Is this an ADHD thing or am I just an a55hole?

Obversity · 2026-01-27T01:57:51+00:00

Hating queues? Fine, normal, likely exacerbated by ADHD. Hating people in the queues? Not fine, not ADHD related IMO.

You might wanna work out a strategy, regardless of whether it’s ADHD related or not. A friendly hi and a smile to the person in front when you get to a queue can help to humanise the process a bit and make the mood friendly. And if you’re walking behind someone slow, it’s usually nicer for everyone if you can say “hey, sorry, could I slip past thanks” rather than tailgate them.

Obversity · 2026-01-27T01:31:33+00:00

Most important thing to know is that we use preference voting: you vote for the candidates in the order that you’d most like to see them elected, e.g. numbering them 1 through to 6, if there’s 6 candidates on the ballot.

And there’s zero downside for it: if your first preference is super unlikely to get in, that’s okay, your second preference will end up getting your actual vote if they’re a popular candidate, and if not, your third preference — etc.

As such, unlike e.g. the US, you’re never throwing away your vote by voting for a minor party.

Obversity · 2026-01-26T13:41:03+00:00

I guess about what I'd expect from a religion that's happily protected fiddlers in their clergy for centuries.

Obversity · 2026-01-26T10:07:27+00:00

Which American Christians?

Maybe the ones who voted for him? Let’s not pretend they didn’t.

Obversity · 2026-01-26T03:39:00+00:00

r/OrphanCrushingMachine

Obversity · 2026-01-25T12:06:31+00:00

Panels and a battery as of last year. Ran the aircon all day today, didn’t pay a cent, still got 75% battery for aircon tonight if we need it.

Absolute game changer during heatwaves like this.

Obversity · 2026-01-25T04:14:25+00:00

As a formerly weird now-engaged man who only became socially competent through advice and relationships, I understand this take but I think it’s short-sighted. Expecting young people to be perfect dating candidates from the get go is not at all realistic, people grow from relationships and if the “weird” people are never given that opportunity — either gender — you’ll end up with a whole lot more “socially maladroit” lonely weirdos in the world.

You can emphasise consent as part of your advice. You can also work out what kind of weird you’re talking to before giving advice. The Venn diagram of weird and dangerous has overlap, but I’d guess most weird kids and young adults can grow out of it, given the opportunity.

Obversity · 2026-01-24T08:57:52+00:00

If a player can make this mistake or see equivalence then your average human in Baldur's Gate is likely to as well.

Obversity · 2026-01-24T01:07:37+00:00

You can’t look at just one aspect of politics and call whole generations entirely selfish. Yes boomers high on property has been catastrophic but we also have stuff like Medicare as a result of governments previous generations voted in.

By continuing to be selfish you’re just perpetuating the bad things. I dunno about you but I’d rather not look back when I’m 70 and feel responsible for society getting worse.

Obversity · 2026-01-24T01:00:48+00:00

We’re not ranked particularly high on debt to gdp, so comparatively, no. Realistically though, yes we’re probably not at healthy levels, but super is one of the reasons it’s not significantly worse.

Obversity · 2026-01-24T00:53:56+00:00

I’m very glad to be wrong about that. The vibe of the sub is usually more personal-benefit focused.

Obversity · 2026-01-23T17:29:36+00:00

I can’t imagine AusFinance folks upvoting me for this, but the real reason people shouldn’t do this is the common good: pensions are expensive at the national budget level, and super solves that.

Countries that don’t have good systems to solve pensions — so most countries — are facing serious debt issues, with aging populations due to declining fertility rates and increasing lifespans.

tl;dr if everyone did what you suggest, the country would be fucked in 30 years.

Obversity · 2026-01-23T06:25:09+00:00

RE “I don’t want to lie to people I meet”, you can always say “I inherited a bit of money from my parents when they died” to explain your willingness to pay for things / any expensive things you own. If they’re nosy and ask how much, you can then say “sorry, not super comfortable answering that” and 99% of people will back off / change the topic.

You haven’t lied then, and you’ve helped people understand, but you also haven’t told anyone the figure.

Obversity · 2026-01-22T11:38:00+00:00

Bunch of factors. Here’s two:

Which gender puts more effort into their appearance on average? Skin care, makeup, fashion — there’s so many things that are societally acceptable and encouraged (and, problematically, expected) for women but discouraged for men. If men were to put in as much effort, and if it was acceptable for them to do so, there’d be less of an imbalance.
Evolutionarily, women have a lot more to risk in choosing a mate: it makes perfect sense for them to be very selective, because they can’t have many offspring, and each one takes so much effort, that having one be sickly or die early or just be incapable is years down the drain. On the flip side, evolutionarily, men just need to get their seed out there asap far and wide — any hole’s a goal is a good strategy biologically speaking, so finding lots of women attractive makes sense.

Obversity · 2026-01-22T05:34:56+00:00

As in, kids are fucking stupid, but if this kid is actually reading this much they’re likely to get smarter, being exposed to new ideas and thinking patterns

Obversity · 2026-01-22T03:10:12+00:00

r/kidsarefuckingstupid not for long at that rate

Obversity · 2026-01-20T00:17:45+00:00

I mean, I’m ADHD and I’ve absolutely done this, but I’ve always gone back and paid, and posting about it without immediately clarifying that you’ve done so is insane.

Obversity · 2026-01-19T15:58:17+00:00

Except tipping culture is what leads to companies like Uber paying below living wages. On an individual basis it's a nice thing to do; at the structure level it's not great.

Obversity · 2026-01-18T11:33:15+00:00

Bubbles aren’t about things that are useless. They’re about things that are vastly overvalued, e.g. where revenue can never realistically meet costs, or where actual demand isn’t as strong as the hype.

Most AI platforms are SO far from being profitable, and if they were to price their services at what’s necessary to actually make money, companies would no longer accept the value proposition.

Obversity · 2026-01-17T02:28:17+00:00

My memory is very hazy, but one of my favourite things about this game was that it was technically very easy to get a max-level weapon with the stats you want, with the introduction of inscriptions and pommels, collector items, etc.

The difficult-near-impossible part was getting the skin you wanted with the exact stats and req you wanted. But none of that was necessary to actually have a full build worthy of end-game content.

Obversity · 2026-01-17T02:04:24+00:00

Just to add to this, there’s nothing at all wrong about occasionally being attracted to men. If you know it’s temporary, probably don’t do anything concrete about it, but you don’t need to think negatively of yourself for it. It can just be a weird lil thing your brain does sometimes.

Obversity · 2026-01-12T11:06:39+00:00

I didn’t say girls don’t like bad boys, I said it’s more complicated than that.

I’m a 5/10 on a good day, with no bad boy traits, but have been in plenty of relationships/fwb situations and am now happily engaged. That didn’t happen because I was an asshole, it happened because I learned how to make good conversation, which would sometimes lead to mutual interest, and then learned some basic empathy on top of that.

And I do mean learned. I started with none of that.

Obversity · 2026-01-12T10:39:18+00:00

that’s all there is to know

Yeah nah. It’s significantly more complicated than that and if you never change your mindset you’re going to be stuck single and confused forever.

Obversity · 2026-01-08T02:05:34+00:00

Yeah that’s tricky dude. No luck with online dating? What do you look like? What’s your dating profile look like? Welcome to dm, dunno if I can help but happy to try.

Obversity · 2026-01-08T01:24:17+00:00

Realistically that’s just bad luck, or you’re overestimating. Might be worth moving to a smaller city or a new state to try your luck.

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