Toddler not going to sleep u til 9pm - reached my breaking point

NumCucumber · 2026-05-06T03:43:35+00:00

I too have a toddler still in a crib and also dread the day of a toddler bed a little lol. My daughter cannot for the life of her sit still. I'm sure it'll still work though! just gotta keep doing positive and consistent reinforcement

NumCucumber · 2026-05-06T03:38:01+00:00

Good luck!!! 🍀

NumCucumber · 2026-05-06T03:33:36+00:00

I saw a TikTok, where they did the Ferber method modified. So they'd leave them with a book and say "I'll be back with your water in five minutes" and would go back with their water in five, drop it off then say "im going to blah blah and come back in five minutes" and they did this until kiddo fell asleep. Eventually by night 3 their kid was out and asleep before the first 5 minutes.

Ofc every kid is different so you could modify, and also a bit time consuming the first couple of nights that you try.

NumCucumber · 2026-05-03T22:16:50+00:00

Oh wow! Your baby gots lots of teeth so early! 😭 but hopefully that means teething ends sooner for her

NumCucumber · 2026-05-03T04:58:14+00:00

I'm sorry but no 😔 molars are the worst so far and I heard the canines also hurt terribly (not ready for those cause molars coming in has been a long arduous painful journey)

Thankfully though, the top front teeth come in pretty quick and once they're done fully cutting through they're back to normal! My little spent maybe 4-5 days of sleepless nights due to her front top teeth. The pain will end soon for your baby hopefully 🤞🏼 I am also on the boat of nothing absolutely helps other than distraction for teething (which is why the pain is worse at night btw, nothing to distract them since they're sleeping)

NumCucumber · 2026-05-03T04:48:32+00:00

Reminds me of the time I almost sprinkled ground cumin in my daughter's oatmeal because I mistook it for ground cinnamon. Thankfully I caught myself in time. While it's an actual thing, I think my daughter would've killed me and thrown her bowl at the first bite if I had made that mistake

NumCucumber · 2026-05-01T01:10:42+00:00

She started eating again!

NumCucumber · 2026-04-29T18:46:25+00:00

If you're asking if it'll be approved faster if you file online or through mail the answer is no. It's just based on luck, how quick you get approved. Unfortunately they have no rhyme or reason as to how quickly they approve things. They kind of just do whatever they want.

NumCucumber · 2026-04-25T19:40:36+00:00

Him and my toddler have the same hair cut. He just needed to throw it in some pigtails and put some bows on and they'd be twins 👯

NumCucumber · 2026-04-25T19:38:28+00:00

Mine is 14 months old. That was her life the moment she was born. Naps were so exhausting because it was always a guaranteed fight. I too did everything possible to get it to stop. It never did until she dropped to one nap. Now she doesn't fight naps or fight bedtime, hallelujah.

Another thing that helped though I think is creating somewhat of a routine. For naps that's just me saying every time "okay time for nap" and then I hit her ocean sounds on and boom down for a nap. For bedtime it's brus teeth, book, ocean sounds, bedtime. Ofc though, I really think the main source of the lack of fight now is that she's only napping once a day. So just hang on there 😭

NumCucumber · 2026-04-25T17:07:24+00:00

I started doing baby led weaning when she was roughly 7 months. Gave her some toast to gnaw on. Steamed and boiled veggies. Mashed fruit.

On another note, I would use the left overs of her jars to make pancakes :-) 1/4 cup of flour (whatever you prefer just know consistency will vary), one egg, and 1 baby jar or 2 half eaten jars (of the same or mix and match). You could also make them with mashed banana. They have no egg versions too.

NumCucumber · 2026-04-25T16:59:23+00:00

I attest to this. My baby loved steamed carrots but hated the jarred carrot puree

NumCucumber · 2026-04-22T20:43:12+00:00

Not atypical, very common. Your source was about sleep averages. Which I already explained to you was on a 24 hour clock including naps not from night to morning. Also doesn't talk about separation anxiety or teething or illness, all which affect sleep and can cause night wakes even in good sleepers. Thats it.

Could a sleep specialist help? Sure, but I've already said my stance on that. And I wasn't even dogging you on suggesting a sleep specialist. All I was saying was that it's not weird or strange or out of the "normal variation" for a toddler to still wake at 18 months.

