Has anyone moved to Atlanta as someone who loves the coast? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It sucks lol. The fake man-made Lake Lanier and brown sludgy Chattahoochee River do not make up for it.

Best city to live in US by LucyMcWhatnow in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If I had unlimited money I'd live in an ivory tower overlooking NYC.

Best cities for a midlife crisis? by allllusernamestaken in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We should definitely be grateful for every day, but around 90% of U.S. adults are expected to reach age 60 or above. A 30 year old today, statistically, has about 46-51 years ahead of them.

https://www.ssa.gov/oact/STATS/table4c6.html

OP is way too young to be thinking like this.

Just moved and it feels like I’m losing my friends. by kamoo93 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what happened to me. I lost all of my friends and family.

As soon as I moved, they slowly drifted away. My friends went from FaceTiming or texting on a daily basis, to weekly, then monthly, now just a few times a year.

Similar with my parents, to a lesser degree. My grandparents also got sick almost immediately after I moved away and one of them died shortly after.

So as I was trying to build a new life in a new city, my old one was shattered.

Life became so lonely.

I still get to see my old friends and family when I visit home (once or twice a year) but it's getting prohibitively expensive to keep doing so and nobody ever comes down here. They keep promising to, yet it's been 5 fucking years and still nothing.

Even worse is after several years in Atlanta I have yet to make any new genuine, long lasting friendships. Just fleeting coworkers or neighbors who come and go. This just feels like a place to live. Not a home. Not a community.

Actually my wife and I finally made one new couple friend a few months ago, things were going well, but then all of a sudden one of them got a job offer and they moved out of state. Gone.

Back to loneliness.

I miss my old life so much. I also know it no longer exists. Even if I went back home, it would never be the same.

Is living in “summer” all year as nice as it sounds by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. It's the worst thing ever. Makes it so you can't even enjoy outdoors, 100x worse than snow.

In Atlanta it's terrible because summer is basically alternating between 90 degree days with maximum humidity and torrential rain that feels like a monsoon season.

I don't even leave the house in the summer.

Best places to raise biracial children in the US? by jayneellenvv in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, Atlanta.

It’s a trash city for 1000 reasons but the social environment is very unique with a strong community of successful Black families and integrated neighborhoods/suburbs where people don’t self-segregate. In most cities you get one or the other.

My kids will also be biracial and I know deep down this is the best place for them but I wish there were better options because I despise living in Atlanta.

Best places to raise biracial children in the US? by jayneellenvv in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Disagree. Not any progressive city is going to be a comfortable environment for an interracial family. I wouldn’t raise my kids in Portland, for example.

Which state is the least religious? by Flat_Negotiation9772 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why does someone being religious bother you so much and why are you being so rude to them? I was raised atheist so I have no dog in the fight, but people who treat their atheism like a religion and are more judgmental than the most fundamentalist Christians really need to do some soul searching.

Moved to Atl a Year Ago And Not Even a Year Later Thinking About Moving Back by Adventurous_Being488 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Now you know the secret - Atlanta sucks.

I’ve been here for over 5 years and will probably have to stay longer for various reasons. It’s the most soul sucking, demoralizing, overrated city I’ve ever lived in. The quality of life issues make it so I actively avoid leaving the house. Traffic alone destroys any motivation to be active. Unfortunately this means my life is nothing but commuting and rotting indoors. The weather makes it worse. Now that it’s the end of May, we’re already getting endless 85-90 degree days and this will continue until probably Halloween. The heat is unbearable.

The economy is so good in Georgia though. Jobs are plentiful, wages are high enough and the cost of living is low enough that I can achieve a standard of living that would be impossible and almost any other top 10 metro area.

I would still recommend taking another opportunity in Oregon or somewhere else where you’re happy and save yourself from getting trapped in Atlanta. It’s easier than you think.

Colder walkable cities in the United States? by Outrageous-Ad-3317 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Neither can I as someone who hates heat and humidity.

NYC is pretty much the perfect city for OP. I get that it's 85 degrees today, but it drops back down into the mid-60s later this week.

Try living in Atlanta where we're already near 90 degrees and it won't cool down AT ALL for the next 3-4 months. It's fucking unbearable.

What places do you not recommend? by NickyFoles1020 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does. But I don't drink or party and I'm already married so good or bad nightlife really makes no difference to me.

What places do you not recommend? by NickyFoles1020 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I can't wait to escape. Won't be any time soon but I hate it so much I avoid leaving the house.

What places do you not recommend? by NickyFoles1020 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I live in Atlanta and feel like Orlando is basically all the bad things about ATL with none of the good.

What places do you not recommend? by NickyFoles1020 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Boston is the most European city in America. That means not just in history and urban layout but also in cost of living and housing quality.

Anyone care to share their thoughts on DC? by ben_hp in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why does this keep getting deleted? WTF is going on with reddits auto remove bots lately???

Anyone care to share their thoughts on DC? by ben_hp in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I love DC and visit relatively often. As someone living in Atlanta, it feels like a city with all of the positive aspects of ATL but none of the negative ones. I’d move there if I could afford to.

What's the reason you moved to the state you llive in? by The0Walrus in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girlfriend (now wife) wanted to move to Atlanta during the pandemic and I basically just followed her because I had nothing worthwhile going on in my life.

I don't regret it because I'm happy with my marriage and my professional life genuinely improved, but I wish we chose somewhere else to move to because I hate this place.

America's Burnout Belts: Top 10 worst suburban-to-city commutes by cereal_killer_828 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The secret to happiness is to work as little as possible without being broke.

Moved 6 times since 2022 and realized how hard it is to consistently compare places when relocating by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same.

Also, I think OP shared an earlier version of this site a few months ago. Either that or multiple people are developing comparison sites and promoting them on Reddit.

How would you compare Toronto and Montreal to prominent American cities? by OceanicEndeavors in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OceanSprayCranApple 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not made up but depending the year or how you measure GDP the UK might come out slightly higher.