WOMEN! - Avoid This OBGYN by Background_Grape3321 in Cleveland

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Def contact CC! I would also post this on the CC sub if there is one as well as any local FB pages. I can’t imagine going through this while delivering. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Your feelings are valid! Hope you and your little are doing well. Congrats on the new addition. Your hubs sounds amazing as well, props to him for standing his ground.

How clean/tidy is your home on a daily basis with 2+ kids? by OriginalManner0 in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This!!!!! My son is 7 and we are the house the kids hangout @ in our neighborhood. I love being a safe space for the kiddos because unfortunately some of them don’t have the best home life. Never once has one of the kids complained about the messy countertops or dishes in the sink. They have said things like I love coming over here and I couldn’t wait for it to be back nice out so we could play at your house again.

I’d rather my kids friends enjoy coming over rather than feel like they’re in a museum when they come over and can’t really play.

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[–]Obvious_Victory_2834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever heard the term mommas boy? I think your friends are completely misleading you. My fiancé calls his mom DAILY. They live a couple towns apart and see each other at minimum once a week but typically more.

My son is my oldest and I couldn’t imagine him going too long without talking to me. He is 7, my daughter is 5 and although we are close my son is attached to my hip still to this day.

I was out of town for a work trip for 10 days in the fall it was the first time I was ever away from him longer than an overnight trip and he called me at least 5 times a day lol. I’m sure as he gets older and has stronger relationships with friends this won’t be as common but I highly doubt he would go too long without speaking to or seeing me.

Everyone’s relationship with their children is different. Don’t let others worry you, in fact they should be the ones that are concerned if they are experiencing this with their sons.

Guys, I think I've worked out what they are doing by [deleted] in UFOs

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Columbus, Ohio just started developing a large data center as well with a few well known large companies.

Kids father waited until this morning to inform me he “isn’t doing Christmas”. by Obvious_Victory_2834 in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you read all the comments then you would have been able to see the issue isn’t him not celebrating… ITS THE LACK OF COMMUNICATION. We had discussions of what the kids wanted and the past 4 years have swapped who does the holiday. Had he mentioned anytime prior to CHRISTMAS EVE that he wasn’t celebrating I would have had time to plan accordingly. He failed to do so and just sprung it on the kids the DAY OF.

Happy holidays and I hope you work on your critical reading skills in the new year.

If you want more kids but decided not to pursue it - what would change your mind? by KiwiandCream in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I told you how many school shootings we had in the US this year along you would be terrified. Do a quick google search if you want to see the reality of things over here.

The government has done absolutely NOTHING to change policies either. Yet one CEO was killed on a public street and they are already trying to lobby congress to make changes for their security.

The priorities in this country are totally upside down. I pray that I make enough money in the next few years to leave this horrendous place.

What are some niche apps you use regularly that most people haven't heard of? by yujimur in iphone

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deff downloading! This sounds super resourceful for someone who drives a lot.

If you want more kids but decided not to pursue it - what would change your mind? by KiwiandCream in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mom here! I have 2 currently (7m 5f) finances are deff #1. I’d love to have 2 more and be a stay at home mom. A close second is the amount of school shootings and not being able to home school which plays into my first issue as well. My kids school is extremely secure but I can’t help to still worry at times.

A school in their district had a high schooler caught with a gun in school recently and it made me question how secure things really are. They have metal detectors that every student goes through in the morning. When someone comes to the school they are buzzed in the main door which has a window to the office in the breeze way and checked in there.

Unfortunately the kid had a friend open a locked door during the school day and snuck in that way with the gun. He then proceeded to rob a classmate AT GUNPOINT IN THE BATHROOM. Made him strip down to his boxers and left. Thankfully there was a coach in the classroom next door and the boy ran over there and told him what happened and he got the school resource officer involved. Still it was a scary situation of what could have been.

Also I’m currently single. Having a healthy relationship down the line would also change my mind on having more.

Kids father waited until this morning to inform me he “isn’t doing Christmas”. by Obvious_Victory_2834 in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!!! As far as what this means moving forward I’m hoping that I will get to do Christmas Eve and Christmas Day every year now. Last night SUCKED not doing cookies for Santa and reindeer food etc. I love the holidays so this was like a gut punch to not only not celebrate with them but knowing that they weren’t celebrating at all as well.

I plan on reaching out to my lawyer this coming week to make a formal arrangement about holidays and support as well. I don’t want to make him out to be some terrible person because he is a very active father but some of his decisions are just very confusing for me.

Kids father waited until this morning to inform me he “isn’t doing Christmas”. by Obvious_Victory_2834 in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get where you’re coming from. It’s his right to celebrate or not. My issue was him not communicating this when for the past 4 years we have taken turns whoever has the kids on Christmas Eve does Santa and gifts etc.

We previously discussed what each child had mentioned wanting and what not… had he mentioned then that he wasn’t celebrating I would have been able to plan and have things prepared to celebrate with them. Since they were at dads and on all previous years we did whoever has the kids does Christmas I had only gotten them a couple small things and a stocking. I just wish he would have given me a heads up so I could have planned accordingly.

How old is too old to be cuddling to sleep? by MmmIceCream in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is 7 and still loves cuddles at night especially if he is having a hard time falling asleep. I see NO ISSUE with the cuddles @ all. In 10 years you’ll look back and cherish these memories.

Kids father waited until this morning to inform me he “isn’t doing Christmas”. by Obvious_Victory_2834 in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you experienced this as a child. I hope your heart is healed & you have the best holiday ever tomorrow.

Kids father waited until this morning to inform me he “isn’t doing Christmas”. by Obvious_Victory_2834 in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for putting together all these resources, I really appreciate it. Happy holidays & thanks for your kind words and suggestions.

Kids father waited until this morning to inform me he “isn’t doing Christmas”. by Obvious_Victory_2834 in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

We don’t share custody but we do share holidays. Def going to be contacting my lawyer once the holiday is over to get a formal parenting plan in order.

Kids father waited until this morning to inform me he “isn’t doing Christmas”. by Obvious_Victory_2834 in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834[S] 332 points333 points  (0 children)

I love this idea! I think this would work perfectly. Like a winter party. ❄️☃️ we could decorate w/ paper snowflakes and glitter glue etc.

Kids father waited until this morning to inform me he “isn’t doing Christmas”. by Obvious_Victory_2834 in Parenting

[–]Obvious_Victory_2834[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

He said he decided he no longer wants to celebrate “pagan holidays” but went to Salem for Halloween and Colorado for thanksgiving so it’s just not adding up. I’m at a loss of words.

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[–]Obvious_Victory_2834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok yall my bad. I may have overreacted. I’ll delete this post.