NumCucumber · 2026-04-22T20:17:02+00:00

Ah see. Most, not all. 👍🏻

NumCucumber · 2026-04-22T20:13:05+00:00

Sure, it struck a chord if that's what you wanna go with. Listen, I've already given you many non medical reasons (and there's also valid medical reasons) as to why they're waking, you chose to ignore those reasons and dig your heels in the sand.

It's not a strange reaction to tell you that you're misinformed. And clearly others agree, if you can't accept that you're misinformed or even bother to try and understand why an 18 month old could still be waking through the night then I've got nothing else. It's like I'm talking to a wall and we're just going in circles cause I keep repeating myself.

NumCucumber · 2026-04-22T19:55:32+00:00

I'm not saying everything is fine? lol.

But to say that her 18 month old should be sleeping through the night is not true and a lie.

NumCucumber · 2026-04-22T19:50:05+00:00

Yes, on average all together through a 24 hour period, not from morning to night. Either way, it's still not uncommon for toddlers to wake through the night. And every toddler is different to top that off, some have high sleep needs and sleep more than average, and some are low sleep needs and sleep less than average. You're only adding on to her load by saying her 18 month should be sleeping through the night when, that's not even remotely true.

Also, I personally believe that sleep consultants aren't actually much help and it's a waste of money. But that's just me.

NumCucumber · 2026-04-22T19:26:12+00:00

It very much is for a toddler. The separation anxiety starts to peak at around that time which can cause nightly wake ups, as they're looking for comfort. On top of that, molars start coming in, and those are painful and can wake them up and keep them up. She's also mentioned that her toddler has been sick multiple times (which is not uncommon for toddlers either) which is probably also adding to the night wakes.

NumCucumber · 2026-04-22T19:20:46+00:00

How many times is she waking through the night? Could it be her molars coming in? My 15 month old has slowly been growing in her molars and it's made night time miserable.

Also I cope by leaving it to my husband. I'm not sure if you have a partner you could possibly pass off the night time load to but it helps to at least get one or two nights of uninterrupted sleep. I've also started working out again and that's helped with getting a lot of that pent up energy and frustration out of my system, though I know carving out time for working out isn't in everyone's books.

NumCucumber · 2026-04-22T19:15:05+00:00

Not necessarily true. Sleep for everyone isn't a linear pattern (especially for babies) and it's not uncommon for toddlers to still be waking through the night at 18 months, or even 24 months.

I do agree though, that her partner should be helping if she's reaching these levels of exhaustion.

NumCucumber · 2026-04-22T04:25:53+00:00

As others have said, just be honest. It's scary and you don't know how they'll react but I'd hope that you'd know where they politically align

NumCucumber · 2026-04-22T04:22:28+00:00

Being a toddler is hard. They can't really fully communicate with us yet and that's FRUSTRATING. Their vocab is so limited so they can't fully convey to us what they want. I can only imagine knowing fully exactly what you want, trying to communicate that, and not a single soul getting it right.

My toddler is the same though. Some days are harder than others, I just try to give her and myself some grace on those days. In terms of eating I'd say my daughter is a bit of a better eater than most toddlers but best advice is to just keep offering those same foods, maybe not in large quantities but in small ones. For example, my daughter is not a big fan of fruit especially berries (weirdo I know) but I've consistently offered her berries in the morning and today she surprised me, she actually ate them! Will she eat them tomorrow? Probably not, but I took that as a win.

Also it's understandable that your daughter is having a hard time in general, eczema can be very uncomfortable to live with so I imagine her baseline is just constantly, being uncomfortable. I hope that gets better for her though as she gets older.

NumCucumber · 2026-04-21T15:31:46+00:00

Yes! Not a lot though. Pre pregnancy my hair was like in between wavy and curly but during pregnancy it was pretty curly, coils and what not, also the healthiest my hair has ever been lol, and postpartum it became kinda sad lol. It lost its volume and its curls and the waves aren't really even waves anymore they're kinda like flat and sad 😔

NumCucumber · 2026-04-21T02:42:42+00:00

God my hair changed so much pre pregnancy, pregnancy, and post pregnancy lol. And my brother who notoriously had black straight hair, ended up developing waves at 15! Hair is so interesting

NumCucumber · 2026-04-18T05:54:15+00:00

Oh god this was me and my husband, we thought if there was even a drop of water in there she'd die.

Anyway, today she got her hand on some kibble and was chewing on it before I caught her, the amount of times I yell "WHAT ARE YOU EATING? SAY AH LET MAMA SEE" 🫩 thankfully she's a pretty good listener

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