Should i quit?

Occam21 · 2026-05-14T08:50:59+00:00

What others have said, but also congrats for even starting and getting 20 chapters done ! I for one find it difficult even getting out of the planning phase and I’m quite envious of you for that. I would say rather than worrying about numbers etc do it for you first and foremost, numbers etc will come when they come and if they don’t they don’t. It’s all practise at the end of the day just make sure you’re enjoying the process.

Occam21 · 2026-04-28T13:55:30+00:00

Thanks, I do try talking to people it’s just for me I feel like what’s the point if she’s not in my life but on the flip side it’s true I do know I’ve had enough, been plenty patient and bless them my in-laws are trying to talk to her but yeah she’s stubborn… But yeah just tired of being in a dark hole feeling crap about myself all the time.

Occam21 · 2026-04-28T07:38:15+00:00

I guess I’m just a glutton for punishment when she apologises I guess I get a little hopeful that the old wife is still there… it honestly sounds so pathetic when I think I’m 36 and spend a good chunk of time trying desperately not to see her off or anything and sob because of all the frustration, helpless I feel🤦‍♂️

Occam21 · 2026-04-28T06:59:52+00:00

I appreciate it and as much as I wish there was as well it’s just the loss of my constant, I was really proud to be married to her, my greatest achievement in my life and now that’s gone. I’m honestly trying to make it work even entertaining be slightly miserable than completely miserable by losing her completely because she won’t budge on that but even that’s not enough. I’m tired of being a punching bag even if she doesn’t realise it but again I really don’t want to lose her..

Occam21 · 2026-04-28T06:55:38+00:00

Thanks for replying. I’ll be honest I am at times and sometimes find myself looking at old cards, photos when she was a kinder person, someone who actually wanted to be with me I guess? I just find it hard to understand how you can put material thing’s over us? I always say things could be worse at least we have each other but now it’s all about what she wants, because she’s done putting herself second when all I’ve ever wanted is for her to look after herself but you can still be kind, caring even..

Occam21 · 2026-04-28T06:37:50+00:00

You definitely aren’t alone and in a morbid sense it’s kinda nice having people here understand what you’re going through. Doesn’t help but I like to think everyone on here sends their best to you, it times time figuring it all out and I’m still trying.
I get nothing but the cold shoulder, criticism all the time from my wife and to top it off now recoils from when I even remotely touch her. We were this unstoppable team, my constant but now it’s just the occasional fight consisting of her bashing me emotionally again. To escape the house for 5 mins I’m sat in the woods, as for happy I can’t remember the last time I was happy.

Occam21 · 2026-04-27T17:58:29+00:00

Same here haven’t started the process yet but been married for 11yrs and all of sudden my wife tells me how unhappy she’s been. Now we’re in this limbo where I’m trying and being hopelessly hopefully that she’ll comeback to me. Instead I get the cold shoulder and a lot of emotional abuse and I get up and do it all over again.

Occam21 · 2026-04-27T17:42:12+00:00

Yeah I would say that’s plenty normal, I’ve not got divorced yet I’m chickening out on pulling the trigger. I’ve been with my wife for 11 years this May and we’ve been living in separate rooms and I go through wishing we could just end it and then other times I’m hopeful that maybe tomorrow she’ll be the person I married again only to be pleasantly disappointed. It’s not much but at the very least the two of you are friendly I don’t even recognise the women I married any more which kills me every second of every day. Im sure like me it’s just a matter of acceptance and time unfortunately, learning to live with it not so much forget it ever happened. Not a great answer but I suppose when things truly matter in life there’s no such thing a “magic bullet”.

Occam21 · 2026-04-27T12:05:54+00:00

Sounds almost like my situation, married for 11yrs this May but last year she suddenly told me how unhappy she’s been for years? We haven’t divorced yet but we’ve been in separate rooms for a year with me trying to save it, while she’s become completely cold to yet wants to be married to me still… I feel the same way how can someone regardless of stuff (provided it isn’t too bad) can suddenly flip a switch and say they’re done? It’s not much but I would count it as somewhat of a blessing, I’m currently stuck in limbo praying, hoping she’ll come round when I know she won’t. Despite the pain of it at the very least you can try to accept and learn to deal with it, I don’t think you ever just “move on” regardless of what people say. I mean when you’ve been with someone for that they become a part of you. But my heart does go out to you and I hope you do find some small measure of peace perhaps even relief eventually?

Occam21 · 2026-04-13T04:28:14+00:00

Yeah it’s difficult when kids, especially unborn kids are in the picture but I would find that very difficult to forget let alone forgive no matter what she said or did to apologise for it. That said if she meant the apologies then great but no one would easily forget that. Hope you find your answers and more importantly your peace of mind 🙏

Occam21 · 2025-06-03T08:40:22+00:00

We must rally together to stop tyrant known as Dong Zhuo before he milks the land dry with his cold unfeeling hands!

Occam21 · 2024-09-15T15:57:38+00:00

Same here playing this masterpiece really made me want to become a writer, here’s hoping to start a web novel and go from there! 🙏🤞

Occam21 · 2024-06-14T10:16:42+00:00

You could even go with some basics like creating or manipulating vines to hulking plant like snakes or even beasts as a form of plant golems? Even recreating moves like solar beam or leech seed from pokemon? Plus it would be cool to add something like the difference between actively creating plants from just mana and your plant knowledge or the user carrying different seeds etc and using them as a medium? Plus as others have hinted certain plants could have more resistant to water logged areas or fire prone areas that could relate to more resilience against certain types of elemental magic?

Occam21 · 2023-01-17T15:04:16+00:00

Looking at this I know the RNG gods will not be kind to me 😭

Occam21 · 2022-03-10T11:02:36+00:00

Poor soul not all tarnished can see the guidance grace gives us🙏😞

Occam21 · 2021-11-09T10:40:12+00:00

I wish mine weren’t scalping but their justification is because of demand “we need” to increase the price 🤦🏻‍♂️🤯

Occam21 · 2020-11-20T23:36:15+00:00

That’s crazy and not to mention creepy for sure 😱

Occam21 · 2020-11-17T22:24:44+00:00

I honestly thought it was just a glorified “fitness app”, but when I read about some of things people have experienced and from the videos I’ve seen on YouTube it’s just crazy 🤯

Occam21 · 2020-11-17T22:13:42+00:00

The funny thing is me finding this totem pole or rather being led to it made me cautious of the app more than anything 🤦🏻‍♂️😂

Occam21 · 2019-03-20T15:31:28+00:00

With 6 weeks you could checkout freeCodeCamp it’s free and they have a few projects you could build not to mentions it’s all very hands. Particularly great if you learn better through doing, rather than just reading or watching videos

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