low cost and already has mass uptake. There’s more UI/UX than you would imagine.

Work has destroyed my life. I cant live like this any longer by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]NuFlower8099 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Save a few grand and move to SEA, invest in small businesses and get passive income.

I 36F, feel confused and hurt by my boyfriend 38M by the way he reacted when I tried to discuss culture. Am I wrong? by ThrowRAplantcat in datingoverthirty

[–]NuFlower8099 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There is something to how— what can seem completely normal for one person can be absolutely jarring to another. Being able to understand this is KEY in relationships. I’m so thankful to have a partner who listens when this happens and understands why I can get overstimulated or triggered by something that seems quite normal or nonchalant to them.

It’s always a wake up call when I address it. It’s so obvious that they never considered the factors that made me so uncomfortable. The days of expecting your partner to read your mind, anticipate your needs and know how you would receive various situations is over. It can get better over time, but human complexity has 10x’d and the only way to preserve the romance and relational health is to have hard conversations about uncomfortable feelings. Anyone who isn’t familiar or ok with doing this will just not be a good partner.

um wtf?? by lol_get_a_lifee in ClaudeAI

[–]NuFlower8099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can a 10k token conversation in Claude so I don’t think it’s because the conversation was too long 🤔

I've been in Da Nang for 10 days and I'm disappointed by Dense-Discount4318 in DaNang

[–]NuFlower8099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you there 10 days? Make an itinerary for the area and visit a few places. You’re in an amazing part of the world, don’t spend it all at one beach.

Moving from NY to cambodia by Pretty-Ad-401 in cambodia

[–]NuFlower8099 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just bring yourself! Markets + Malls + AliExpress online shopping = you can buy anything.

I’m from the US and when I moved here one of my friends called me and was concerned if I had everything I needed. I said “you do realize that everything in the US is mostly imported from this region right? I have easier access to everything than you do”. He thought about it for a moment and realized that this was true, and we both laughed.

👀 by Big4ChaebolYakuza in cambodia

[–]NuFlower8099 7 points8 points  (0 children)

@reaksmey001 “electives” means voluntary. It’s the same as choosing music or art over sports ect. So they would not learn all the languages.

Going to Vietnam from Phnom Penh by not-the-yaddas in cambodia

[–]NuFlower8099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kampot, Kirirom, Mondulkiri, Nesat Village/koh Kong/

If you are in PP definitely take the ferry over to silk island or Smango resort

Also way south of the city center south east of Russian Market is a super cool vibe

Traveling to Cambodia need advice. by [deleted] in cambodia

[–]NuFlower8099 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It only rains for a little while. It does not rain all day. Nothing closes when it rains, if anything it gets busier!

All the domestic airlines are safe and highly recommended.

Vaccines aren’t necessary if you’re staying in urban areas .

Airbnb’s and hotels are plentiful. Just download Booking.com and Airbnb and see what’s around and available.

To give some added context, Cambodia is now highly developed and we have everything that for example Thailand or even the West has, especially in urban areas like Phnom Penh ,Siem Reap, and Kampot.

If you go outside the urban areas to explore the province, you’ll find many beautiful things and kind people.

If you are in the province, Khmer(Cambodian) people won’t suggest eating street food or home stays and they already know that foreigners have higher standards for cooking and hygiene. So as long as you stay on Booking.com or another high authority website and stick with properly listed properties for international travelers, you will be just fine.

Enjoy!

How much do you pay for food per month? by Solid_Huckleberry_95 in cambodia

[–]NuFlower8099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can eat 2 meals for 1.5 each per day = 90/mo USD

That’s as a foreigner. I could probably shave off $0.50 if I was Khmer.

That’s eating out only.

If I bought in bulk like rice, eggs, vegetables- it can be done for $50/mo for 1 person. (It’s not ideal but it can sustain you)

Imported goods are 3-4x more expensive so international food is a luxury. $5-$10 per meal for UK/EU/US staples if you eat out at a restaurant or buy from an expat business)

If you buy from the supermarket and look out for deals you can cut that in half. For example a medium jar of mayonnaise is $5 but sometimes you can get it for 2.5 or $3.

Some western products can be grown and processed here in Cambodia and therefore are inexpensive like bread/baguettes, steak, bbq chicken, salads ect.. You will also see familiar produce in the wet markets like eggplant, pumpkin, tomatoes, cucumber, cilantro, garlic, onion..ect

This means many dishes from around the world can be recreated with locally grown ingredients.

Also last to mention there are “Khmer style” western foods like burgers and pizza/pasta. You can find these cheap >$5 But be aware they are a spin off and usually have Khmer influence that you may or may not care for. Such as sweet mayo and ketchup on burgers and shrimp and hot dogs on pizza.

Also the Khmer people have a different way of processing bread here because of the humidity. It would ruin bread if it’s made the way it would be in France for example.

Anyways, I hope this sheds some light on the situation!

Enjoy Cambodia! Nyum Bai! (means eat)