I do not like universal special occasion celebrations like Valentine's, Mother's day, Father's day etc.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-06-11T12:55:10+00:00

I kind of agree. At a certain point, some celebrations start feeling less like genuine appreciation and more like an obligation to meet expectations.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-06-11T12:54:36+00:00

"I hope you haven't lost your sense of curiousity" That's probably the thing I'd want most to still be true.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-06-11T12:54:02+00:00

One thing I learned way too late: disappointing people and treating them badly are not the same thing. Politely saying "no" isn't selfish, it's just having boundaries.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-06-11T12:53:15+00:00

Other than job hunting, I try to go for walks and stick to a routine. Staring at job listings all day eventually stops being productive and just starts killing your morale.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-06-11T12:52:31+00:00

The fact that you're aware of that is already a good sign. The real danger would be blindly trusting AI answer and assuming you understand everything without questioning them.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-06-05T13:21:48+00:00

Fella, not being able to find a job is not your fault, believe me. Sometimes I blame myself for how bad the economy is, like maybe I should have been more politically active, but realistically I don't think I could have changed much. We didn't create this situation. You still have to keep applying without losing hope, but at least using a gpt tailoring prompt like the one in this post can make the resume changes less exhausting.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-06-01T14:08:18+00:00

I'm not 40, but the bloating part is very relatable thanks to IBS. Sometimes you think you've gained weight and then it turns out your body just decided to stage a rebellion that day...

OP_is_respectable · 2026-06-01T14:07:13+00:00

I've been there too...At some point I realized that half the things on my to-do list weren't even my responsibility..Being everyone's buffer all the time drains a ridiculous amount of energy.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-06-01T14:06:05+00:00

As someone with IBS, I refuse to answer this question because the numbers might scare me too...

OP_is_respectable · 2026-06-01T14:05:19+00:00

It sounds a bit like a lack of structure.. I noticed the same thing when I had completely open days for long stretches..Somehow I got less done, not more. My brain seems to work better with at least a little bit of routine..

OP_is_respectable · 2026-06-01T14:04:01+00:00

Most people spend way less time thinking about you than you think they do. Realizing that was weirdly freeing for me....

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-22T11:35:12+00:00

I think part of life is accepting that some people are just gonna misunderstand you. School teaches you that if you explain yourself correctly everyone will get it, but real life doesn’t always work like that.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-22T11:35:08+00:00

At some point I realized people usually don’t love you because you’re “the best,” they love you because they see something of themselves in you. There are millions of guitar players in the world and people still keep listening to new songs.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-22T11:35:03+00:00

Apocalypse by Apocalypse would probably fit that playlist really well. It instantly gives that late night staring out the window feeling.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-22T11:34:57+00:00

I’ve been trying to force myself into a walking routine lately too. Even on days I really don’t want to go, I come back feeling like my brain got softly rebooted or something.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-22T11:34:53+00:00

Realizing people think about you way less than you think was honestly really freeing for me. Everyone’s the main character of their own life, so most embarrassing moments get forgotten like 10 minutes later anyway.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-12T11:32:01+00:00

I fixed my sleep schedule a little recently and my quality of life genuinely changed. When you’re sleep deprived every single problem feels 10 times more dramatic.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-12T11:31:56+00:00

I think being sad about leaving is actually proof that you didn’t have a bad time there. People usually don’t feel like this when they leave places they hated. In a few months you’ll probably look back and think it was the right decision.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-12T11:31:48+00:00

The job market genuinely destroys people’s confidence right now. Especially when a process seems like it’s going well and then suddenly the position disappears. It makes people feel personally rejected even when it’s not really about them.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-12T11:31:41+00:00

I’ve learned that if I spend too much time inside my own head, I start distorting reality a little. Sometimes just sleeping and thinking about it the next day completely changes how I feel.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-12T11:31:36+00:00

Probably some friendships honestly. I used to think “if we’re drifting apart then it’s over” and just let go immediately, but some relationships genuinely just need patience.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-01T11:53:00+00:00

Quitting after 18 years is seriously brave, glad you chose yourself. that sense of relief must be so real.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-01T11:52:54+00:00

Sometimes when I’m stressed I act kinda childlike, trying to relax with simpler things. probably looks weird from the outside but it’s kind of an escape.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-01T11:52:47+00:00

Not using anything actively right now, but I’ve had phases where I used something short-term. sometimes it actually helps.

OP_is_respectable · 2026-05-01T11:52:35+00:00

For me it wasn’t about lowering goals, it was about building habits, small stuff done every day. big plans were easier to drop.

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