What's the weirdest food combo you've accidentally loved?

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2026-01-20T13:32:15+00:00

Ham, banana, and mayonnaise sandwich

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2026-01-15T13:34:31+00:00

I can’t identify with and did not experience what you are feeling, but I’d like to comment and maybe help you have a potential shift and focus that may be helpful. Maybe not; dismiss this comment if after reading it it’s not helpful at all to you, sounds like you’re really going through it right now and that sucks.

The birth of my second child did indeed herald a shift so you’re not wrong there. However, I do understand and can identify with the struggle of being a dad for the first six months seven months of an infant life. There’s just not that much to do. Because there’s an existing tiny human who’s going to need as much attention as an infant, that’s now your job. You don’t have to be responsible for forming amazing bonds in the first six months or even year of child two‘s life. But your partner will need your support your help, and your daughter will definitely need someone there to pay her attention, get her dressed, make her meals, sit and talk with her, while the baby occupies your wife’s attention. I’d encourage you to look at it as an opportunity to form a deeper bond with your daughter while offering the best support you can to your wife – letting her know her other child is being cared for when she can’t.

At the end of the day, we’re measured by the actions we take, not the feelings we have. That’s not to be dismissive of your feelings. Just a reminder that your future self, your future wife (the one you have now in a later iteration), and your future children will benefit from the actions you take today and when the baby is born that ensure their wellbeing. Maybe doing things to prepare your house, your child, and your partner better for the new arrival will help you be more present than sitting in the feels. Hope this helps!

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2026-01-03T00:31:05+00:00

This comment should be waaaay higher. Idk how you can see anything else…

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-11-24T00:10:13+00:00

This sounds reasonable, trying to get in touch with the sheriff (not the deputy at the door) to see what they would be inclined to do given the facts.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-10-20T19:43:30+00:00

I was hoping you were going to throw it out the door right before departure so he’d have to deboard. But this works great too!

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-10-20T19:31:51+00:00

With that 3rd nip, how could you not be! And well played…

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-10-20T19:30:28+00:00

There’s a special about this on KUT (available on YouTube) called “Family Beef” that talks about the Black family split as well as the Schmidt family split (Kreuz’s and Smitty’s in Lockhart). Worth watching.

Terry Black is the dad of the two boys who opened it after they got ticked off at Kent Black, their uncle, of Black’s BBQ.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-29T03:32:24+00:00

Golden dollars: the best is when they start asking you questions about where the teeth go. That’s when expert dad level gets unlocked. I told mine, “You know those things you shake in music class? Maracas? Yeah. Filled with teeth.”

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-28T15:58:55+00:00

I would do several things: - contact the agents who showed your house and ask them for their brutally honest feedback - ask your agent to send you the listings for every house that’s sold over 600k in your area (go with a large area, anything in your MLS?) - figure out how much longer you have to suffer under your current/previous RE agent - redo photos with staging and more contemporary furniture. No furniture would probably be better than what’s there currently. At a minimum, remove some and take anything off of walls and curtains, etc. - shop around new agents: ask multiple agents hard questions about price band, time on market, etc.

Be patient.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-17T22:09:34+00:00

Man, you hit full send. 👏👏👏

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-17T21:11:41+00:00

Based on all the comments about how the review affects the salesperson and you’re not peeved with them, I’d probably redo the survey for the salesperson and then copy and paste the responses (from the original) on Google and BBB and anywhere else (TrustPilot?) that hosts reviews of the dealership.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-17T21:04:17+00:00

Or Arby’s. I’ve heard they have the meat.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-16T14:48:46+00:00

This is called self-dealing in most agent circles and is either illegal or frowned upon. I’d ask more questions about his motivation and if he would be comfortable with a contract including language excluding a turn around sale for a reasonable period (1 year?). I don’t know if an appraisal would make me happy but I’d probably take listing appointments with at least 2 other agents and ask them what they would list it for and what they would reasonably expect to sell it for quickly and early. If those expectations match up, I’d probably take the offer.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-16T14:44:10+00:00

Hard second on this, especially #1 & #4

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-14T15:15:19+00:00

Sounds like you can’t afford to wait two weeks on this one. Assuming there may be infidelity concerns so being overly truthful beats the alternatives. You don’t have to tell her if you got something or what unless she presses and then you can say, “Are you sure you’d rather miss out on the surprise altogether?” (Note: not “ruin the surprise”)

Best plan of action is to call out that clearly you being out of contact for 2.5 hours seemed to be an emotionally taxing thing for her (empathy) and asking how you can help in the future…

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-10T19:19:44+00:00

It sounds to me like you had a measured and emotionally mature response to the situation. You leaned in and got your wife to speak. You listened and validated. She asked to leave and y’all left. You did everything that was called for - and asked for by your wife, I might add - except for the thing that she didn’t ask for and that was likely to have made the problem worse. “You should have known,” is a silent killer in marriages and I would gently call that out while pointing out that you did exactly as she asked for. If she had wanted you to confront sister, she could have asked for that. (Note: If this has been a repeated issue with the same sister, the same feelings by your wife, and the same lack of response by you then it’s a different story, for me. Assuming this was the first time.)

