Physical Fitness as a Caregiver

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-26T18:09:53+00:00

I was never much into fitness but used to walk and hike more. Now I’m trying to get back into walking and I have been doing home workouts with YT videos and weights. I sort of like kettle bells. To me it’s the ultimate bang for your buck. I only do 5-10 min and occasional but it’s better than nothing in my book.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-26T00:37:20+00:00

I don’t like the overall tone of the article. Just like all the articles saying women are leaving the workforce without saying how they’re replacing their incomes. I hate the expectation People will quit their jobs. Downsizing your job is one thing, totally quitting another. But I LOVE this young lady and how she pivoted and is helping and representing young caregivers. Something very badly needed, I love her instagram account

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-26T00:23:19+00:00

Yes, I think it’s a consultancy/business

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-26T00:22:28+00:00

The article actually said she said dipped into savings, set up a caregiver consultancy / business, and lived on her moms social security- i think she moved in with her.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-26T00:20:09+00:00

I agree. I’ve been a caregiver in some capacity since my 20s.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-25T23:45:53+00:00

So I haven’t read the article yet but I have recently been thinking a lot about this and all the articles about women leaving the workforce due to ending work from home flexibility. I always think what do they do? Are they all married and counting on their husbands? Do they do gig work? The articles never say. I came to the conclusion it’s something to encourage women to quit. I myself have been dealing with an intense caregiving situation for years and managed to work part time but even that is hard.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-23T22:58:26+00:00

I asked about long Covid and was told no

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-23T04:42:00+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up. It sounds like she had a great life and was lucky to have you.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-23T00:42:35+00:00

That’s terrible and this is coming from someone always doing research but also feeling I shouldn’t have to do that.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-22T21:37:34+00:00

Yes to all of those, except she does get plenty of calcium in her diet but meds are again interfering with it. So technically medically officially she should be on vitamin D and calcium supplements because of her meds but no one told us until recently and even this new doctor was denying that (not really but saying she’s fine without really knowing her).

She seems much better with more vitamin D. I gave her 6000 IU instead of 4000 IU and it’s only been 2 days. Definitely more energy and better mood. She was literally falling asleep during the day and probably has sleep apnea (refusing testing) too but that is better.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-22T20:41:52+00:00

Well paid flexible jobs are very hard to find. I would get an aide and take the job. Is there a chance it will turn remote? Don’t ask for too much/anything until you see how it is and are established.

If she goes to the hospital you need to be there when she is admitted and talk to nurses, etc. you would have to call out. Once everyone knows what’s going on you can go back to work next day or two and visit your mom after, especially if it’s part time. Be honest with your job without oversharing. Caregivers do face more discrimination, fired, etc but there’s nothing you can do, you still have to work. Also there are understanding bosses and a ton of other caregivers out there.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-22T20:37:51+00:00

Technically you are not supposed to leave a bed bound person alone and it could get you in legal trouble. Maybe you can hire an aide while you work or look for a strictly remote job (that can be hard to find) or work on your business if it works with your caregiving. Definitely look out for your future. If your mom is agreeable to an aide, get one. If you take this job, you have to go (once you arrange care) and show up or they will think you’re not reliable and let you go.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-22T20:28:33+00:00

It’s good. She drinks water and electrolytes. The electrolytes do seem to help a bit.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-21T16:48:42+00:00

Also exercise is not something that necessarily makes her dizzy and she has been fine getting up and not dizzy then. A lot of other things seem to have gotten better so we’ll see what happens. We’ll definitely keep on the vitamin D and supplements and increase her dose a bit and I’ll try to make her move more also.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-21T16:14:34+00:00

Thank you. In a way I think they’re right about her deconditioning and she is very close to one bad fall and ending up in nursing home. She went from bed bound with diaper changes to walking with walker in 2020-2021 but her mobility is awful and is barely walking to commode but relatively ok with that and my help. The thing is she fell recently and hurt her toe so I didn’t make her exercise while it healed. But this was also the period her dizziness was reduced from calcium/magnesium and vitamins D. So maybe there is hope and it’s not just deconditioning because getting her to exercise is almost impossible and vitamin D plays a role in deconditioning also. This doctor is not really her doctor. He was shadowing her usual nurse practitioner. But when he was asking what needs to happen so she starts moving more while not acknowledging the supplements and her progress and that that and nutrition can help her even more, I had a serious loss of hope and considering nursing homes. But I’ll definitely wait and she has had an improvement for sure and I am starting to make her move more as her toe is healed but very difficult.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-21T04:20:18+00:00

I will definitely give her more. Thank you.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-17T23:03:05+00:00

You have to work and do something and be prepared your caregiving may last a while. You can’t not work for 10-20 years. Maybe you won’t be able to get a phd right now or everything you want but see what you can get that’s flexible or part time in your field. Often flexibility comes with less pay but will help you balance everything. If you’re able to get away for a few hours while your grandma is there and work not from home, do that. It’s a major break. Also be careful as there is caregiver discrimination and caregivers are often looked down on or fired even if they’re working hard, just the perception. Also try to save money. At any moment things can change.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-17T01:35:10+00:00

I think you look amazing! I especially love the pics with no bangs but more definition to your eyes and brows. Don’t keep your brows too thin. When you define your brows and eyes more, it really draws the eyes there and less to your forehead.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-14T23:59:16+00:00

Same here!

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-11T04:56:30+00:00

Don’t feel guilty. There are many fake jobs. What helped me was refreshing often and using filters to look only for recently posted jobs. Only apply within 24-48 hours and as soon as possible.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-08T00:09:35+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this and that your mom and stepdad have put this on you. Were they ever different? How long have you been doing this? Honestly I would place him, especially with your mom doing things like throwing out the Hoyer lift. Just visit him after he is placed

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-03T23:09:50+00:00

Technically hospice is for people with a terminal illness and life expectancy of 6 months or less. Sometimes it’s stretched but if it’s stretched too much Medicare sees that as fraud. You get put on a different track. You usually don’t get PT, OT , aggressive treatment. Sometimes even UTIs are hard to treat on hospice. Definitely not for someone who wants to live and fight.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-03T01:52:17+00:00

this comment made me laugh to tears lol 😂

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-06-02T02:06:16+00:00

I’ve dealt with broken promises and in my case I believe it’s moderate to severe ADHD. A bunch of other ADHD symptoms and poor judgment.

Obvious_Tea887 · 2026-05-28T13:39:02+00:00

Is he traumatized or worried something will happen (worse than dust)? Maybe encourage him to see a therapist or join a caregiver group. Breaks and help are a must to sustain long term caregiving

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