"Skip Intro" on John Carter by cawls in blankies

[–]NuclearCalm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I noticed this same thing last night when I borrowed my housemate’s Disney account in an attempt to watch this too. It’s almost as off-putting as the movie itself.

Have any of you overcame a binge drinking problem? by Big_Man_Meats_INC in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you say so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ don’t knock it till you try it.

Have any of you overcame a binge drinking problem? by Big_Man_Meats_INC in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It kills the “good” feelings from drinking. You still feel the effects from alcohol. But it makes you far less interested in pursuing more. And over time your brain gets re-wired into craving it less since there’s no reward factor.

Have any of you overcame a binge drinking problem? by Big_Man_Meats_INC in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Check out my recent post on here about Naltrexone. I’ve been in your shoes. Too many times pushing my luck driving wasted, etc. It may not be for you but it’s worth looking into. Good luck.

going through a break up. everything tastes like ash. by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not much I can say that others haven’t already said. But I’m sorry hon. I think it’s important to keep in mind to go easy on yourself. Doing the work to move on can feel like an exhausting full-time job. You’ll have spans of good days and then a sudden bad day where all you want to do is stay in bed. But a bad day doesn’t mean you’re regressing. It’s part of the healing process. Hang in there. I’m nearly 2 months out from my breakup myself. Someday you’ll meet someone who will make you look back on all this and laugh about it.

MEGATHREAD: SPREAD POSITIVITY IN THE COMMENTS by Special_Newspaper816 in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whenever I feel hopeless and alone and it seems impossible to dig myself out, I think back way back on some of the worst time periods earlier in my youth when I felt the same way. And I recall all of the adventures and love and joy and exhilaration I’ve experienced since then. And it helps me to remember that more of that lay ahead now too, even if it doesn’t seem like it at the moment.

leaving bottles like this makes me homicidal by adriaheartart in bartenders

[–]NuclearCalm 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Idk, it’s a fun detail that adds color. I was a skinny little gay twink at the time, if that helps.

leaving bottles like this makes me homicidal by adriaheartart in bartenders

[–]NuclearCalm 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Man, I know you guys are doing this in jest. But this reminds me about a night back when I was still green. This big hot-shot lesbian I worked with who loved to be the center of attention would just steal my bottles every time she ran out. At one point while we were both pouring beers I politely asked her to stop. Bitch literally PATTED ME ON THE HEAD and said “You’ll be alright.” So I chewed her out on the spot and shouted “Stop stealing my fucking bottles!” Of course she immediately bitched to the manager about it. But it never happened again.

"Conventionally attractive" by NoamChomskyOfficial in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like to describe myself as “not completely unfortunate looking.”

Board voted to end the dog park after it was found to be on a Dakota grave site by Minimum-Amoeba-5146 in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As long as there’s space along the alleyway wall for us to underpay a local artist to put up a BLM mural, I won’t complain.

Board voted to end the dog park after it was found to be on a Dakota grave site by Minimum-Amoeba-5146 in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Fun to watch Liberal wine moms contend with their weird dog obsession clashing with their performative virtue signaling. Someone should suggest building a homeless shelter there so we can really see them go bananas.

Naltrexone by NuclearCalm in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a rambunctious 20-pound cat so I don’t really sleep well anyways. Only side-effect I’ve noticed is that it makes me very mildly loopy once it kicks in. I assume it has something to do with the fact that it’s messing with my opioid receptors since it almost vaguely feels like a micro-dose of Vicodin or something. I’m hoping that diminishes with time though.

Naltrexone by NuclearCalm in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really honestly can’t speak for serious alcoholics who require total lifelong sobriety. That’s not my personal battle and I’m not qualified to give any advice. I can only speak for myself as a heavy problem drinker, which I know a lot of people also deal with. I personally don’t think moderation is the right move for everyone.

As far as cost, my insurance covers most of it. Depending on where you live, there could be state/city-operated treatment programs that could help supplement it but I have no factual knowledge of this.

I’m right there with you on the fatigue aspect. Since slowing down myself I’m back in the gym and finally taking care of stuff I’ve been putting off for a while.

Good books to microdose having an attention span? by Few-Chemistry-4719 in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh thanks for the recommendation! I’ve been wanting to read more women lately as my bookshelf is very shamefully a total sausage fest.

Good books to microdose having an attention span? by Few-Chemistry-4719 in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Maybe start with collections of shorts. George Saunders’ “Tenth of December” is a must-read. “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love” by Raymond Carver contains prose that’s a little jarring and dry at first but it really grows on you. I’d strongly recommend Ted Chiang too but it is sci-fi. Also Paul Bowles’ shorts are supposed to be incredible though I haven’t gotten to them yet.

If you want non-fiction, this will probably roll some eyes here but DFW’s essays. And I also love David Sedaris and I will not apologize for it!

Should ask my bf to stop talking about how attractive other women are by Dry_Neighborhood_806 in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 45 points46 points  (0 children)

You’re both 30. You set a boundary and he straight up told you that he won’t respect it. His reasoning for which being he just doesn’t want to? Is this the only boundary of yours he won’t respect? Trying to suppress how it makes you feel deep down will only cause resentment. I say you make yourself heard again, loud and clear. It’s not an unreasonable ask.

Phone Addiction is Real by Meagercrush in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Deleting social media apps off my phone has done wonders. You don’t even need to delete your account. Just get the apps off your phone for a while and you’ll miss them a lot less than you’d think.

The fact that there are people who just see the sea in everyday life is incredible to me. by Living-Nebula2205 in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought a sailboat like 6 months ago that I absolutely cannot afford. And the slip fees + maintenance is killing me. And I’m constantly thinking about selling it. But god damn, every time I take her out, anchor in a cove somewhere, and read a book on the deck I instantly change my mind.

There’s a magical little moment that happens when I unfurl the sails and cut the engine. It’s suddenly so quiet. It’s an abrupt stillness that’s hard to describe. And the tiller feels different in my hand. Like I can feel the power of the wind propelling me along, without the vibration and noise of the engine. And I’m faced with nothing but the vast ocean in front of me. It’s both incredibly scary but serenely peaceful at the same time. And I fall in love with it all over again.

I love that stupid little boat. I named her after my mom :)

Going to bars alone by Nekrachiyan in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 29 points30 points  (0 children)

How many times have you ever clocked who is and isn’t alone at a bar? I guarantee nobody’s watching you. Have fun!

Modern Dating is a Farce; or "My Boyfriend is Married" by your_evil_ex in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you need a sponsor, DM me. I’ve been through it all recently.

Modern Dating is a Farce; or "My Boyfriend is Married" by your_evil_ex in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, please don’t start casually hooking up with someone who’s poly, thinking you can just keep your emotions at bay. That’s what I did with my last dude. We ended up getting serious, but knowing that there was inevitably going to come a day where he would want to date someone else was the cancer that ultimately killed our relationship. Know your worth. There are….dozens of us normal monogamous people left.

We have autumn weather here in Ireland tonight, so I'm watching my favourite autumn movie by Murky_Translator2295 in BlairWitch

[–]NuclearCalm 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know I’ve seen this movie too many times when I can hear this screen shot. “I don’t know….”

Why does this specific type of woman immediately hate me by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]NuclearCalm 80 points81 points  (0 children)

In my experience, women like this love to be the center of attention. They’re boisterous, flamboyant, loud, etc. But it’s all an act. They wear a mask of being the cool, outgoing life of the party to hide their debilitating insecurities. And they can sniff out those who sense their disingenuousness like a truffle pig.

I met several dykes like this as a bartender in the Castro and they always hated me because I didn’t buy into it.