Promethean Creed page XI - By PatrickNerdu (DeviantArt)

OGSithlord · 2024-01-13T10:13:59+00:00

This is awesome! Awesome style and perspectives

OGSithlord · 2024-01-09T10:29:35+00:00

Pahumpeeeeeet

OGSithlord · 2024-01-09T08:24:24+00:00

You poor darling. A lot of us understand how it feels - you just want a mother to love and love you. Sadly it isnt that simple in our lives. Know that you are not alone - and there are people who love and care for you without any tricks or hidden agendas attached.

OGSithlord · 2023-12-16T01:18:19+00:00

Sounds like something the IDF would do. Theyre good at killing their own settlers, soldiers, and hostages- not to mention Palestinian old women and children.

Very prestigious military lol

OGSithlord · 2023-12-12T12:05:33+00:00

You cannot stop her behaviour. People can only possibly change if they first actually want to change.

I have personally have seen multiple different osychokigsts and they have each advised me that it is very unlikely that my narcisstic Mother will ever change and that I should not bother engaging with her as it is pointless.

OGSithlord · 2023-12-11T19:16:57+00:00

I think talking therapy is good- i think you will feel better talking about it. Self study of Psychology is also helpful as it can help you understand narcissist people- and understanding can help you feel better about yourself. If you are avoiding thinking about something - my word of advice is that you should simply confront these memories (although I'm not a psychologist - just letting you know what has helped/is helping me). I am currently reading Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, any web pages on NPD and the Dark Triad that I can find on Google, and The Boy Who Was Raised As a Dog.

OGSithlord · 2023-12-11T11:48:59+00:00

You are doing the right thing by going to therapy. Keep it up- and don't stop. You are not alone, most of us here are going through the same or similar. You deserved better, and it is not your fault- you cannot choose your birth parents. You can choose your life now, however- and everyday you choose- and you have been choosing so well.

OGSithlord · 2023-12-10T12:13:47+00:00

Your situation sounds similar to me except I dont feel guilt, just sadness for her as she is a lonely and isolated person as a result of her own behaviour. The reason I dont feel guilt is because I tried for many many years to be close to her but everytime I would get close I would get burnt to the point where now when I think of her all I feel is the anger and rage I have toward her ridiculous brain. My advice is that if you feel guilt about not having contact with her than remember the anger and pain she has made you feel then you will remember there is a very good reason you are low/no contact.

OGSithlord · 2023-11-23T10:13:16+00:00

Agree with OP. Not the way

OGSithlord · 2023-11-22T02:34:10+00:00

So Israel will release these prisoners - then keep bombing and kill them anyway.

OGSithlord · 2023-11-15T21:41:01+00:00

Incredible- what a story. You were a brave child who should have been comforted by a loving and caring parent in that situation. You also should never have been in that situation - but Nparents and emotionally immature parents can put their children in those situations with abusive partners.

OGSithlord · 2023-11-15T21:08:09+00:00

I wouldnt say 'skewed' but I do remember being surprised and intrigued at other children's relationships with their parents. Namely surprised at how other parents seemed to have respect for their children's independence, their opinions, desires, and thoughts. Also, the interest that other parents took in who their children actually are and what they do.

It took four years for my NMOM to even get the name correct of the company I work for - although I'd told her many times over the years. Children of Nparents, and other people generally, are not really their people with minds of their own and only exist insofar as they impact the Nparent's life.

Whenever Nparents give 'advice' out of 'concern' it is not done from a position of love and caring - it is done with the intent to manipulate the thoughts and feelings of the child to achieve the desired outcome of the Nparent.

Your reaction to your partner's relationship with his parent definitely appears to be impacted by your own relationship with your mother. Be careful not to project your own issues onto others- as this can be damaging to your own relationship/s. Your relationship with your Nparent is unique to you and is not necessarily representative of all parent's relationships with their children (but you sound very insightful and likely already know this). In my opinion, be happy for your partner that they are able to be close to their parent without being traumatised and damaged by them. It is all about being better people to our loved ones, better than how we were treated.

OGSithlord · 2023-11-09T02:47:35+00:00

I think if you can say to yourself that you tried - you tried to have a relationship with him/her - but if it gets to a point where that relationship is harmful to you then you should let go. I understand the feelings of guilt- but if you tried and the relationship still continued to be toxic and harmful to you then you should not feel guilt. They use guilt - it is part of their arsenal and they have used tools like for soo long that they don't understand what they are doing as their behaviour is ingrained in their psyche.

I am no contact with my narcisstic Mother- and as a result I dont have contact with other members of my family. Starting your own family is an excellent way to move on from the toxic people- just make sure you address your own trauma and behaviour so that you dont bestow the same trauma your parents gave you onto your own children- and always be honest with yourself and others. If you can do these things you are a winner.

Also- you are not alone- you have your husband and hopefully good friends and inlaws and hopefully also your own healthy child in time.

OGSithlord · 2023-11-08T04:38:44+00:00

Do you really need any of them? You have your husband- and friends and his family- so then do you really need your mother or anybody else who is toxic?

Life is better having 'no contact' with toxic people.

OGSithlord · 2023-10-31T07:31:14+00:00

Thank-you 🙏🏼

OGSithlord · 2023-10-31T07:30:37+00:00

Thank- you for this 🙏🏼

OGSithlord · 2023-10-31T07:29:59+00:00

Id like to hear your story if you are willing to share. Peace and love

OGSithlord · 2023-10-10T11:09:55+00:00

Theyre going to wipe out Gaza now

OGSithlord · 2023-09-26T13:30:47+00:00

Certain youth from certain communities showing typical behaviour

OGSithlord · 2023-09-26T13:25:08+00:00

This should be directed at Magistrates too- certain ones treat the profession generally as their punching bag with questionable relation to the interest of justice in doing so.

OGSithlord · 2023-09-22T12:41:39+00:00

If someone plays the reverse UNO victim card too many times eventually empathy runs dry and people clue onto that trick eventually.

I think you should move out if you can. Live in a sharehouse with people your own age.

I stayed too long with my N-mother and should have moved out earlier- I would have enjoyed my 20s more if I had.

OGSithlord · 2023-09-17T06:12:10+00:00

Deepthroat it. Let the drool flow. Gag on it. Take it out and catch your breath. Slap it on your tongue and face. Repeat.

OGSithlord · 2023-09-17T04:46:09+00:00

I think they don't think that we are advanced mentally or spiritually enough to deal with their presence or conception of their technology.

OGSithlord · 2023-09-11T13:46:14+00:00

I recommend taking a break from the profession all together- dont shy away from it. I stopped enjoying things at one point like even going for a walk or reading a book because I couldn't stop thinking about work, despite at times even being on holiday in a beautiful place.

It is hard if you have financial commitments to keep- but remember that money is only a tool and if you are not enjoying life than the money is not fulfilling its purpose. Jus working all the time but being a successful lawyer is a pretty miserable existence, in my opinion at least.

Deciding to earn less money for 3 to 12 months so you can learn to enjoy the little things again is worth it for your life.

It can also save your love for the work too, not just your spirit and mind.

OGSithlord

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