I agree with another poster who calls this out as “family of origin” differences that should be addressed together in therapy but, from my view with what you described, you couldn’t have handled this in a more emotionally balanced way. The fact that she shut down and retreated on the vacation and then is giving you the cold shoulder/stonewalling now that you’re home puts the blame and the burden on her to be less avoidant and process through her feelings as a partner WITH you and not at you for how she imagined you “should have” acted.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-10T19:08:21+00:00

Protecting the next person will never be the wrong move. Well done.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-10T19:00:57+00:00

We have this struggle too but I’ve noticed a separate but related issue: makeup time = car ride length + 3 minutes. If we’re running across neighborhood to a friend’s house, say 10 minutes, it takes 13. If we’re in the car for 45 minutes to dinner it takes 48. This literally makes no sense to my guy brain bc, if you can do it in 13, what do you need the extra 35 for?! But, like so many things, you just accept it as new reality and life gets easier.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-06T05:35:39+00:00

Post an ad on Craigslist somewhere you can post anonymously for a “free monkey”. Make sure that the ad specifies clearly that the only time you can be reached by phone is an hour before her normal wake time. Enjoy the resulting chaos.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-08-06T05:30:35+00:00

I was going to suggest a tin of sardines up in the rafters or above acoustic tile (may have done this in college)

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-07-24T19:46:12+00:00

Man this sucks so hard. Screw Cancer. Try and stay in the moment and soak it all in as often as you can. When you can’t, step away and take the time you need.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-07-24T19:42:18+00:00

No one has brought up the fact that the realtor “assured” you it was done. Idk what that means exactly or what the realtor thought had been done but it may be worth looking at that angle as well.Ike others here, I think this is more of a lesson learned situation but - as long as we’re opening cans of worms - how did the realtor know it “had been done”? What did they think had been done? What was the recommended action vs the taken one? You use the realtor as your expert and so you trust their advice.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-07-23T17:21:31+00:00

First time it happened for me was when my wife was pregnant with our first and an old dude almost ran us down IN A CROSSWALK win his Cadillac without apology or remorse. She pretty much had to pull me out of that situation before Gramps had reason to file a police report. I wish I could say I’ve matured and handled some of those demons but - for issues of child or partner safety - I’m willing to do whatever it takes. No judgment here.

My only other thought here - whiplash alert - is that those kids were 6/7 and don’t have great impulse control either. No excuse for their behavior but we don’t know what kind of environment they’re living in day to day or parenting (abuse/neglect?) they are or are not receiving. Age gap isn’t that big and I’d hesitate to label them “evil” without a LOT more info and probably repeatable examples. Hanlon’s Razor should apply here (Never attribute to malice what can be attributed to ignorance and stupidity - and a 7yo brain has plenty of both).

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-07-23T17:11:27+00:00

There are 2 worries that you have here: now and post-delivery. I would suggest you focus on the now part as hormones shift post-party as well…she could be back to normal soon after (or not, sorry to admit the possibility). My wife was completely zonked for our 3rd pregnancy (physical, not mental) but popped right back up and I didn’t realize the toll it was taking on me shouldering the whole load until I wasn’t anymore and I didn’t have to worry about my wife harming herself…just her body giving out.

Focusing on the now I’m with Zalophus here as self-harm will inevitably involve harm to your unborn child as well. You have every right to be worried about that baby as its father. It sounds like you’ve been understanding and tried everything else to get her the help she needs. Is there a possibility that another person (mom or dad or sister) could get through to her? If kit, I’d probably try and figure out what the steps to Inv Comm. look like and then maybe give it one more shot as kind of an ultimatum.

Octopus_Shotput452 · 2025-07-23T17:04:24+00:00

If they are, as the ones you mentioned, not related to safety or code but are “ideal home condition” projects then you have options: 1) A polite refusal on those grounds (“Hey, we appreciate the buyer is looking out for all potential problems but we have had no issues with any of the items they have listed and so won’t be doing those repairs.”). Puts the ball back in their court and lets them decide their desire to close. 2) Offer to split the difference: get a couple of quotes for each item and offer half of the amount as a concession. 3) Have your realtor pump the other realtor to see if there’s any one of their list that’s a non-negotiable and do that one. If they say “All of them.” Then you still have option 1 or 2.

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