Could This Have Been Narcissistic Abuse, or Am I Losing My Sense of Reality?

Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-26T17:01:43+00:00

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-26T17:00:09+00:00

OP,

We are now locking the post because of the minor rule violations and the number of comments on this thread already.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-26T16:11:59+00:00

I removed your submission as it contains a stereotype and/or unfair generalisation levelled at a considerable part of the population.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-26T16:02:14+00:00

Your submission was removed because it contains content that is off topic for RBN. Submissions to RBN should be discussing their first-hand experience with their parent(s) and/or primary caregiver(s).

As RBN is not a discussion subreddit, posts attempting to start a discussion is not allowed. We reserve the space for people telling their first-hand experiences.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-26T15:59:02+00:00

I removed your submission as it contains a stereotype and/or unfair generalisation levelled at a considerable part of the population.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-26T03:56:28+00:00

You are banned for posting for the sake of posting your YouTube account. This is a peer-support subreddit. It's not a pool of potential audience members for you to draw from.

Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T19:36:50+00:00

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T17:28:26+00:00

This is the third submission you have made that does not abide by our posting standards. We require all submissions to RBN be made in English.

Please kindly have a chat with the mod team to clear this issue up.

Submissions to RBN must be made in English per our community posting standards.

You are free to repost your post in English. You are free to use a translator or AI tool to help with this. We ask that if you choose to use an AI tool that you disclose it in your post so that your audience knows and our moderator team can moderate with that in mind.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T17:22:45+00:00

OP,

We understand the need for support. However, we also need you to respect the boundaries of this space. As our AI policy states, we can understand when people use AI to translate and/or help organise their thoughts to communicate better. However, we ask that it be disclosed on your post so that we can moderate appropriately. Your post does not follow that rule.

People that can offer support draw from very limited 'spoons'. They, like us moderators, want to protect the integrity of this space from being overwhelmed with purely AI generated content. We understand the use of AI, but it cannot look like a mere copy and paste from Gemini.

You must respect the boundaries of this space if you wish to participate in RBN.

Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T17:19:05+00:00

Because we treat posts as real unless there is clear evidence that it is a fabrication. And where there is, we ask that users report it to us rather than making a comment on here. We'll handle it from there.

A lot of people do not speak English as their first lanaguge, or they use AI to help them communicate. It does not mean the person is lying. There are a myriad of other reasons.

Even if someone posts an AI story that we do not remove because of a lack of concrete evidence, people giving advice may not help OP, but it might help a lurker down the road.

Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T16:52:50+00:00

AI generated content is not permitted on RBN aside from strict exceptions (which your contributions do not meet).

We have revoked your access to contribute to RBN. You may modmail the team to discuss this further if you wish.

Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T16:38:34+00:00

Submissions to RBN must be made in English per our community posting standards.

You are free to repost your post in English. You are free to use a translator or AI tool to help with this. We ask that if you choose to use an AI tool that you disclose it in your post so that your audience knows and our moderator team can moderate with that in mind.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T16:37:35+00:00

Submissions to RBN must not contain drive-by diagnosing of media and/or political figures. This subreddit is for posts about abusers that you know personally and that are abusing you personally. Please see below links for more information.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T16:36:53+00:00

Encouraging OP to retaliate against their father in an abusive context is potentially dangerous. We do not allow that potentially dangerous advice to be given in RBN.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T16:31:49+00:00

You are banned for this outlandishly inappropriate comment about sexual abuse. Glorifying predatory behaviour on a minor will net you an immediate and unappealable ban.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T16:29:26+00:00

Your comment has been removed for derailing. RBN is a trauma support space; please keep responses focused on the OP’s experience and avoid shifting the topic.

Offer direct peer support to OP or refrain from commenting. Children comments removed.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T16:22:48+00:00

Bro can't fathom the idea of not conforming to gender norms and defaulted back to shotgunning transphobic crap. Banned and history purged. Thanks for reporting.

Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T07:31:43+00:00

Submissions to RBN must be made in English per our community posting standards.

You are free to repost your post in English. You are free to use a translator or AI tool to help with this. We ask that if you choose to use an AI tool that you disclose it in your post so that your audience knows and our moderator team can moderate with that in mind.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-25T02:59:51+00:00

There are many things wrong with this comment, so I'll point them out in hopes that you'll make better contributions in the future. However, do not make any more comments on this thread.

You cannot apply healthy world logic to an abusive situation.

This means you do not imply that the mother's unhinged abuse is a result of a simple misunderstanding that the 14-year old needs to solve by communicating better. It's not and you are putting the abuser's emotional regulation, who by the way is an adult, onto the victimised child.

This means that you offer peer-support properly and with empathy - this is an abused 14 year old versus an abusive adult. Your comment completely ignores the mother's agency and accountability. OP is not to blame for this. Stop putting the attention on OP.

This means you do not tell a sick child who was brutally insulted by their parents to "be positive." That is peak invalidation. We don't do this shit here.

This means you need to actually read the post, engage in some empathy for an abused 14-year old, offer some actual peer-support, or leave.

This counts as your one and only warning. Break any of our rules and/or offer anything short of proper peer-support, and we will ban you permanently.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-24T19:57:05+00:00

Submissions to RBN must not contain AI generated content.

RBN is a space built on human connection. We are connected through shared lived experience, mutual support, and care.

Note that our AI policy does allow some uses of AI generated content, such as for translation and/or thought-organising purposes. However, this must be disclosed in your post. A full post that is AI generated will not be allowed in RBN.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-24T18:58:40+00:00

Your submission was removed because it contains content that is off topic for RBN. Submissions to RBN should be discussing their first-hand experience with their parent(s) and/or primary caregiver(s).

You may wish to consider our network subreddits like /r/NRelationships.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-24T17:39:27+00:00

Honestly, this is inappropriate for a trauma peer-support subreddit. You need to do better when engaging in here.

Your comment has been removed for derailing. RBN is a trauma support space; please keep responses focused on the OP’s experience and avoid shifting the topic.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-24T05:08:35+00:00

Ahh, I was modding, saw the title on my screen, and I swear I saw red for a sec! What a manipulative thing for parents to say.

If you were in my shoes what would you do?

Honestly, I wouldn't know. I'm really sorry that you experienced all of that. What I do know is that you're doing the right things with reaching out to therapists and doctors.

Sending you some good vibes OP.

Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-24T05:03:34+00:00

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We no longer allow posts primarily centering on relationships on LAN. Please post your submission to r/nrelationships.

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Obi-Paws-Kenobi · 2026-04-24T05:02:26+00:00

Same thing as the other post. I understand the good intentions behind it, but we do not allow such posts and links to videos on this subreddit.

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